Huge Mistake
Posted by Anonymous in Sex on Jul 10th, 2009 | 12 commentsI had an affair with one of my best friends wife. I had always lusted for his wife, but kept my urges to myself. He left for a month long business trip, and his wife asked me to help her move something she couldn’t lift. I went over to their house, and moved the item, after which she insisted on making me dinner. After dinner, we were sitting on the couch talking and watching TV, and she started rubbing my shoulders, and then other parts of my body once she found out I was aroused. I couldn’t control myself, and returned the favor. One thing led to another, and well you know. After that we sort of developed a sexual relationship, and had sex 4 or 5 more times. I’ve since moved away, and don’t have to worry about seeing either of them. But the guilt that I have is eating me up inside. Almost to the point where I’m suicidal. Now I could never bring myself to act upon those thoughts, but they are strong. I’m not looking for a lecture on how wrong it was, because I know already. I just really need to get this off my chest right now.
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you had the chance to walk away from that ****, but you stayed, so live with it.
Well lets break out the score care. She asked you over, then she made you dinner, then she started to massage you and once she KNEW you were aroused she proceded to sharpen your pencil. And did it several times I might add.
Sounds to me that she had this planned all along. She knew you had a thing for her and she acted on it.
And she probably knew you were moving away so that eliminated the complication factor.
One move thing you might want to coinsider, maybe she is a hotwife (swingers) and your friend which is her husband selected you for this little tryst. This happens all the time.
And before you say Nah not them, you don’t know what they discuss or the lifestyle they are into. Seems to me this is more the case than anything else
So I would just chaulk this up to a swingers experience and stop kicking yourself over it! To be honest I wish something like that would happen to me :>)
Now you know, don’t do it again. Live and learn and hope none of your ‘friends’ do this to you! (and if they do, hope you don’t find out)
Now, forget about, you can’t change the past, get on with your life. Give your self a break.
Get a grip for Christ’s sake. Enjoy the sex for what it was and move on.
It just occurred to me why you feel so guilty. Its not guilt!!! You are scared that if he finds out hes gonna whip you like a red headed stepchild.
What a wimp!!!!
it’s not your fault; she came on to you. You had no obligation to HER husband. He would have done the same to you.
Get over the guilt. You both enjoyed the sex and got away with it, nobody is getting divorced over it and it has stopped now anyway. Enjoy the memories of it. We’re all human and give into temptation sometimes.
My mother use to give us a big rock make us carry it around for a couple days i mean eat sleep etc with this stupid rock then take us out side tell us to throw it as far as we could then she would say did you like carrying that rock around did it do anything for you of course we were like hell no she said thats whats what guilt is a dead weight get over it!!!
I’s easy to be attracted to someone who is not available. It’s easy for YOU TOO because you don’t have to risk emotions either. Most people feel good when they act out tragedies. Go ahead and keep getting involved with people who can’t be emotionaly intimate. I would rather avoid the whole mess of you and make more money.
How many here can throw the first stone? Ask God for forgivness, forgive your self and move on. If you want to tell someone to get it of your chest, go to confession. Everyone is guilty, stop beating yourself, you made a mistake, so did all of us. No person is without sin. As humans, we dont grasp that our actions killed God. Take what He offers, find rest and be still. Its over now. It’s true what they say, no rest for the wicked..
Don’t beat yourself up about it. It happened you both had fun and you cant take that back. If you tell the husband to relieve your guilt thats worse than the deed itself.Forgive yourself and let this be the way you purge your tormented conscience. Her husband has probably done the same to her anyway.
you had fun so did she , why get into who started it , the fact is it happened and it was good and now life will just move on, your guilt if any too shall move one