My big brother
Posted by Belles in Sex on May 30th, 2010 | 48 commentsOkay, so I know I’m a coward. I cant tell people face to face, so I go to the internet instead. I’ll try and keep this short. I love my brother more than anything in this entire world. He is the best big brother that anyone could ever wish for. He has always been there for me, we’ve always been close. I am 15 years old, he is 18. We have the same mother, but different dads. We live with my dad and our mom. I dont even know how to put it, but he’s gorgeous. Everyone thinks so too. He brings home so many girls, its insane. He’s got these hazel/green eyes and tan skin. He surfs all the time, so he has a great body too. He’s got curly hair. He has one of the most beautiful smiles, you couldnt even imagine. He smells soooo good to. Do you know where Im going with this? Once I came home early, I thought no one was home. I could hear my brother and one of his girlfriends having sex, through his door. It bothered me, I was jealous. I was jealous of his girlfriend. It was the first time I felt like that towards one of his girls. It scared me. I feel an attraction for my brother. My brother has always hated ALL of the guys I like, and I like that. I like his attention. Dating isnt the same, no other guys compare to him. My feelings are becoming more intense, I’m afraid I’ll act on my feelings, and I’m afraid he’ll notice. I distance myself away from him, and I can tell he thinks I’m mad at him. I can’t be around him when Im thinking of ripping his clothes off every time I see him. I dont know whats wrong with me. What if he feels the same way? I doubt it. What do I do? Im scared, but I want him so bad.
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go seek professional help. theres something not right going on here
maybe you should try thinking of someone else that way. thats what helped me. if you wanna talk about it in private we can on msn. i sort of went through the same thing.
THIS IS NOT HEALTHY
I acted upon the same things, made me feel scared, insecure, ashamed, secretive. But also REALLY good when we were TOGETHER. It’s better if you don’t act on it. Because eventually you WILL lose your brother. Try and be an admirable person and just hold your secret to your heart. Love him more and guide him to a woman that will be ALMOST as perfect for him as you would be. And let him do the same for you.
I actually watched a documentary that aired in Boston a few years ago about this very topic, I wish I could remember the name of it because it was fascinating. I was completely shocked at how much more this happens then I ever thought. There were several couples who are also bother/sister from around the world being interviewed about how they are in love and at some point admitted it to each other and decided to become a couple. To my shock, they were all educated, intelligent people and seemed to be very happy. I have no idea how you should sort out your feelings, but be aware that acting on your feelings may cause irreversible damage to your family. You should do an internet search and try to find others in your situation so you don’t feel so alone.
I agree with Anonymous sweetie. Professional Help. And what is he doing bringing girls home anyway so disrespectful of his and your parents house.
Definitely seek help! This has the potention to harm your entire family, dont’ confuss admiration with lust.
http://www.loveisrespect.org/
I agree.
Perhaps at 15 years old you should put it down to hormones…most teenagers would hump a tree if the wind blew in the right direction. Give yourself time and you will look back on this moment with raised eyebrows and disbelief.
I agree with S most teenagers will hump a tree if it could give them the attention. your 15 you should be concentrating on school and a life not your brother, i know alot of kids think grown ups say that school is the most important thing just because, but now, i realize after so many mistakes, that life is full of them, but finishing school was the biggest one i ever did.
get professional help, sweetie. really im sure your beautiful and alot of good guys will want you too, but get older first okay? A good motto that came from my grandfather. “If you cant take care of a baby you should not be doing the action that causes one.”
I’ve read erotic stories on literotica.com about this kind of scenario. There’s a specific writer who goes by the name of youbadboy on there, he has a collection of stories that I found, well, interesting to say the least, and a few deal with this situation. Of course, these stories are fictitious, so I have no idea what an incestuous relationship or simply the feelings for your brother would actually play out. I don’t even know if recommending the stories is helpful or will just fuel the fire, but maybe they can kind of fill the void, you know, allow you to find a release that won’t ruin your relationship or the family?
your an idiot! yeah fuel the fire people like you are sick and shouldnt be giving any advice your only making things worse filling your mind with filth wont make things better she should be putting this out of her mind and coming to terms with the fact that it is wrong! advising a CHILD to pornagraphic reading material is sick obviously your not a parent (I hope not) I came to this website thinking it was like postsecret boy was I wrong
Wow pro help u guys r harsh. Everybody can try to sit on their pedestal and say they’ve never been attracted to someone thay shouldn’t have been. U can’t help being physically attracted to someone-its purely physical. And of course he’s someone u look up to and know will always b there for u siblings have a strong bond. Your just gettin hung up because of your stage in life and the “naughty” heart racing feeling. Just realize what kinda love it really is. And that your never gonna find it in another guy because its a different kind. Just go get ur vibrating tooth brush and get over it. And most of all don’t let anybody make u feel like a perv. You’ll laugh about it when ur 30 if u even remember.
it might sound harsh but i could see her getting into a sexual situation with her brother and that could have some huge ramifications for her and her family and her future. a little therapy never hurt anybody
It does’t even need to become physical in order for it to impact her family. Does she know for certain, 110% that her brother returns these feelings…the odds are, he doesn’t. It’s teenage hormones. What does she think will happen if she confesses her ‘undying sexual love’ to her BROTHER??? I hardly think there will be fireworks, sunsets and roses as her over active imagination suggests. There will be no family gatherings accepting them as a couple. Has she even considered the legal ramifications besides the moral…?
And, clearly, she hasn’t even thought about the fact that at 18yrs old HE isn’t even emotionally equipped to deal with HER feelings. I’m sorry to be harsh, but I don’t believe for a second that he’s thinking about his 15yr old sister whilst he’s getting down and dirty with an unrelated/uncomplicated girl his own age!
She say’s she likes him being over protective and disliking all her boyfriends…perhaps this could be put down to not having her biological father in the picture. Could this be classic text book ‘absent father’ issues?
Sad, truly sad.
That Would be INSEST
U NEED SOME HELP!!!
Incest* use spellcheck hun
Okay, she’s a kid, she doesnt need help. I dont get why people make someone feel like a monster almost just because they have sexual feelings towards someone that they shouldnt. People are such hypocrites these days, they act like they can do no wrong and someone who does “needs help”, who are we to judge? Yes we all know its wrong to have feelings towards your brother or even someone in your family, but think of how many people all over have felt these feelings before. She’ll probably get over these feelings, she’s just a kid right now. And true, her brother probably doesnt even think of her that way. But he also could, who knows. He probably hates all the guys you date because he’s your brother and he’s protective of you. Maybe you could tell him that your not angry towards him and repair your relationship so you can somehow get over your feelings. At the end of the day, make sure the decision you make is one u can live with. If he does feel the same way, I hope you guys are happy.
anon, a little therapy never hurt anybody.
“If he does feel the same way, I hope you guys are happy”….
Really? Cos honestly, if he did feel the same way, I would hope their children only had one head and didn’t crawl along the floor barking and frothing at the mouth.
But that’s just me.
Not judging by the way.
S
agreed
IMO, having “sexual feelings toward someone you shouldn’t” might be more like a teacher for example or a friends’ parent.. Having sexual feelings for a family member to me, is a little too close for comfort.
There’s something not quite right there IDK professional help in this case is at all extreme. I wouldn’t be surprised if there were other things going on here. I’m also certain that in the long run the girl will be just fine
I totally agree with you about something else going on with this situation. I wouldnt be surprised if she has been molested or something. I even wonder if there is more going on between her and her brother that she decided not to write. I think that it’s possible that she just didnt get these feelings out of nowhere. I’m thinking that maybe her brother may have lead her on. I think its just a bit strange if he hates EVERY guy that she likes. It sounds like he may be a bit jealous. Theres definitely more going on there.
Um why would he want you? Not trying to be mean but c’mon lets be REAL. He sounds hot, and he sounds like he can get any girl that he wants, so why would he be bothered with you? Honey, I’m sorry but I bet your one of the very last things on his mind right now. I bet he’ll look at you and laugh if you tell him you want to be with him. Save yourself the embarrassment! What guy would want to have sex with his 15 year old sister if he has a steady flow of girls that he can hook-up with. Girls who he doesnt have to get up and look at everyday. Sweetie, I know your body is telling you it’s love. But it’s lust, lust that brother probably does not return for you. Get over it. Trust me, I know 18 year old boys. He doesnt want you :)
get help something is very wrong with you dont you think there is a reason incest is against the law not to mention genetically you will have retarded kids sounds like you got other issues kid your 15! whats wrong with this world and kids thinking about sex too early be a teenager dont you have friends? god when I was 15 I was more worried about what color I was going to dye my hair and listening to music but its half the worlds fault everything is so sexualized today. god help my children
you will become a whore after you become 18
Hahahahahah. Sameera, how many kinds of crazy are you!?
Does one need to be over 18 to become a whore?
Is one only a whore if one fanices a family member?
I don’t understand your logic but it sure as hell makes me laugh!
Thanks you crazy, tarot reading, pleb.
Am I the only one who thinks she should totally do it? Cuz I really think she should.
Yes, you are the only one.. You’re goofy
Listen to what people are telling you…his is your BROTHER. Think about all the friends you would lose if they knew you wanted your BROTHER. Think of the people who would LAUGH and make FUN of you in a VERY VERY MEAN way. No man after your brother would want you, if you got together with him. Other than maybe your cousin, I am kidding!
Seriously I think there is more going on here too, did someone hurt you? Like another family member or maybe your brother? And now you are trying to cover up the betrayal and confusion with emotions of lust? If he did hurt you, it wasn’t because he loves you. It wasn’t because he wants you. It’s because he is SICK. Or if it was someone else, same thing.
Andiknowthis… You know shit, what a terrible thing to say to a teenager. Good advice. Make here feel worthless and she’ll and will be fine. You probably have self esteem issues but… Maybe you need to confess… Yet, I digress…bellesinsex… Relax.. You are not a monster, a freak of nature or will not burn in eternal he’ll or have kids that froth in the mouth (puhleese!) so that some other freak can gloat. You have feelings for your brother and being 15 and filled with hormones up to your eyeballs and possible not having anyone else that treats you with kindness and respect, someone else who “gets you” you have romanticized your brother. You acknowledged your feelings, got jealous ( the person who hasn’t gotten jealous of their other sex parent when they were younger, especially if there is a step-parent involved, please raise your hand here…) and need to deal with the feelings. At worst you may need some counseling (schuss still have those right) better yet a boyfriend to date and get to know, preferable someone who likes you. You will find that while your affection for your brother remains, the sexualized feelings will get weaker..
i wouldnt listent to the nasty comments.. being that you are 15, feelings like that are perfectly natural as long as you dont act on them…admire from afar and find someone for you that is like him.. its the second best thing but just remember its okay to have feeling like that as long as they are not acted up… trust me you will wish you didnt if you do
She said they both have different fathers, and if I remember my Genetic classes correctly, this is probably a case of GSA, or Genetic Sexual Attraction. Or most people know it by the name “kissing cousins”. Remember in the old days it was very common for cousins to be attracted and marry one another. These two are not full blood relatives, so that natural incest preventive may have not evolved. She needs therapy, and not to be treated like a pervert.
i went through a similar situation. one night hang out with him, start drinking a little bit and the feelings and thruths will come out.
What horrible advice to give.
Don’t get your brother drunk!
You’re probably just going to end up doing something you’ll regret!
Don’t listen to this person!
Get help…..
I hope I helped…
Hi. This is belles and 16 now. I have read each and every comment because I’m still stuck. I think each day I’m coming closer to doing something I’ll regret…I can’t say that I disagree with the people telling me that I’m a freak, because I am. And I do need help.I tried going out with other guys again and it sucked :( I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m making myself sick. He’s leaving off for college soon. He wont be too far away, but its far enough. We don’t really have a relationship anymore. The other day we fought. We’ve fought before but never like that. He begged me to tell him what was wrong because I had completely started avoiding him. He grabbed me by shoulders. I seriously came sooo close to telling him how I felt. He was so close to me and all I could think about was touching him :( So I slapped him and he stopped talking to me after that. I almost went into his room last night. I wanted to so bad. I just can’t tell anyone. I cant have them looking at me like I’m disgusting. I’m done, I quit.I have no idea what to do. If I dont get a handle on things then I don’ think I’m gonna make it. I just can’t. Bye.
Belles, get help then, please. If you’re feeling so desperate and this is affecting you so much..
A qualified therapist has heard everything, they won’t be shocked by you telling them about this problem.. They’ll help you with all kinds of things in your life.. Also, please know, there is patient confidentiality, the therapist will not tell your parents about this, so there’s nothing to feel bad about, take care
i only just came across this post. I really want to know how it all ended did you ever get to tell your brother how you felt about him? and how is your relationship with him now? your brother sounds really hot!
There is a lot of info above and I read none of it. Let me give you this just in case someone else did not. You are of an age where exploring with the opposite sex is important. It can also be frightening. Your half brother is safer in your mind and heart. Your attraction isn’t unusual but the degree is. You can find counseling to help you sort out your feelings. I would also say that sometimes making a determination to do NOTHING for a specific period of time, maybe 6 months, and that includes fantasies, can sometimes get you far enough along to be able to better cope. Best wishes.
I wouldn’t worry about it to much. You’re only 15, and probably don’t have too much experience interacting with guys. Your brother is around, you feel comfortable with him, so it feels safer to have a crush on him than forging out into the big, scary dating world. I wouldn’t say anything to him though; it’ll probably freak him out. Just get out there, and in a year or two when you feel more comfortable around guys, you’ll probably find your crush has gone away.
Honostly…that is one of the most sickening things I have ever heard. Your older brother is supposed to be someone that you look up to, not someone that you want to have sex with. If I could give any good advice…I would tell you to seperate yourself from him and GET SOME HELP. I’ll probably be the only honost person when I say that…what your feeling is NOT normal. I can’t tell you how wrong it is to blame it on your hormones or any other bullsh*t ppl are probably trying to tell you. This is a problem and its a sin…its called incest. You and your brother could go to hell…like seriously. And your family would be freaks….imagine kids running running around with two heads and tails….because thats what the future looks like for you. It is disgusting to have those types of feelings about your brother. You should even be thinking about sex. I swear your generation is going to hell. And I thought my generation was bad! Ugh And if your brother has such a busy sex life…he probably wouldnt even be thinking about you sexually. And I agree…at his age he probably wouldnt even be able to handle your feelings! Why would a teenage girl want to have sex with her brother?! Honostly, I still cant even wrap my mind around it. Honostly Belles..Belle or whatever…seek some help for problem….the world does not need ppl like you around! Its already bad enough. God! What is wrong with people these days…..GET A LIFE! And please learn how to spell. :)
Oh shut up you old baby boomer. Get off your bible-bullcrap and read a textbook.
Now, I do agree with casper on one thing. What you are feeling is a problem. You’re 15. Thinking about sex, having sexual feelings, being curious/horny, etc are NORMAL. Every teen goes through. It’s called HORMONES.
BUT, letting your hormones out on your brother is NOT a good idea. And to say the least, it’s a teenie bit weird.
I would suggest finding a way to speak to an adult that is NOT in your family that you can trust. Maybe even a friend would do. Just someone you can trust.
I’m no professional, so….
You can tell me to shut up but she needs to hear the harshness of what people are saying because if she goes through with this, she’s gonna hear worse. She shouldnt be curious, horny or whatever because she is just a CHILD!!!!!! By people telling her is normal to have any of these feelings or feelings towards “someone she shoudlt” is horrible! That is not good advice to give a kid! Don’t make her feel normal! she SHOULD feel weird!!!!!! God what is wrong with you PEOPLE!!!
And yes ANON, you are no professional. I’m only 19 and I have more sense than you people!!!
Excuse me…I meant she shouldnt even be thinking about sex
Whoo I wonder if you’ve done it since you posted this….
Wow, what kind of person wants to shag their older siblings?
Belles, I don’t know if this is still relevant, but it’s important for me to tell you something.
Your desire to your brother is considered very very unnacceptable by your surrounding society, and that’s probably not going to change soon. Therefore, it’s probably a very bad idea for you to act upon this desire.
But that does NOT mean you’re a freak or a pervert or whatever. I wish you could learn to view your strange desire as the beautiful shining diamond of truth that it is. Currently, there’s no room for this diamond to be shown or celebrated, and that’s a piece of sad reality you’ll probably have to learn to live with. But don’t take it upon yourself: you are no freak. There’s nothing wrong with you. You are wonderful.