i’m confused
Posted by anonymous in Spouse on Jun 25th, 2010 | 4 commentsi’m so confused and tensed about my relationshp with my husband and his family. my husband himself is a nice person and i think he loves me but i don’t know y i’m not too sure if he really loves me or he just pretending to love me. i don’t understand what is going inside of me rite now, when ever he is with his family he is a different person, he will lie to me and then later i will find out that oh he knew about this thing and he never told me or lied to me, or sometimes his family would say something and he would start fighting with me but when he is alone with me he would show me as he loves me the most…
i’m a good looking girl but he would never praise me i’m just 22 years old and i feel like my life is over and i fell like i wanna die. i have a son with him and he is only a year old. i’m all by myself and have to take care of him my son and my husband’s whole family but still his mom would find a way to feed him with the stupid thoughts. he wouldn’t come and start fighting with me but i can feel it from the way he would start reacting!
i’m the only one cleaning, cooking, taking care of the baby ad i have no friends no family and noone i can share what i have in my heart.. i feel like crying rite now! i’m confuused if he is the rite person for me.. i sometimes think that he only wants sex from me nothing else and i’m a useless peice of shit staying in his house.. i’m tired of being a mom, i am tired of being a wife, i’m done with all this hatred that i have got….!
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I’m a little confused about the above. Do you live with his family? What things does he lie to you about? If his lies go along the line of “I really liked your lasagne last night”, then it’s nothing to really get your knickers in a twist. If his lies sound like “I’m working late tonight” and then you find out he’s been screwing your friend’s dog, then yea, you have every right to be seriously F-ed off.
I think the main problem here is you are feeling undermined by his family. If you do live with them, your problem is ‘Each family has one (1) dominant female lead. We’re very territorial, especially in our own homes. Unfortunately, their home, their rules. Perhaps you should think about getting your own place? Your castle, your rules.
Also, you’re only 22. How old is the father of your child? 22 is very young to be a parent but that doesn’t mean your not good at what you do (I’m not implying otherwise)I’m simply implying you both have so much time to grow emotionally. I’m sure your husband loves you very much – what you need to do, is sit him down and explain,rationally, that you’re not happy and you feel like you’re not getting the respect you deserve. Men are not mind readers and the odds are, he has no idea you’re so unhappy.
Maybe you should start making some time for yourself (either on your own or as a couple, leaving the baby with the grandparents – afterall, isn’t that what they are for)? You could go for walks, go for dinner, join a gym/book club/dancing lessons etc. Something that recognises you as a human as opposed to a ‘mum/wife’
Life is all about balance. Find it.
it sounds to me like you’re with a very immature man. sounds to me like he does whatever his family tells him to. if you stay you’ll be putting up with his and his family’s BS for a long time, it’s unfortunate but he sounds like a mama’s boy to me
Leave!!! because it will only get worse and you and your child will be miseable. Life is to short to be unhappy.
Omg sounds like me! But I have a 6 monold daughter. I moved out a month ago