Wanting someone else
Posted by anonymous in Spouse on Nov 14th, 2008 | 10 commentsAbout five months ago, I reconnected with someone I had had a brief fling with 12 years ago on an online social network (not a dating site). We started IM’ing each other, soon on a daily basis. I am married, and did not reconnect with this man with then intention to cheat, but things have changed. My husband refuses to be intimate with me no matter what I do, and makes me feel like I am worthless on a daily basis. I cannot leave him because we have three children and I am a stay-at-home mom (the way he wanted it). Not to mention the fact that we have discussed divorce before, and he has stated on many occasions that no matter what happens, he will never let me go without a fight, even though he also admits that we are only still married for the kids.
I care about my husband, but I have a strong attraction to this other man, as he does for me. I am going to meet with him tommorow when my husband and kids go out of town, and I am so excited I can’t stand it, and I don’t feel guilty. My husband has brought this on himself. It’s been almost 9 years – I just need to know what it feels like to have someone who actually wants to be intimate with me again.
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I’d never say cheating was a good thing, but the way your husband’s treating you isn’t fair, and you know what they say, “the heart wants what it wants”. I just hope everything works out good for you, and wish you luck.
Hey make it seem like it’s your husband idea. Suggest that you become a hotwife while youre having sex.
I bet he will go for it, as long as there is something in it for him.
Maybe bring some skanky girlfriend and you both could fellate him as a tradeoff for you having your fling.
Can’t hurt to ask.
well I Know EXACTLY what ur sayin, except my childrens dad don’t treat me like crap but I just fon’t have those feelings for him anymore…
so i took interest in this other guy.. and I don’t feel bad at all. sometimes u gotta go for what YOU want. I know it’s about the kids, but they grow and leave the nest… what about your happiness ma am?
Do it, I don’t blame you… find someone that appreciates you!
do it, screw his brains out. moron should have done it while he had the chance.
IF your married and have any respect for yourself or your husband and vows, keep your legs together! Counceling maybe? My husband has been having an affair for 4 mos, I knew in my gut ut wanted them to have the balls to admit it! They finally did! I lived for him AND didn’t deserve it! I hate them BOTH! If they both died a HORRIBLE death tommorrow it would be a relief! I have NO MORE tears to shed due to the pain and humiliation they have/continue to put me through!
What makes you think he is not cheating on you? No man refuses to have sex unless they are already getting it else where.. Think about it.. I believe you both are doing more damage staying together for the sake of the kids then you are if you just left him. Kids are tougher then you think and they will get past the separation. Just don’t deny the man his rights to be with his children because it’s not about the children, it’s about you and him…
Never stay in it JUST for the kids…kids will eventually understand, otherwise they are going to grow up with a complex thinking that’s how a man is supposed to treat his wife. File for the divorce and enter yourself and the kids into family councling during and after the divorce. I’ve been the kid in this situation.
the persute of happiness is not a crime. If he is not making you happy, then find it. Once you find it though it is your responsibility to divorce him, to give him the freedom to persue HIS happiness.
What makes you think he is not cheating on you? No man refuses to have sex unless they are already getting it else where.. Think about it.. I believe you both are doing more damage staying together for the sake of the kids then you are if you just left him. Kids are tougher then you think and they will get past the separation. Just don’t deny the man his rights to be with his children because it’s not about the children, it’s about you and him…
I agree with this. If your husband is not gay, he might be getting sex somehwere else. you need to be more attentive to this. your husband might be having an OW & he’s geting more sex from her that’s why he refuses to do it with you. think about it.