My ex husband loved me better…
Posted by Anonymous in Spouse on Oct 7th, 2010 | 5 commentsI thought you loved me better then anyone else ever had. But lately I feel so forgotten and unloved. I am pregnant, and I know that you may feel weird sometimes about showing me affection because I have a baby in me, but come on! Its YOUR child that you put inside me! We used to have sex 3 times a week…then it went to once a week…now to never. This hurts me so badly, and makes me feel so insecure and unattractive. My ex husband could never get enough of me, even when we had a child together. He always wanted me, was always touching me. It was alot easier to feel pretty and good about myself when your so big with a baby when your spouse constantly wants you. I wish you felt like he did, I wish you treated me how he did. Always doting on me, talking about the baby, and how beautiful I was. I just feel so alone and ugly now with you. I find it hard to believe that you can go from having a sex drive to it becoming completely nonexsistent. When I try to initiate it, you just ignore me. And you dont even notice when I am laying next to you crying because of it. What happen to your feelings for me? Why cant you be a little more giving with your love now, especially when I am going through so many changes because I am having your baby?
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Hey there! I know exactly how you feel. I went through that last year in 2009. I went from sex everyday and it continued to gradually dwindle until it didn’t exist anymore. I think most men react like that and it is not by choice it is by nature, the same way by nature we need that reassurance that we are attractive, wanted and loved. Although there are men that don’t pull away, but they are very few. I don’t know how long you have, but try to hang in there. It will continue to depress you and that is not good for the baby. I know pregnancy makes our hormones wacky, and things like this make us cry even more. Try not to resent him because he is not tying to hurt you. Me and my husband are back to normal, and even better, but it took some time after the baby.
Hang in there. Try to get some books that talk about womans needs during this time and leave it in the bathroom (where most men get there reading done) and see if he catches on and reads it. Or just write to him since talking to him doesn’t get through to him. Your local hospital should also have some support groups for these types of things.
I wish you the best of luck. Try to enjoy your pregnancy cause your babies health is more important.
Omg, sister. Believe me, I have been where you are and I know it is a dark, dark place and I am so sorry!!
Maybe, in your case it will improve after you have the baby? But for me, it only got worse and my ex isolated himself from me and the baby. My kids are now in their late teens and I’ve kicked my ex out. Things are better now. I’m learning that no one else can make me happy but I also am learning that his issues are not my issues. He’s the one with the problem, not you.. Take care and I recommend counseling
never forget that you are smart and desirable, no matter how he acts. We males are often confused by emotions, and we arent all that smart to begin with.
rest assured that for every man like this that doesnt appreciate you, there are two who would treat you like the princess you are. dont let his stupidity depress you.
Just do a PM, pick ups on public websites are just nasty
I’m a lesbian, I seriously don’t understand how anyone could not love being with the mother of his child. I think pregnant women are so beautiful and sexy!