No longer attracted to spouse

Posted by in Spouse on Mar 17th, 2011 | 2 comments

We’ve tried and tried to recapture what we once felt but the attraction is gone. No amount of therapy or time alone can resolve this problem. I now realized that passion can’t just can’t be forced, just like it couldn’t be stifled when we first met.

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  1. A person says:
    March 19, 2011 at 11:52 am

    True love isn’t determined by the passion that you once had with your partner, but what comes after.

    “Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.” ~Louis de Bernieres

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  2. OnceTheSame says:
    May 10, 2011 at 1:56 am

    I was in the same shoe some years back. I would have left her, if it wasn’t for the children. Somehow, children gave me strength to hold on. Fate has it, I went through a very profound experience that changed my perspective of the world, and the marriage, and of her. And that changed me. I found my catalyst when I truly thought I’ve lost all hopes. Perhaps you’ll find yours soon.

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