I know I can’t play both sides..
Posted by need help... in Sex on Oct 12th, 2009 | 10 commentsI have been struggling with bi sexuality for a long time, I have a wonderful girlfriend, but shes doesn’t know I’m doing what I’m doing, im messing around with dudes behind her back, and I want to quit but i don’t know where to turn, I feel trapped and stuck. I want to quit I feel such conviction I dont know where to turn, please God help me I want out.
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Well in the larger scheme of things we can essentially say with a definite amount of conviction. You are NOT bisexual. You are a total and complete gay ***. You just think you are bi.
The best thing you can do is break up with this girl and tell her the truth, that you are better at fellating men than she is, and go out and get you a full time *** boyfriend.
I have the same feelings and have been dealing with them for years. In a way its hell but in the end being with a girl is much better. Its better to be with a girl and appear normal than to be gay and limit your future.
Im struggling with the same issue. I have a girl and cheat on her with men. I love gay porn and she doesnt know it. I believe at the end of sex I feel better about being with a woman. I couldnt imagine kissing a man but I love having a man inside of me or sucking on him. Is that weird
Hey I too went thru this, after awhile I realised that I am who I am. I am a Bi Guy and if the world can’t handle that then I do what I do. My wife does not know but I go out from time to time and play with guys. Don’t listen to the idiot whos says you are gay, You know you are Bi. I would love to be honest but I can’t be. Why should I lose everything normal in my life because I want to suck sometimes? It is sad that most people won’t let you be you so you have to just play on the side and do be careful…..
About a year ago I met up with a guy that I met on craigslist and messed around with him. It was everything I wanted but in the end my gf found out and I lost a great relationship.
Sometimes its not about being gay or straight, sometimes you end up with a woman that cares enough about herself to not put up with cheating but is strong enough to handle you having trouble with your sexual identity. You never know.
First of all, I want to say to Hey that that was the most awful advice I have ever read. “Appear normal”?? You are normal. ‘Normal’ should never be what other people expect of us…but what we expect of ourselves. You need to be honest…not just with your girlfriend, but with yourself. Fine, you like guys and girls……you aren’t a bad person because of your sexual preferences. Love yourself for who you are, because if you can’t…then don’t expect anyone else to do so.
When you fantasize, is it a male or a female? Does your head turn for a guy or a gal?
The spectrum of sexuality is not either/or- it’s shades.
I have the same feelings you do.
what is it about jerks, like the one above, who has to insist that bi guys are gay? i doubt this sexist pig says bi females are lesbian? i doubt this idiot says that gays or lesbians who try staight sex are therefore straight. what a moron. i’m sure such complexities r too difficult for his simple mind to comprehend. don’t let anyone define ur sexual proclivities but urself, dude. good luck.
Sexuality is not black and white. Society tells us we have to be one thing or another, but for most people I’m betting this simply isn’t true.
You should consider being honest with your partner and yourself, and possibly finding someone else who will be comfortable with an open relationship and its accompanying responsibilities. Always practice safe sex with either partner, the last thing that anyone deserves is an STD.
Good luck.
I think it is fine to be gay, straight , or bi. However I also believe that it does not matter your sexual orientation cheating is cheating. Just saying you are bi does not make it ok to cheat on your wife or girlfriend. I am sure that she has looked at another man & wanted some hot passionate one night stand. She didn’t do it because she was with you. I keep reading the post about this subject & just wonder why do you get a free pass to be a jerk to the women in your life? Do you justify it by saying that she dosen’t have a **** so it is ok to go somewhere else for that? If you like it in the *** then talk to her about it, maybe ya can go shop for a strap on together. (not joking) I just don’t get it why does being bi mean you get to suck some **** on the side. I think it means that when you are looking to getting in a new relationship that you are open to dating either sex, That you are open to making a connection with either sex. It does not mean that you get married & have kids & then keep her in the dark while you have random hookups with dirty men that you don’t know!