double life
Posted by anon in Spouse on May 12th, 2009 | 20 commentsI have been cheating on my spouse for almost 17 years with my girlfriend, her cousin- I have 2 children,now grown, with my wife and stayed with her for them as the love in our relationship left long ago-I have also been “dad ” to my girlfriends daughters, also grown, since they were small and I am the only father they have known-over the years,I split my time between the two families, but I have always favored my girlfriend and my daughters and I spend less time with my wife and kids and more with my girlfriend and my daughters.I have always felt that my girlfriend and I were meant to be together, and I need to finally make the break as my girlfriend wants me to finally divorce so we can get married..
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any one in thislife lives life in more than one way/ there’s nothing wrong with it if yur g/f wants to marry you may be u are not doing enough to keep her happy the way she is & she wants to move up i dont feel is a good idea rest yr choice lucky man cheers
Damn & I thought I had problems… Leave your wife or what is she going to be or have nothing without you? Follow your heart.
will what you are doing is really wrong if i was you i would be really ashamed what you did has no name…..
wow..none of the previous comments made any sense. anyways. u must do what makes you happy. but just know that what you have done and are going to do is horrible. why did you wait so long to finally leave your wife? if you always knew your marriage was a mistake then you should have left her a long time ago. you must have some kind of feelings for your wife? so just think of how she will feel when she finds out the truth. that you have a family with her cousin and have been unfaithful in every way for 17 years. that she was never the woman who you truly loved and desired. that could make someone crazy. perhaps… since you were greedy for the last two decades, maybe just stop thinking of yourself and think about her.. sometimes you have to make sacrifices…
This sounds like it could destroy two families if you let it continue. Do what feels rigt – it sounds to me that you need to leave your wife and be with your girlfriend (if that is what she wants). Do it nicely – remember, your wife is the innocent one here (and all the children of course). Make yourself happy before it is too late.
What you were doing IS wrong. But now that it’s done how do you correct it. You need to be a good father to children from both mothers and you don’t want them to be from broken homes. In Islam, situations like these are cleared out with marrying both. And it ensures that you treat both wives/families equally. Even a smile to one wife, must be given to the other! If you feel you cannot treat both of them equally, then maybe it is best to divorce one. It’s better to divorce than deceive. As well, it’s better to have two wives than deceive. Of course, this advice may not fit your culture. But I thought it was interesting how Islam has a solution for everything!
And when you tell the wife you want a divorce she’s gonna take everything you’ve got, and then some, you won’t even have a hard on to offer your gf, hahaha.
I appreciate the comments-since I revealed my confession I have decided to leave my wife and kids and move in with my girlfriend so we can eventually get married.. her daughters are overjoyed, and even though they are 29 and 30, they cant wait for me to be in a position to adopt them and officially be their Dad…
Thanks for the comments;my girlfriend and my two daughters helped me move my things out from my marital home yesterday-my wife and kids are very angry,but in the long run it will be better for everyone.. now I can get my divorce in the future and marry my girlfriend and legally adopt my daughters..life will go on…
17 years? AND her cousin to boot!!! And she doesn’t know!!!!!! I have to hand it to you, You are if anything crafty and slick. But the truth is depending how you decide to play it out it could get really ugly and it will tear this family apart.
If it were me I would set the wife up with a friend and this way the divorce would be at least tolerable for her. And then eventually hook up with the cousin.
But then it all depends on how long you want to live like this. Good luck
You are a sick, selfish dirtball! And so is your wife’s cousin. I hope you both are miserable!
does ur wife know? how could she not know??
How could you do this to her?
If you’re not happy with her then leave her! You can’t have them both. Stop being so selfish.
I can’t believe you.
Wow, I love how others’ comments are about what “feels right”, how about what IS right? 17 years a good woman gave you everything and all you can repay her with is this betrayal? I have NO sympathy for you, at least give her her fair share in court.
Seriously, I don’t know how you live like this for so long. I feel really bad for your wife. She’s the innocent one and she gets left with nothing! If I were you, I’d give all assets to her. You should be left with nothing in the divorce since you betrayed her with her own blood cousin. You are a sick person and should be ashamed for leading this on for 17 years…
Both you and her cousin are sick and dirty bastards. I’m NOT sorry to say this at all. Imagine all the hurt and pain she is going through. You probably don’t even care! You should have done her the favor of leaving her so she can move on and find a BETTER man who could love her fully instead of wasting her time with you. BASTARD!
Marie, I get your point but both my wife and I will be much happier now-I have found out since moving out that she had beenseeing someone else as well..
That’s great your wife is been seeing someone else, hopefully he is a beautifull person who can heal
17 years of betrayal..Your children with her? Priceless.. Getting your gf and daughter to move ur stuff out of the house? Shamefull! A slap in the face! Should have treaded more carefully 17 years ago, now you have destroyed people for your selfish desires. Hope it all works out for everybody else but you!
Dude, if yo make decisions the way you write, you’re doomed anyway.
Mike,
you will be better off if you stop referring to the writer as “Dude”
Your kids are so gonna hate you in the long run! I hope your girlfriend and her family and you die in a car crash or sumthing