PPD and Trust Issues

Posted by in Spouse on Apr 18th, 2011 | 3 comments

I recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. My husband I are head over heels in love with her. I am beyond grateful for this however I feel helpless and lost. I have no motivation to get out of bed lately. He does help around the house but I feel like garbage when the house is a mess and am behind on the laundry. He says he understands but I don’t think he does. I feel like a failure that I can’t keep up and have days where I feel like sleeping all day. His mother drives me crazy and even though she asks if I need help I refuse it. She is extremely judgemental and hypocritical and will just run to his brothers girlfriend to trashtalk me – which is why I refuse her offers to help. The other issue I have is the feeling my husband will go back to his ex. She bothered us in the beginning of our relationship and even though I made sure he put an end to it I eel his feelings for her are still there. I hate that she lived in this house before me and that he continued to speak to her after he started dating me. I resent him for being “nice” to her bc he felt sorry that she trusted nobody but him. I have no compassion for people like her that just walk out on a relationship for no reason other than being young and childish and then try to return after he moved on and then try to sabotage our relationship. :’(

3 Responses to “ “PPD and Trust Issues”

  1. anonymous says:
    April 21, 2011 at 11:56 pm

    i think it may be Postpartum depression (moderate to severe depression in a woman after she has given birth. It may occur soon after delivery or up to a year later. Most of the time, it occurs within the first 3 months after delivery.)

    http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medline.....007215.htm

    check this website out.it would be best to see a couselor

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  2. Sal says:
    April 24, 2011 at 12:09 am

    Get help. you are not taking care of yourself and your baby needs a mother who is mentally “OK”. You probably need medication and therapy too – to deal with your anxiety issues.

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  3. stacks says:
    April 27, 2011 at 11:52 am

    Please see your doctor – PPD is very very common and you are not alone. Having a baby is exhausting and was honestly the hardest time in my life. It does get better, but you may need a small dose of an antidepressant. There is nothing wrong with that.

    Do you have any friends who you could ask to come by and help you with housework or do your laundry? Have you tried meeting people through a local church? I found a couple of great new friends through church after I had my son, who helped me during the tough times.

    The first baby was the hardest for me. My son would not stop crying. That was so hard. My house was a mess too. It’s OK. Really. Just take care of yourself by getting enough sleep and eating good food. Try to get outside for walks with your baby, to get away from the mess. Take in the sunshine and fresh air. Talk with friends. You will make it through. {HUGS}

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