We’re getting married in 5 months…
Posted by Reluctant Bride in Spouse on May 24th, 2011 | 10 commentsI’ve cheated on you emotionally and physically several times over the last eight years.
I made out with my roommate and our mutual friend on a dare.
Remember when we broke up for several weeks? I made out with that guy I left you for before I asked you for a “break”. I only came back after he said nothing will happen between us.
I made out with our mutual friend. She said she wanted to make out with a girl, I obliged.
I had sex with a stranger one year ago. Felt really guilty about it and swore I would never do it again. Lied to your face when you asked if I had ever cheated on you.
A month ago while you were out of town, I almost slept with another guy. I let him touch me and I touched him. I’ve been texting him ever since. Tonight, I just now began to feel remorse about this.
We are getting married in October. Apparently, I’ve been looking for a way out ever since we’ve been together.
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Don’t let guys be the reason you do anything. If you are unhappy, don’t hurt him or yourself just break it off. Love yourself and it is ok to be alone sometimes
I agree. You clearly need some time to figure yourself out and it is unfair to you and to him that you are continuing in a relationship that is not working. Find yourself, be yourself, and love yourself. Being alone does not have to equal lonely.
I know how you feel. I am in committed relationship and oppten consider leaving. While I have never slept with anyone, I have done inappropriate things. I have no advise for you because I cant even advise myself. ONly thing I can offer is empathy. Good luck to you.
Just leave te relationship. Why make yourself more miserable and guilty and unfulfilled. Evidently, he’s not satisfying you and you need to find love / or whatever you’re looking for elsewhere. Why make yourself a liar by proceeding to a greater letdown? Cut it off quick and clean.
Hopefully you’re not marrying him for his money.
You are really hurting both your self as well as your fiance. Get out of the relationship if you don’t want to be in it. Another thing I don’t understand is how could you not be remorseful about your actions until tonight?
That’s really disgusting. You’re a ****! Why are you still with him? Let him go out and find a good woman, and you can go live in the dumpster with the rats, just like you deserve.
dude. that is so not cool.. she is here conessing something that is bothering her.. there is no need to be mean..thats what this place is about.. not to be judge and called an *******.. if she wanted someone to do that she would just tell her fiancee. if you dont like what she has to say then just move on to another post…
sweetheart i feel you. i ahve been doing the same thing but we got married right away and its been ten years.. i am thinking of leaving. if you are really doubting yourself dont do it… i went into my marriage thinking i could just get a divorce if i am not happy but its not that easy… good luck
dont feel obligated to get married!
I was going to say something long and profound until I read it the second time and absorbed your last lines. You should probably consider not getting married to this man simply because you sound like you don’t really like being with him. If you do marry him, you will (and should) continually give in to your sensual nature and you will have to learn to not feel guilty about it. Its probably the way you would be with almost any man, so why sweat it. Whatever you do while in a relationship, you should keep to yourself as your own secret. Men have the tendency to have their secrets, and we almost all do, so why not you?
I think you are just confused. Just think about him, if he does the same to you, and you found out then how would that make you feel…
I know it would be really difficult to come clean, If I were you, I would hold it in my heart and promise to never let myself into such situation OR call it off…
Look back and remember all the happy days you spent with him. If you can’t find anything or find things, but still cannot find the strength or desire to love him and continue the relationship, just leave. It’s probably the best thing to do. If you’re in that relationship for something that is not love, leave. If you find the experience helpful and decide to stay with him, commit that, don’t even try to cheat. If you’re thinking about cheating, remember those moments again.
I realize it’s November 2011, and you’re probably married now, but this is just a suggestion. If you’re happily married, stay with him. Don’t cheat, and try not to divorce him. If nothing works out, though, It’s better to leave, because he doesn’t have the right to make you unhappy for the rest of your life.
THINK WISELY