feelings for stepdaughter
Posted by tksimply in Spouse on Sep 13th, 2008 | 9 commentsI have been around my stepdaughter since the day she was born. My wife for the last 5 or so years has been addicted to pain pills and she is unbearable at time to say the least. My wife is very dishonest most of the time and marriage is like a private hell.
Anyway I love her daughter very much and if I was to file for divorce she would be gone. So I live with the hell.
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The best thing you could do is next time this happens, wake up and yell really loud, “What are you doing? You need to get your parents involved as soon as possible. You’re brother obviously needs some psychological help, and it’s better to get this now before it leads to something worse for you or another person.
Remember, you’re doing this not only to help yourself out of this situation but also to help your brother out, too.
man you are sick, she could be your daugther for all i care….. leave your private heal if you feel so pls do it some were easl
How did that even came about sleeping with your step daughter. despite the conditions her mother is in do not give you the right to sleep with her daughter.You took a vow from sickness to health,why don’t try getting all possible help for your wife instead of watching her kill herself. Your not a good husband and you need to cut off all attachment from your step daughter and focuse on your wife. you know why she give u hell bcuz she probably already know your sleeping with her daughter which make her take more pills. Ashame on her daughter she have no heart. karma is a bitch!!
Addicts have a hard time with the telling the truth, even to themselves. Truth is reality and reality is what drug addicts are trying to escape at least that was the way it was for me when I used. Your wife is more than likely is both mentally and physically addicted to the pain killers, especially after 5 years. She’ll need professional help to get off them. As for your step-daughter, does her bio-father have any kind of visitation? If you need to leave the marriage, you can always go to court and ask for visitation rights; if her bio-father is out of the picture, you could probably ask for joint custody. You’ve been a parent to this girl her whole life. The courts will take that into consideration.
You should tell her that you have feelings for her daughter. So that she could take measures to protect her from you.
It’s the best thing to do. You’ll start liking other things once you get her daughter out of your life.
1st things first , try get wife the help she needs , if it has become inpossable for you to cope { an no matter what others say re in sickness and health , We all can only take so much } then appl for custady or stepdaughter { I gather there tis no sexual side as nothing tis mentioned } @ least till wife hits bottom n starts to climb back
Breathtaker
Sorry, this isn’t a comment on the confessions. It’s a comment on another comment.
First of all, where the hell did you get the idea the he was sleeping with his step-daughter? Jesus Christ! People can’t even read properly and just start jumping to conclusions with no evidence. Don’t make false assumptions and bitch at people because you think it’s right. All he said was that he has FEELINGS for his daughter. Get your facts straight before blabbing your ******* mouth of yours.
Then there’s the first comment. I’m not even sure if that comment is on the right confession or he misread. Yet again, this guy never mentioned a brother with psychological problems.
I agree… he never said he was sleeping with his daughter he just said he loves her and he doesn’t want to divorce his wife because he would lose his step daughter. these people need to learn how to read before venting their frustration.
I suggest applying for joint custody with the biofather, or the grand parents. You have been in her life long enough to prove to the courts that you are a good influance in your step daughters life.
Good Luck
It’s interesting to me how much of a double standard this is. If a woman posted this people would say she’s like a mother to the girl, and when a man says it its, oh he wants to sleep with her. GROW UP! He needs advice not judgment. I would try and get your wife some help, for two reasons, 1. If you love her, and I would completely understand if you do not, she def. needs help with her addiction, maybe you could hold an intervention, like the tv show, but a private one, and 2. If you try and get her help and want to divorce later, or she does not accept the help or goes back to drugs, it will make you look muuch better if you would like to file for joint custody. I would surmise that she, your stepdaughter loves you just as much as you love her, so she’ll probably speak up at any custody hearings you may want to hold in the future. Above all, be there for your daughter as much as possible, and let her know you’re right behind her every step of the way, and get a good lawyer if need be. There is a clear bias in the court system towards mothers, and especially since you do not share her DNA, even though you love her like your own. Good luck and she’s very lucky to have one supportive parent in her life.