My Husband Loves Money More Than Me
Posted by Sally-Anne in Spouse on Apr 16th, 2011 | 7 commentsMy husband only really cares about money. My eldest son died 3 years ago and still all my husband does is fight with me about money and never talks about the issues of our dead child. I am so angry with him at the moment, I wish I could hit him until his head bursts open. He is such a selfish bastard that only thinks of himself and doesn’t care what anyone else is going through. I have to get away from him, but what about our other children. i am so sick and tired of this sh*t!
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Hi – im so sorry for your loss – i have an 8 month old and couldn’t even fathom losing my child.. that being said, maybe this is your husbands way of grieving? everyone grieves in their own way, and some people’s are weird… i have the same situations with my husband although no where near the caliber of what you are dealing with – but there are times my husband will fight with me over the stupidest things – like really really petty stuff and i look at him like really? is that really whats bothering you or is it something deeper and you dont know how to acknowledge it… i could be completely wrong – he could be a cold hearted jerk off – im hoping not – b/c thats horrible given the situation – maybe you can go to counseling – maybe it would help your husband to open up – help both of you move on from your loss. and if the reality is is that he is a jerk well then move on – life is too short to be living in misery… mother’s always figure it out – whats best for the children – you’ll never let them go hungry.. i hope this helps
LEAVE him. He is a horrible man.
Please. Do yourself a favor.
did u sign a prenuptial agreement????
if not get a divorce and take half his s**t
and if u cant do that off the bak u can definitely sue him for money take the kids as collateral (CHILD SUPPORT!!!!!!!)
try being married to one who didn’t work and tried to live off of you. as least he loves your family enough to provide for you. perhaps the issue of your son hurts him and you need to find another way to let it out of him. i find it REALLY hard to talk about things that hurt me in front of others and they probably say the same thing about me. try to find his feelings and maybe he’ll open up and don’t take it personally. it’s not you, it’s him and possibly pain.
My husband loves money. He always throws it in my face on how he pays for everything. Now he may pay for the bills but I do everything around the house. I pay one bill and buy groceries. I recently got laid off and am looking for a job. I’ve always had a job. He has a very very good job and makes a lot of money, which he considers “his” I honestly feel like I’m a roommate and am sick of it!! He thinks cause he makes so much money and pays the bills that he doesn’t have to do anything else!! My house is falling apart, cause he doesn’t fix anything. I end up doing it, but the stuff I can’t do, I usually end up asking his uncle. I love him but just wish he could see that money isn’t everything ( sounds corny but true) I have told him that he’s going to end up loosing his family ( we have one teenage daughter)Believe me I could go on…till next time I need to vent.
If your husband considers the money he earns ‘his’, then you are right-you are not in a marriage. The very best thing you can do is leave this situation-for the sake of your teenage daughter who, by the way absorbs this atmosphere. This will ultimately affect her future relationships with men as she will seek out the same type as her father. I’ve seen it too many times. You need to show her a strong, capable woman with BOUNDARIES-sorry but he treats you this way cause he can!! He relys on your ‘Love” for him as the hook that keeps you and allows this pathetic charade to continue! What difference does it make to love someone if it tears you up constanly!! The world is full of people who can be loved-dont make that your criteria for hanging around!! I was told many years ago by a very wise woman that one must look at the man she is with and ask herself if I werent with this man is he so great that I would recommend him to my best friend. If the answer is ‘No’–then you have no business being there yourself! I take that one step further–Is this the kind of man I wish for my daughter? If no, Then get the hell out.
Watch the movie “The Joy Luck Club”. It shows how a woman can overcome being devalued by her man. We, as women include our moms and aunts and cousins and friends especially family in your case including your mother in law help out on this one. Watch the movie to see how 5 other women responded to men who only cared about money and devalued the wife. Know your value, and then it helps build confidence to confront him about his money obsession and tell him how you are still grieving about the lost child. He may be too and focusing all energy on everything but and not facing he is ignoring you and the rest of the family. Life and family is Precious and our time here is short.