so confused
Posted by confusedgirl. in Sex on Oct 3rd, 2010 | 12 commentsi’m 19 years old, and i’m straight. one of my close friends who i met this year is 23 and she’s a lesbian. i’ve always been attracted to guys but lately i find myself attracted to her. she’s not good looking or anything, but i love her personality, and i think i’m partly attracted to the fact that she’s a lesbian and i can possibly explore. even if i was a lesbian or bi or whatever, i could never come out.. i care too much about what people think.
i love flirting with my lesbian friend, she probably doesnt see it as flirting because she sees me as a younger sister that type of thing. she always says im cute but as in little kid cute, not sexy. just hugging her makes me feel so good. i get excited when she gives me pet names like darling and babe etc. i LOVE it when she finishes texts with love you xx
latley shes been talking to me about how much shes in love with one of her co workers (also a lesbian) and how shes gonna confess her feelings to her.. i ask questions because im intrigued, i’m also kindof jealous…
i’ve thought about kissing her but thats as far as i’d go, i couldn’t do anyting sexual… please help what should i do?
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You should treat you friend with respect. Not use her for your entertainment and begin to realize that your not “straight” You have feelings for a woman. As you age and grow, explore it and don’t suppress it, Good luck
Be totally honest with her about your feelings and then let her decide if she wants to go further. But just make sure she knows you are only interested in kissing and nothing more.
I came out as a bisexual at age 18, I am now 24. I knew what I was at age 12-14. You sound like you’re very uncomfortable with your own sexuality as you say you’d kiss her but go no farther.
Don’t use your friend as your experiment…that’s just cruel. If you want to explore go to a club..there are plenty of cute girls that will pull a Katy Perry when drunk.
I agree with the above statements. It can be really challenging to be with someone who is not sure of their sexuality (as a person who is out and fine with being out).
“be true to yourself” should be your key phrase. If you feel you can open a dialogue with this person, do so. Too many people walk around later in life pondering should I have, what if…., etc. Sometimes it’s just worth looking in the mirror and asking “Who am I?” One of the most difficult things to do is to trust a friend with this type of discussion. Every once in a while there is a leak in the dike (spelled dike) and the leak goes to a flood of information around the community. If you trust this person, talk. If not, don’t. Determine who you are first…
Perhaps just take baby steps.
Tell your friend that you’re confused, and curious. Talk to her about things you’re feeling.
But using her as an experiment will be bad, just as bad as bottling this all up inside.
From personal experience..
I think you should tell her that you *may* have feelings for her.. the worst she could say was that she had no intrest in you.. Im 17 and my girlfriend is 20.. but we’ve been together for a few years. We started talking as friends.. then she found a girl, whom she really liked. I wasn’t completely sure on my sexuality, so I just held my tounge and hoped it wouldnt work out. She and I are so much alike, its like we think the same. So there came a day that I was sure that I wanted her. and I told her.. It was harder than I thought.. but I managed to tell her. She told me how she’s been attracted to me from the first day that we spoke, then as the days went on.. the closer we grew, and the deeper we fell. I WAS doubting, and I told her that.. but she was understanding (she knew she liked girls.. I wasnt positive)she stood around and waited for me to make sure. We’ve never rushed into things, and here we are now.. Approaching our 3 years :)
We used to be like sister aswell.. and if you are truely that close, and you tell her that you may be attracted to her, but things dont work out like they should.. then you should be able to remain friends with her.
But my advice is to tell her, and explain to her your feelings to her. You never know.. you might just find out that she’s the love of your life <3
Maybe you are just feeling an attraction to her because she “gets” you as a person and friend. She is not that attractive physically, so she is safe. You could have lesbian tendencies or you could be bi (I am a lesbian and don’t quite get the whold bi thing, just be here friend and see where it goes. Make no advances unless you are prepared to loose your friend. Loosing her could be the ultimate along with gaining her as a “partner”
thankyou everyone! i wouldn’t want to use her as my experiment girl, you’re right. she means too much
girl if you kiss her you gone let her eat that poo poo…just go with your heart
Wow, I can’t believe you said that you could never come out because you care about what other people think. You make it seem like being gay is a bad thing. Do you even respect your friend or is this one of those things that middle school and high school girls do and act like lesbians so guys pay attention to them? You have a lot of growing up to do and you need to stop acting like a child. If you can kiss a girl, you can do other things. Still can’t get over that comment. WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! Grow up
Wake up before it’s to late !!
God destroyed 2 cities Sodom and Gomorroh because of homosexuality.
Whats missing in your life that you have time to mess with this shit!!