sexually attracted to my Co-worker
Posted by megan in Sex on Jan 27th, 2010 | 10 commentsI have been married for 7 years to a wonderfull man and provider to our 3year old son. Sex can be good but doesn’t last very long and I’m still left wanting more. He has little imagination and reluctant to try new things. Yes I do have toys, but they are getting old. For the past 3 weeks I’ve been having intense sexual fantcies for another co-worker. We have shared stories of our sexual history, and what I have learned from him, that he was able to make girls squirt. I was facinated by that fact. And since then I haven’t been able to stop fantasizing about him. I know nothing will EVER happen between us. we just get along really well and that’s all there is. I just have to deal with these fantacies and sexual frustrations by myself.
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Yeah and I can hit home runs in the majors. Doing and saying that you can are 2 totally different things.
It sounds to me like you are itching for an excuse to sharpen some other dude’s pencil. His prematureness is easily fixable. Also lay it all out. After all aren’t you two married to each other?
TALK!!!!!! Thats the only way youre gonna fix things
We did talk. Like so many times before for the past 7 years it’s like a broken record already. Last night I did admit to fantacizing about other men. And the idea of cheating has crossed my mind. I know he wouldn’t take that very well, but I was hoping that he could take that as a hint and shapen up his act. But he just got defensive and angry, even offended. This is why I edit. when I tell him what’s literally on my mind he gets upset and then we argue. I do love my husband and I do want that passion alive in our relationship but it feels like I am alone on that part. When there is opportunity for us to have alone time he choses to go drinking with the guys when I’m sitting there lookin ready for him.( Wow this is getting long! I’m so sorry!) In short, he tells me he loves me so much! But then refuses my advances. Like he did last night. After that I just went numb.in the end he says he is sorry and promises to be more romantic.I cannot count how many times I’ve heard that. Sorry this went on so long but I appreciate your comment.
Personally I can put a woman into a three day coma with my tongue – and for the record a man might not be able to make a woman squirt sister it’s the woman who determines if she can.
I hate women like you a bunch of ******* bullshit if your husband came to you and said that he was thinking of laying his tube snake to another woman you’d flip shit and lose it yet when you “lay the cards out on the table” you can’t understand why he got pissed off?
Grow the **** up – if you’re not happy with your marriage leave.
dont do it this guy is full of shit hes playing u like a fiddel justwaiting 4 u 2 **** then he will not need u try. telling him u get yeast infection quit offten then c how much he changes dont let him know yuor lying then u will c hes just an ******* tell your husband what u want he,ll do it trust me.
all you gotta do is show a woman your ****, and suddenly she finds all sorts of things wrong with her husband and finds a reason for having an afair.
don’t give your co worker too much credit. Like someone already said, the ability to squirt is dictated by the womans physical make up. If you have had orgasms already don’t expect a waterfall bc this guy could do it to someone else..
anyway, instead of blaming each other all the time focus your energy on making life better. If you husband needs a new approach just TELL him exactly what to do that you find arousing. People can’t be mind readers and bad attitudes don’t fix anything. Your husband probably gave up on the idea of being romantic bc he thinks he’s not good at it.. Maybe if you treat him how you fantasize about being treated he will return the favor! You two should be each others best teachers.
sorry if I came off harsh you sound like a very endearing, respectable person. I wish you well.
Thank you phil for your advice :) and that you did not come off harsh at all. But I do understand what you are saying. I just got caught up in the whole “awwwh” of it all and I was coming from a desperate and frustrating situation with my husband. There is so much more to my story but I’m not about to write a book about it. Honestly, I just wanted to confess something I could never tell anyone else I knew but keeping it to myself was just driving me nuts.I did consider going to confession, but I was afraid the priest would reach thru that mesh window and choke me.Lol. Anyway, I do smack myself over the head and ask myself why him? My husband is so much better looking! My husband is not bad in bed, I just need more “creativity” I know I should do more on my part as well and TELL him what I want. Funny thing, I did some resarch on the internet on how to “do that” and I told my husband to give it a try. It was nice,but I don’t think it was suppose to leave me in pain afterwards. but he gets and “A” for trying but anyway :). Anyhoo, thanks again for your comment and for not sounding like an insensitive ass as in other previous comments above. I just need a better perspective on things.
Just wanted to add a correction..I was totally off base about the squirt thing. I did some reading and it appears that almost all females are capable. Some people can trigger it easier than others, but it seems to be based on simulation of the G-spot area. The amount of debate on the existence of G-spots and female ejaculation is enough to make someone crazy!
Anyway, I am hopeful that you can improve your sex life with the person you have chosen as a soul mate. It will just take a lot of mental and physical preparation on both parts.
There is definitely some type of rub on stuff to make your hubby last longer.. I have no idea what its called but I’m sure with a bit of research you can find it.
I was married for many years, sex became scarce and conditional. I had many, many fantasies about co-workers, and finally acted out on one. The sex was great, and I didn’t want to let go. It cost me my marriage. If I learned one thing, monogomy is overrated and nearly impossible for our species. The relationship I am in now is open, while neither one of us our swingers, screwing someone else is not a deal breaker.
Being a guy who has been in a similar marriage as yours I can tell you some views from my experience. A lot of times your ideal way of presenting yourself to seduce or attract him might not be the thing that tickles his fancy. Try to find out what really turns him on. It could be something weird and a little tabboo at times. See if you can do that. For example, I’m turned on by women wearing sexy boots. After finding myself eying every other woman wearing one of those, I bought my wife a pair of my choice and she was so glad to dress up in those for me. In fact, she makes it a part of our bedroom play at times and our sex life just got so much better.
Sorry I went off on my experience, but my point is that you need to find out what really turns him on and by that I mean the kind of thing that would drive him to fantasize in private. If you can find that and act on it, you will have his interest for sure.
As for your pleasures, don’t complain but instead line up your desired activity (like cunni…., fingering, etc) to fit somehow into his fantasy. Maybe you could offer him to try your toys on you. Men love those sort of things.