Who’d Have Thought?
Posted by Nothing New in Sex on Nov 6th, 2010 | 8 commentsMy lover hasn’t touched me in months, I didn’t complain. I didn’t seek out anyone else. But last night it happened.
I cheated on you. I’m sorry, but I’ll never tell you.
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Sexual abandonment can cause things like this to happen.
I feel you. Really, I do. If the opportunity presented itself (not that I am looking for it), I would probably do the same as you did.
I mentioned it to my lover many times, so I feel that makes me entitled.
But cheating is never okay. Still. I feel for you. And I hope you enjoyed yourself, because after months of lacking, you got something every normal person needed…And I don’t feel there’s anything wrong with THAT..
Just saying :)
I don’t blame you. But leave, it will be better for you
sounds like you shoulda complained.
Either of two possibilities. Your ‘lover’ who hasn’t engaged in normal relations with you is suffering from a sexual disfunctional problem, or, he has realized his sexual preferences do not include you anymore. This could be because he’s found another female, or, male. Either way, you should find out which.
Communicate………..
dont keep it a secret if thats what you needed, you didnt give your partner a fair chance.
it’s not your fault, and i know now you say you will never tell your partner, but in time you will. and in time they will probably be able to forgive you and move on. i wish you luck.
You shouldn’t expect anyone to feel sorry for you if your living in sin. Find a decent guy and get married, then God can show you what you need to do be happy.
my mom cheated on my dad 18 years ago, i was 11, i hated her for it, i mean i loved her but i wass hurt and mad, so much that i chose to stay with my dad while my sisters stayed with mom… well, after years of a bad relationship with her and me bringing up her betrayal, she broke down crying and told me my dad hadnt touched her in 6 months and even before that he’d make love to her once every 3 months or so and even then he wouldnt care enough to please her, now, my dad is a great guy, he just grew up with the mentality that sex is not that important in a a marriage, when all this happened my mom was 30, he was 32, so she liked him and loved him, but he didnt, My mom was and still is the kind of woman so beautiful that its a wondera guy, even a good looking guy, could get to her, my dad was handsome but my mom was a knock out and some other guy noticed what my father was blind to.When she told me that, i inmediately forgave her, i held her, i imagined the sadness, the loneliness and rejected feelings she must have had, and being so young, you know?… i was like 20 when she told me, and after that whenever we have mentioned it i have told her i understand and really have nothing against her, i kind of asked my dad and he said they viewed marriage in a different way, well my mom has been married to a great man for 15 years and i am happy that she is happy andin a way i know if she hadnt had that affair she would have ended killing herself, i remember she was so so depressed, i just didnt know why, and now that i know, i think thats the way she went about it and survived her loneliness. Now i just have one goal, I make sure my wife never feels rejected, I never turn er down for sex, I compliment her everyday, I touch her, kiss her and enjoy her even when I am tired and I make sure she feels how much I like her and want her and love her, its not that i dont want her to cheat on me, of course it matters but at the end thats her personal decision, if she ever wants to do it all the attention in the world wont stop her, but i know, and she tells me she needs no one else… but what really moves me to be that way to her is that i dont ever want her to feel alone and unwanted like my mother did, that breaks my heart and thats why i make sure she doesnt ever feel anything like that.