I am not attracted to my wife anymore. I barely was in the beginning. She is several years older than me, but I loved her personality initially and thought that would be enough. However, over the past couple years I can hardly stand being around her. I work m-f, 9-5 type job. I actually prefer when she works shifts in the evenings and on weekends so I can have time away from her. Our biggest fights are that we dont have sex. I just cant get turned on by her. When we have sex, I am relieved when its over and hope it buys me a couple days before we argue about it. I cannot bring myself to admit to her that I do not find her attractive. That would devestate her, although she brings it up frequently that she thinks I am not turned on by her. I am worried that if I stay, we will eventually get a divorce anyway and we both will have wasted more years of our lives. I also dont want to throw away our marriage if the attraction can be found again. Just not sure what to do, and I wanted to vent.