i am in love with my husbands brother….
Posted by anonymous in Spouse on Feb 5th, 2010 | 7 commentsmy husband and i had our 1st daughter when we were young…. we did the responsible thing… we got married..bought a home..started a family and a life…
i have given up everything.. college..career… friends.. everything because my daughter means more to me than anything ever….
you however,didnt give anything up.. you got worse.. you kept partying…you stayed out all night.. you never came home… you didnt know anything about she or i….
at this point we have been married for 8 yrs…. we have now a second daughter… who also means more to me than anything else.. for our daughters sake i have stayed this long….
your brother and i are in love..real love…
~he kisses me on the forehead always, bc he wants to
*i ask you to,, you ask why and get annoyed
~he wants me all the time. and makes me feel AMAZING about ME!!
*you .. i have to remind you to kiss me ..even after not seeing you in 3 months .(he travels alot for “work”). and we never have sex because i can completely throw myself at you..and you find a reason we cant have sex..yet you blame it on me later.
~he calls me all day long because he misses me and WANTS to talk to me
*i have to remind you to call me ..you have to write it on your hand to remember to call me..and when we do talk it is for 5 minutes then you always have to go for some reason or another
~he brings me flowers and buys me sweet little nothings all the time for no other reason, but he loves me and was thinking of me…
*i havent gotten a gift from you for my birthday ,valentines day, christmas.. nothing.. let alone no reason.. in 8 years…
~he pays attention to the girls, and loves them.
*you are too busy to pay attention to them.(and that hurts me worse than knowing you dont love me anymore)
i could go on and on… but, to make a long story short….
your brother has loved me for 5 years.. and i am scared to lose him… but, i cant bring myself to leave you..because even though the feelings are clearly, not reciprocated, i still love you..
but, i am also in love with your brother..
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Pfft. Leave him.
Women like you annoy me. You have something that brilliant, and something that is rubbish. So you cling to the rubbish and refuse to allow the good man to move on with a woman that will love only him.
What is wrong with you?
the obvious answer go after what you want. Leave him, and go for the brother. Get married be happy. But then again I understand you , for I have been with the a guy I do not love for a year and do not find it in my heart to be fair to him and tell him the truth. Your problem is that you actually love the right guy so I do not know what is wrong with you.
Kav, what is wrong with you? Did you not read all that was just said. Her husband pays her no mind and could care less about her and the kids where as the brother-in-law does all of that and has been for 5 years.
Anonymous, I say its time to end the marriage. Life is too short to be holding on to something that is no longer there. It takes two people to make a marriage successful. I wouldnt be surprised if your husband is cheating on you. Especially if he travels a lot as you say. especially if he doesnt even want sex when he is home. No man refuses sex from a women unless they being distracted by another. Remember that!
AS for the kids, dont stay just for the sake of them. I dont believe in staying committed in marriage just for the sake of the kids. Kids will move on and be ok and if he doesnt have much of realationship with them now then being divorced really isnt going to affect them any more then what they all ready see and feel. Move on!
I meant to add at the end of my comment to Kev, How is that a brilliant situation?
Man talk about a can of totally messed up crap.
Stop tricking yourself. You really want your husband to just love you…appreciate you…breathe you. This “In love with brother” is an excuse to write this confession. You just need to confess that you need courage to speak up–create some movement and type of something to hhelp express your neglect but not a brother thing.
LEAVE for you…seperate from negativity so you can see straight! Because if you love brother all that much, you can easily love ex-hubby if you decide to choose your brother…then what??? Especially if ex-hubby comes around and tries to sweep you off your feet??? Will you take him back…oh wait, but you might be prego with brother’s kid. All I’m saying is just date if you leave hubby, before commiting on this fantasy brother. Plus a brother that can betray blood can betray his wife. It seems to me that he’s taking advantage!
On second thought. You think you and your husband & your brother in law would be open to a 3some???