RSSViolent
Everytime he and I fight, he gets more violent. I have no money and no where to go. He is in the military, I’m stuck in a foreign country.
I wish he would go to Iraq, but he probably won’t. I wish he’d go, and not come back until he was in a body bag.
I wish I’d not been stupid enough to marry him. He was so nice, calm… now he throws things and yells and calls me names and pushes me.
I’m sorry I wish he were dead but I do. I would be a big weight off my shoulder. I would never have to be frightened when I hear him enter the room, ever again.
Anonymous on November 2nd 2007 in Spouse
Anonymous said on 02 Nov 2007 at 8:49 pm # Quote
In abusive situations where you feel trapped these are common feelings. There are always many options not just the one or two that you see in front of you. Does he know you are scared- that you don’t feel safe or happy with him?
sipedon said on 03 Nov 2007 at 12:35 am # Quote
Contact your military ombudsman, she will help you. You can also go through your detachment family services office. They will protect your privacy and help you cope and maybe advise through the command that he needs counselling.
You are not the only one this happens to. Pushing and throwing things may just be the beginning. If you don’t know how to find your ombudsman, then ask another military wife….
Help is there, that is if you seriously want it…
Anon said on 03 Nov 2007 at 8:31 am # Quote
You are a military spouse in a foreign country, but you have access to "the system". His chain of command, the family service center and the relief society (for the flavor of his service) where they could provide you some escape funds.
Anonymous said on 03 Nov 2007 at 1:11 pm # Quote
you need to go and talk to his ist sergent they will provide help and he not know about it
Anonymous said on 04 Nov 2007 at 7:00 am # Quote
ASK for help and the System is open for you even if you are ilegally in the country !! Come on. Take the courage yourself and U won´t regret !!
Anonymous said on 04 Nov 2007 at 1:24 pm # Quote
i agree. go to his superior. go to get help. go now before you end up in a body bag, either physical or mental
Anonymous said on 05 Nov 2007 at 4:20 am # Quote
Try to gather some evidence. Take pictures of your bruises if you have any. Take pictures of holes he put in the wall. If he ever injured you and you saw a doctor for it, get a copy of the medical record. These things will be helpful to you when you talk to his superiors. Please get help before you wind up pregnant and in an even more vulnerable position.
angel said on 05 Dec 2007 at 1:55 pm # Quote
Please seek help with a superiour to him.
You can escape this cycle.You are not alone.
This should not be the end.But the beinging.
have faith and contact a local 1800 domestic abuse agency they provide shelter for abuse women.
peace
take charge said on 25 Feb 2008 at 3:15 am # Quote
listen i dont know you but NO WOMEN should take **** from any man NONE if you cant take plan a day or something pack whatever you need and JUST LEAVE you need to keep taking and taking you should FIGHT BACK for yourself at least before god forbids he ends up killing you or putting you in intensive care THINK ABOUT THAT BEFORE THINKING ABOUT HIM cause what hes doing to you isnt LOVE dont mistake to think thats what it is ITS NOT if he did love you hed know how better to to treat you GET OUT GET HELP!
Anon said on 03 Sep 2008 at 11:04 pm # Quote
Two words :
FAMILY
ADVOCACY
Go there. They will keep him away from you, and send you back home to wherever home is for free, along with all of your things, for free, okay? Get out before it gets worse.
Because it will only get worse.