And now I’m on Zoloft…
Posted by anonymous in Spouse on Nov 5th, 2008 | 8 commentsOK so over 2 years ago I found my husband was cheating with me from some tramp at his job. Of course he denied it so I gave him the oppurtuinity to rectify the situation since we had a daughter who had just turned 1 together. About a month later the guy ,she had a daughter with, stated they were still seeing each other. So I pulled phone records, and to my dismay I found out her ex was telling the truth, they were in fact still talking about 2 hours a day at various times not to mention the fact that they still worked together. Naturally I left went to stay with my mom.
On several occasions the ex and I would try to rekindle something but all to often I would find out he was still with her. He sit’s there and tells me she crazy and dillusional and that she and him are not in a relationship, he never wants to be in one with her, etc. lies lies lies because our divorce just went through a couple of weeks together and low and behold he’s living with the skank now, and her daughter who is only 3 weeks older than my daughter. And now my daughter is trying to say her daughter is her sister.
I have such hate and disgust for this girl that I constantly have dreams that I torture and kill her. I yelled at my own daughter yesterday when she said this girl was her sister, which I feel bad about because I know it’s not her fault, but it tears me up inside. I’ve even started telling my daughter that this girl is the wicked witch from enchanted, and while she sleeps I talk to her and tell her to hate the other woman. I feel like a crazy person, I don’t want to hurt my daughter but I want to hurt the other woman and my ex so bad I can taste it, I know everybody tells me karma will take it’s toll but honestly I don’t see karma getting even for destroying my daughter and my life, he’s living his new hunky dorey life, it’s like he just traded us in completely.
At this point I so want to take my daughter change our names and forget he ever existed!
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Please don’t do anything hateful, please love your daughter and don’t teach her to hate. You have to work through your angst and protect your daughter at ALL COSTS from this. His other child is as innocent as yours, remember she didn’t ask to be brought to this world under these circumstances. Your ex is a horrible person but karma is a bitch and she will get him; you need to move on slowly and get out of the anger; it will only destroy you. Trust me, I’ve been where you are so I feel your pain in my own skin, it is the worse but remember that we will survive and become better people. He DOES NOT deserve your suffering and your child deserves a beautiful life with a happy mom that loves her and teaches her to be a wonderful woman. Good luck.
Seek psychological help now! It is not right for you to have these kind of thoughts. The worst part is, that you are doing your own daughter a really bad favor!
Seek help, everybody needs it
If you hate him so much you shouldn’t have divorced him so all of you will live a miserable life and hate each other. I’m being sarcastic. Seriously now that you have divorced him you have to live your life not just for you but also your child. You can’t dwell on your hate for your ex because it will prevent you from finding happiness. Don’t give your disrespectful ex the power to make your life miserable. Make that your revenge to him that you are able to live a happy life your relationship with him failed. Good luck.
I feel that it’s okay to have these feelings, but it is dangerous to ACT upon these feelings as you are doing. Please get some therapy so you and your daughter can go and lead contented and happy lives.
Damn!!! are we a little angry?
Look the only reason you are pissed is because you didn’t have the last word, Its that simple.
The question you need to ask is what did YOU do to drive him into that other womans arms??? Men are pretty simple creatures and are driven away for one of 2-3 reasons.
Usually it involves food sex or bitching.
Take him for granted and treat him like the baby sitter, serve up cold food rationed sex (or get grossly fat in which case he doesn’t WANT to have sex with you)and supply him with a constant stream of bitching, he is GONE!!!!!!!!!
Now in all likelihood that baby IS her sister so get over it and let her bond with her sister.
It also seems to me that you are pissed because you think he is happy now and youre not. Guess what….HE IS!!!!!!!
You don’t have to like her but like it or not she is involved in your life as you are in hers, so grow up!
If you really want to get even Let it go and stop caring (he/she who cares less wins).
And finally every time you feel the need to torment him take him to court for a rise in child support payments.
His life won’t seem so pleasant to him……Trust me!
[quote comment="2717"]The question you need to ask is what did YOU do to drive him into that other womans arms???![/quote]
I absolutely love the fact that you guys you know you neanderthal type men, always blame the woman for the cheating man. Oh yeah that was sarcasm. It would have nothing to do with the fact that he is a 34 year old man who still wants to live the hay day of high school. He still wants to party and do drugs even though he has the responsibilties of a family. Not saying the biweekly outing isn’t called for but really who can drink every night and still lead productive lives? And instead of acting his age he becomes involved with a 21 year old tramp who doesn’t want him to grow up.
**** Off Tony, you typical nasty ass prick.
He was a jerk. But I dont think its safe to tell your daughter to hate them. you should just make her forgot about it by just not talking about it and she will forget about them and hate them on her own when shes older rather than you telling her to hate them cause she will eventually try to find out for herself by visiting them in the future.
although your husband was an ass i have to say what you are doing to your child is ABUSIVE. If it ever got out in any way that you were saying these negative things to your child I can guarantee you you will lose custoty of your daughter.
It’s called parental alienation and it’s real.
I went through a situation where my husband’s ex wife attempted to destroy any relationship he had with anyone (I met him 2 years after his divorce was finalized) I had 2 children he had 1. We got married 2 years after we met, at that time his ex got so jealous she did what you did to her son and eventually lost all parental rights- it was hell for everyone, but mostly for her son. Please reconsider and think before you act. You are destroying your little girl. I’ve learned one thing in life- the sweeter and more encouraging you are, the better things turn out for you. You will come across as the bigger and better person.