Cheated on my husband

For years, my husband had been on a roller coaster when it came to the ways he treated me and my family. There were some days where he would be the sweetest man on earth; but other – darker – days where he would “accidentally” grab me a little too hard, pull me into a kiss a little too roughly, or even put his hands around my neck when he lost his cool. He has even hit one of our children once when he got angry that they tried to eat something they shouldn’t have. Mostly, he would just feed the kids, brush their teeth, and lay around playing video games all day. I’m the breadwinner in the family – he’s a stay-at-home dad. I wanted it to be that way until we moved back to the United States.

When I come home, I end up doing a lot of the house work. I admit the place becomes pretty trashy since I hardly have time to do the “work” after getting home from work. It gets tiring. Slowly, my interest in him has been fading. Slowly, I see others out there who can more easily spark a flame back onto my dying candle. I love my husband, but only as a friend now.

Now, this new man… I’ve known him for four years already. He, in fact, works with me. It wasn’t until recently that we had noticed each other’s occasional glance of appreciation at how attractive the other is. One day, I confess to him that I had been wanting to touch him in less-than-appropriate ways for awhile. He simply replied, “Same here.”

We did things. Lots of things. We kissed. I felt fire. Fire that I hadn’t felt since my first kiss all those years ago. We touched. I ran my hand through his soft hair. I felt electricity through my body, something I never felt with my husband. Eventually we made love. It was amazing. He wasn’t larger than my husband, but he was more loving, more caring, more passionate.

I feel terrible for this.

4 thoughts on “Cheated on my husband

  1. Love is dangerous, you can feel the flames ignite around you, but you soon know that it will burn down everything else. I advise you to follow your heart, because life is too short and you only live once, right? Do what’s best for you, even if it may sound so f*cking selfish, but you might want to consider what’s best for your kids aswell, I’m sure. I pray that this new man is good with kids, and that I wish the best of luck on your decision. This probably doesn’t help, but I like to think that it did.
    Take care

  2. Love is dangerous, you can feel the flames ignite around you, but you soon know that it will burn down everything else. I advise you to follow your heart, because life is too short and you only live once, right? Do what’s best for you, even if it may sound so f*cking selfish, but you might want to consider what’s best for your kids aswell, I’m sure. I pray that this new man is good with kids, and that I wish the best of luck on your decision. This probably doesn’t help, but I like to think that it did.
    Take care

  3. From the way you described your husband, he sounds like a control freak who has serious anger management issues… Excuse me! Hitting a child for eating something?.. and put his hands around your neck! You mean, domestic violence honey! That’s not normal… Sometimes… we may be okay with the notion of a stay at home husband/dad… it can also work, but only if both work TOGETHER to make it work and share the tasks… but, that’s not the case here! Nearly all women prefer to be pampered… to be taken care of… but here… you are having to take care of everything. He could atleast have catered to the household chores… but… that’s not the case. So I can understand why you no longer love him as your husband. He did not give you what you long for… what you desire… that’s why you kept getting drawn to that man… but, now, it’s high time to clear this mess. No need to feel terrible. You are at fault… but your husband is even more at fault. Since you have kids, it would be better to communicate. Have a serious talk with your husband. Do not tell him about what happened with your colleague… but about your marriage… what you expect from him… he should shoulder his responsibilities. You cannot be both the bread winner and the housewife. Try to find a middle ground which will suit both of you. If he refuses to cooperate, well… you are an independent and financially secure woman. You know what you have to do. You are a human being and you deserve to be happy! All the best love!

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