It Hurts

Posted by in Spouse on May 20th, 2011 | 3 comments

We got married when I was 19 and he was 17. We both have no parents, no guidance, no love. I was in college, lost and drowning in the scene. He was back in our hometown, going in a different direction. We met like young people do and we fell in love. This is what sustained us in the beginning, our love and infatuation with one another. 6 years later our love has turned into a ball and chain that we use to abuse each other with, hurling it violently back and forth until the love is bruised beyond recognition and turns to hate. The hate makes us spit venomous words at each other in front of the baby. He uses her, he uses me, while i try to maintain my sanity. God help us please.

3 Responses to “ “It Hurts”

  1. leelee says:
    May 20, 2011 at 7:50 pm

    im sorry youre having such a hard time here, you know you do deserve so much better. you didnt mention kids, why dont you leave? theres no shame in cutting your losses. dont let him take away the rest of your life, you sound like a brave, intelligent, capable young woman. good luck, and may you find peace

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  2. Anonymous says:
    May 21, 2011 at 12:03 am

    leelee- we have one daughter who is 4 in October. She is confused and I try to shield her as much as possible. We had a huge blow-up yesterday and are now separated. I want to make this separation the last one. Thanks for the kind words they helped.

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  3. SpecialNeeds says:
    May 23, 2011 at 9:32 am

    Counseling can help if you’re both willing, honestly. It’s called the 7 year lull (or itch) for a reason. Everyone who gets married goes through it. The trick is to get through it without cheating on each other. If you cheat on each other, it’s as good as over.

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