Cheating on my husband with a suicidal lover
Posted by STRESSED in Spouse on May 14th, 2010 | 10 commentsI started cheating on my husband 6 months ago with a man a met at a club where i work. Sex with this man is just so great and my husband does not fulfill me like i want. Several times i considered leaving my husband for this man who tells me that he is head over heals in love with me but just never brought myself to doing it. My husband is a good man and father and i do not want to loose that either. I feel extremely guilty for what i’m doing and this is just taking up way too much of my energy and time for me to continue having a good relationship with my husband. My lover gets so jelouse of other clients at work and everytime he goes to the club to see me i cannot relax and work because he is looking at every move i make. He will even text me late at night saying he knows i haven’t called him because i’m “making love to my husband.” I just cant take it anymore. So, several times i have tried to leave my lover and he will start crying and pleading me not to leave him and insinuating that he will kill himself if i leave him. He says that i am the center of his world and that he does not want and will not live without me. If he was to do something to himself because of me i would just hate myself for the rest of my life. I can’t leave him, I’m stuck, I don’t know what to do. I love both of them but I had chosen to stay with my husband. So now i’m thinking of leaving my husband again because i feel like i will never be able to get rid of my lover and know i need to end my relationship with one of them before the stress kills me.
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don’t leave ur husband.
You will regret it forever.
sex is not suppose to be ur life and it seems like the only good thing about your lover is the sex.
there is always way to spicin up ur sex life with ur husband. do it in the car or even somewhere u know yall aren’t suppose to be doing it. take risks. but do NOT leave ur husband.
your lover sounds like he has the potential to kill you and himself. The only way to get out of the relationship is to come clean about it to your husband so that the two of you can move before your lover kills you,himself and maybe even your husband. The things he is saying are not healthy and are warning signs of possible dangerous and deadly behavior.
LOLOLOLOL This is a train wreak waiting to happen. And the funny part of all this is that its gonna explode in your face. On the practical side lets say you leave your husband..how long do you think it will be before you cheat AGAIN!!!!!
You are on the path of destroying your family and marriage and all for a pointless roll in the sack. You are so stupid!!!! I hope you will be happy to take away and destroy your childrens joy and the trust of all those people who once loved and were happy to have you around. So dumb and sad!!!
if this guy will be the “other man” now when you’re married how do you know he wouldn’t cheat on you?
to stressed..i can see why you feel so stressed. you are emotionally involved as well as physically with two men at the same time and our bodies minds or spirits cant handle so much involvement that requires so much of your attention all at one time. maybe you need to take a breather, step away from the situation that is causing you so much stress. in this case since you are married it would be time away from your lover. let him know all of this is causing you a lot of stress detrimental to your health and if he cares about you he will grant you this. that way you can refocus and regain your perspectives. stepping away is the first thing you should do. then after you have gained some clarity in your mind, start considering all the things you consider important to you and in a relationship. perhaps make a list of all the good things and all the bad things you have with your spouse to help you in better understanding how you feel, and be honest with yourself. if the good outweighs the bad, then an honest attempt in resolving your issues in your marriage would be your next step. all in all continue keeping yourself the main focus in all of this, what you really think is best for you. look at all your options or alternatives, and think of each of its outcomes if you do each one. if you need more help at this point seek a professional for counseling, being honest there and with yourself of what it is you really want. good luck to you.
to bubear50..this is a place where people want to openly speak about the problem they are having. keep your judgements to yourself, no one wants to hear what you have to say if what you have to say is so judgemental. adding guilt is not a solution and name calling thats just childish. but some honest advice without those are appreciated.
Apparently, when men know that a woman is married or a lesbian, they commit suicide. Same thing when their wife is having an affair. Men cannot deal with rejection and wives’ affairs properly. They go insane. Men are ultra sensitive here. Anything you do with another guy, they’ll threaten suicide.
Tell your husband, get away from the lover before he kills you and himself.
i do feel so so sorry for you.actualy i have done the same thing 2 years ago but since october 2010 i decided to stop it. my lover dont want to. the worst thing is that he is married and has 3 kids.also they are family friends and my hubby and his wife dont know wots going on. my guilt is killing me and that why i want all this to stop. my lover threatens me that he will tell everyone the truth if we dont do sex. he says to me ”if we have sex 1 more time then we will be friends and forget everything”. i dont trust him coz he may ask me againg on and on. i dont want to do it. i want to stay with my hubby and my kids. am starting to be scared of my lover, also starting to hate him. i just wanted to know how did u deal with this situation? i am so scared and regret eveything i have done. i hope u have sorted this by now
i hope everything is ok now
it happened to me too. now my lover is demanding either have sex with him again or he will tell to everyone. he is married with 3 kids and they are our family friends. i said to him that i want to stop this since october 2010 but he wont let go of me. i want to be with my kids and hubby and i regret everything i done. now i am so scared of him and starting to hate him. i hope you have solved this situation by now but can you give me some advice wot shall i do plz?