I want to cheat so bad
Posted by Be in Sex on Sep 26th, 2010 | 17 commentsI have been wife for 6 yrs married for 3yrs. After my daughter was born i lost a total interest in having sex with my wife. I don’t even want to sleep in the same bed with her. I want sex everyday. I feel my wife wants sex once a month. She is so great in everything except sex. I recently met a married ex- girlfriend and talked to her about the posibility of us having sex and she agreed she would as long as i am ok with it. DIVORCE is not optional. i dont eventhink i will survive one day without my wife and my little girl. we talked about seeking help but nothing substantiated. To make maters worst I run into a high school girlfriend(who was sexualy compatable at the time) recently who said she miss us. I hate myself!
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This my sound odd. But do it. Have sex with someone.Over and over again. You’ll eventually feel guilty and maybe after going somewhere else you’ll see your wife as something “new” again. You risk getting caught … but this may be the only real way to make yourself want sex with the wife again.
That’s so stupid, what the hell kind of advice is that?! -_-
i think you need to spice up your marriage.
I’m pretty much in the same boat, other side of the lines. I have been married for 5 years, with him for almost 10 years. I want sex every day, he wants it.. well.. NEVER.
He has no sexual interest in me, at all. I have tired all sorts of things to regain his interest. He has no desire.
For the first time in many years I find myself drooling at the construction workers and thinking.. maybe.. just maybe… =(
He is my best friend. But he does not care enough to compromise. I have been sleeping in a different room then him for over 5 months now. It’s very hard to sleep beside him knowing he does not want me.
He does not even want to talk about sexual issues. He says they are all my problems, that he is happy as things are and I need to get over it. That sex more then once every three months is only for newly weds.
So I smile and try to pretend everything is ok.
Cheat or Dont cheat?
Only time will tell, how long can someone go wanting your partner in every way, every day and being shunned, refused.
I do not think I will feel better after cheating. I think I will just finally feel I have the reason to leave, to move on.
Sweetie that is not a healthy relationship, i can’t say anything for your husband because i don’t know his motives behind not wanting to be intimate with you but if you are so unhappy and unsatisfied in the relationship that you actually consider cheating then you have one of two options;
1. Get some help, so see a sex therapist as soon as possible and try to get your husband to go alone, you tell him that if he really does care about you and the marriage you two share that he needs to help out in this.
2. Leave, eventually it’s just going to get worse and that can lead to being unfaithful which can be catastrophic for both parties.
Sex is not everything in your life…. it’s really not worth it to cheat when you have a great spouse who just ain’t good in bed. You need to open up and talk to him… there are many things to do to spice up your life without cheating.. like watching porn together, mutual masturbation, and getting a girls’ night out… just to do something that tells you not to cheat…
Or instead of cheating maybe they could talk about swinging? Me and my husband are swingers…not because our sex life is bad. in fact its our best in life…Men as well as women want to be pleased…Change it up…Make it fun and interesting…We go to strip joints together..we have fun…we have kids and we have jobs…we try to love life even in the lowest times..We look at porno together. It may be once a month we do this stuff. We are no means addicting to it. We change it up…It makes it interesting….COMMUNICATION it helps and its a must for a relationship to work…
My best guess is either that he prefers to masturbate or is in the closet. My best advice is: get out, life is too short to feel the way you do
Sarasota is partially correct. He could be gay. Whatever the problem it appears to be deep. Don’t spend any time beating yourself up. Take the first train out of town and don’t get off until you are SATISFIED. Life IS too short, enjoy it while you have it… especially if it feels good!
Marriage takes hard work, it’ll be difficult and she most likely wants to relax after a day of dealing with your daughter and life in general. Sex to her now has become a chore. So, talk to her, talk to therapist figure it out, maybe she’s going through the same thing you are?I’m glad you’re recognizing this problem. Here’s some questions to ask yourself- How do you feel when she walks in a room? Are you disgusted, do you hold resentment, do you love her or miss who she once was? Whatever you feel recognize it. Why were you attracted to her in the first place? Remember that and see if she’s changed that? Don’t do something as drastic to cheat…
It’ll leave you feeling guilty for a very long time. If you ever come clean to her or she ever finds out, your wife will never feel of worth to you, she be left feeling humiliated, angry, confused and even violated in some ways. Best of Luck.
Read the book “Why We Love” by Helen Fisher. It’s good to understand the brain chemicals involved in infatuation, bonding, sex, child rearing, love, breakups, etc. so that you know what you are dealing with. Our brains are pretty much hardwired to lose sexual interest, at least for awhile, after the baby. Oxytocin, especially in women, decreases the sex drive. Oxytocin promotes breastfeeding, bonding with a baby and is produced largely after the baby is born. It’s nature’s way of getting us to move on and mate again. So if you do that, sure, you go through the thrill all over again, but it will wane and fade too. It would be an endless cycle of new love and excitement, bonding, fading, and starting it all over again. Read this book and others like it and it will help you to know how your brain is hardwired and demystify all the crazy emotions surrounding love and sex.
You may have valid reasons to want to move on and find another partner. It does help though to understand how our brains have evolved and are wired to help you sort things out.
Get a pocket ***** or something. But if you cheat, there is no going back. I hope that if you do, you catch a disease and get caught. Watch a porno and whack off!
Dude just do what the rest of us do call a hooker. Think of it as paying for discretion and silence not sex
Prostitutes have saved more marriages ten they have destroyed
You should not be married to someone like that- it’s abuse for a woman you are with to withhold sex from you for extended periods of time. Find a real woman who knows how to take care of her lover and you won’t need to worry about dirty prostitutes.
Women that withhold sex from their men make me sick! It’s emotional abuse to keep sex from your man! Don’t get upset when he cheats, we all need to be loved! (btw I am a girl, and I NEVER would keep sex from my husband)
I am sorry but this just makes me so sad, you seem like the type of guy that would never do this if you were being treated right. Make her understand that she is not treating you right, and if she doesn’t improve then get rid of her, sometimes kids are much happier when their parents live separately. Then they don’t have to live with all the tension.
Have you even told your wife that you want sex?? dont just assume she doesnt want it, talk to her man. The thing about marriage is you can talk to each other about everything doesn’t matter how embarrassing or weird it is. Tell her what you really want, the result will surprise you.