She lies
Posted by Bubear50 in Spouse on Apr 11th, 2010 | 5 commentsAfter paying off all my wife’s credit cards to the tune of almost 25K. I recently found out that she got 2 more and racked up almost 5K in debt.
Instead of having the bills come here at home they were going to my daughters home (yeah her accomplish). And now that the minimum payments are more than she makes she comes clean and wants my help paying them off.
Frankly I don’t know what to do. I cannot stand a liar. I’m so mad I’m not even speaking to her unless its some sort of mutual concern. I’m also entertaining the thought of moving out. I hate all this crap!!!
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YES WE ALL HATE A LIAR BUT HOW LONG IS YOUVE BEEN MARRIED AND MMM YOU HAVENT PICKED UP ON HER BAD HABIT LOOK MY OPINION IS THIS IF YOU STILL LOVE YOU HELP HER IF IT HELPS YOU TO MOVE AWAY TO GIVE YOURSELF SOME DISTANCE BETWEEN YOU AND HER THINKING SPACE SO TO SPEAK THEN DO THAT BUT YOUR WIFE NEEDS SERIOUS COUNCILING SHE SHOULDNT BE ALONE WITH CREDIT CARDS MMM EVER WONDER WHY WORLDWIDE EVERYBODY LIKE HAVING THOSE PLASTIC CARDS ITS JUST BECAUSE ITS CREDIT YOU GET TO TAKE YOUR ITEM WITHOUT HAVING TO PAY FOR IT AT THE MOMENT FEELS GOOD NO FEELS FREE BUT AS THE PROBLEM GROWS THERE IS MORE CREDITING AND MORE CREDITING PROBLEM NEVER SEEMS TO STOP HEY HAVE YOU EVER PUT SOME THOUGHT INTO TRACKING WHAT SHE DOES WITH THE CARDS OR JUST HAVE THEM CLIPPED SEE TO IT SHE PAYS HALF AND IF YOU LIKE YOU PAY HALF AS WELL AND HER ACCOMPLISE SHOULD HELP OUT TOO RIGHT ITS ONLY FAIR SINCE SHE USED HER ADDRESS TO PRACTICALLY HIDE THE WHOLE THING AND SHE PROBABLY KNOWING WHATS GOING ON AND STILL SAYS OR DO NOTHING IT IS A LOT OF MONEY SO YOU GOT SOME THINKING TO DO
you know nobody reads all-cap posts, right?
Ok all that above I couldn’t read my dam self smh. Listen, you need to put your foot down because she is taking advantage of you. Catch a sucka bump his head. She knows that as long as she spend you r gonna pay. Are any of these cards in your name? If not let her ruin her credit and learn the hard way. Where is her responsibility in all this???????
Don’t let your marriage get destroyed because of money. Talk to your wife and do your best to make her understand how you feel, without seeming angry. If that doesn’t work then stop bailing her out. Just remember, it can always be worse. At least she is not sleeping with someone else.
This is so sad, I really feel for you. She needs to get help, I wonder why she is doing this? An addiction? Unhappy? Or was she a spoilt child? I’ve experience of an older woman who never stopped, it ended in divorce half the money going to debt and other money going to debt instead of child support, the children suffered. She carried on with little to show, renting, company car, I wonder what she bought? I couldn’t tell!
Another situation with more personal experience, a woman reached her early 20′s lost her house had nearly as much as the mortgage in other debts, again nothing to show ! No car etc etc Her mum bailed her out. Now present day she still has very little financial sense, again very little to show for a woman in her 30′s now. She was spoilt as a child and also very unstable, attempted suicide. But she has not got into debt again.
I worry your wife needs support but I suppose my point is it could go either way and she needs to regain your trust. Poor parenting or selfish reasons for doing this would make a difference to me! You can take the mature responsible role at least with her finances, it wouldn’t hurt if she got credit black listed anyway?
Good luck