He’s Hurting Me
Posted by Maddie in Sex on Dec 22nd, 2010 | 32 commentsI’m a 16-year old girl,who is just at the end of her rope. I don’t know what to do. My dad has been molesting me since I was 9.It started out with him just touching me, but as I got older he started raping me. I can’t take it anymore. He’s hurting me. Whenever he comes into my room, I die alittle inside. I have no one to turn to. I’m afraid my mom will hate me. I was the reason they almost got divorced and I just want her to be happy. I’ve started drinking to deal with it. It makes me numb. I started going out with this guy a six months ago. He’s nice to me and he makes me feel better. We were hanging out one night and we started making out on his couch. I freaked out. I know he would never force me, but I’m scared of being touched like that. I’ve been avoiding him ever since, and things with my dad seem to be getting worse. I don’t know what to do, I want him to stop and I wanna tell someone. But….I just can’t.
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Tell a teacher, tell a friend, get help. Surviving and giving yourself a chance to get out of this alive is the best thing you can do for yourself. I’ve been there. it’s ugly and it hurts. Reach out, find an officer, anyone. I’d come get you and take you to my house if I could. No one deserves to be hurt like that. Take it from a survivor: It gets better. You’ve got to take that first step to safety.
You won’t regret that. you’ll live through this.
We don’t know eachother, and we probably never will, but I am thinking of you and every girl who has been hurt like this. I hope you have a safe night coming to you, and can bring back the soul he is killing. Tell someone, and if your mom is the wonderful woman I hope she is, she will back you too.
Thinking of you
-Another Survivor
Oh Maddie – please tell someone and get out of there.
I promise you that life CAN be better than that. I give you my word.
You’re obviously an intelligent and articulate young lady. These attributes can help you achieve a lot. You have the potential to feel safe and, yes, even very happy!
I don’t know where you’re from but Life Line has a national number: 13 11 14. Please call them and find out who can help you locally.
You don’t have to be alone in this. And while it will be incredibly difficult to make the initial step (and the changes it will involve), please believe me when I say it will be worth it.
xo
Please tell someone, I know how horrible it is but you have to. The pain and worry you will feel when telling is nothing compared to how horrible if you keep this inside for the rest of your life. It will be such a relief. I promise.
We’re all on your side.
I’ll be thinking of you xxx
You new at 9 that it was wrong. You should have stopped it then. But you liked it at the time.
It’s wrong to let your dad touch you inappropriately. Now since you’ve got him totally hooked into you sexually you have changed your mind and now you want out.
You tell him to never touch you again or your going to the cops. He will stop. You keep letting him have sex with you because in a way you love the feeling and your hooked also. So quit acting like your innocent. Your guilty too. You both need counceling.
People kill me when they think people under 18 don’t know right from wrong. I’ll bet if you kill him they will try you as an adult. Even if you were 12. Our laws are really wrong. You let him inside you that’s why he continues to want inside you. In his own sick way he loves you dearly and you have to break the cycle. Don’t involve anyone else. It will only drag you and your family through the mud. They will hurt you more than the sex. Just ask God to forgive you and move on with your life. Your dad should do the same even more so. You think your tramatized cause society says you should be. Well your not. There are countless girls who have been through what you have and moved on with thier life. It’s reall nobodies business but yours and Gods. Don’t make it public. Forgive him and God will forgive you. a then move on, never let him inside you again by saying no way, no more. It’s the best thing to do.
You are obviously completely deluded. You have no idea what you’re talking about. Most molesters force their victims into secrecy, by telling them that it will be worse if they tell someone, that the abuse will increase, and they will potentially ruin the victims life. I happen to be the same age as this poor girl, and it must be horrendous (in fact, horrendous doesnt even begin to describe how it must feel) knowing that someone, especially such a close family member such as her father, can have this power over her, and can do such terrible things to her, and she feels as if she can’t tell anyone. How can you post a comment like that? With your name as “im_just_saying”? Don’t say it. How could anyone love being raped and abused by their own father, someone who should love and care for and protect them. Imagine if you were her, how you would feel, that a man who you love, your father, does this to you. Of course she knows it’s wrong, but she can’t tell anyone because she is obviously so afraid of her father and what he can do. And by the way, don’t bang on about God, this girl might not believe in God, so don’t assume she does, and don’t force your religious views onto other people.
I guess I am wrong for thinking he didn’t force her. I guess I can’t amagine being a monster like that. I’m sorry if I hurt anybody. She needs to tell the authorities. I posted something else that didn’t get posted by the moderator that explained everything. But this guy is obviously dangerous. At first I thought this was just a fake post. But looks like it’s real. Again I apoligize not for sharing God because whether she believes in him or not He is. But I do apoligize for being insensitive and not understanding how sick this is.
REALLY??? while i have never been molested I truly believe you are a pedophile. How can you not feel for this young girl and what she is going through unless you too are like her “dad”. You are sick and need help.
Boy are you wrong. I happened to have raised my kids in a healthy environment. I didn’t think of sick stuff like that. Be careful when you point the finger at someone, you got 4 pointing back at you. Don’t call me names if you don’t know me. I beleive your a stupid person to think some one a pedophile because he presented a different senario than what you dreamed up. I agreed with all of you, But there are cases that’s just like I said. My kids are very succefull and are grown and gone. They probably would kick yall’s ass for saying that about thier Mom.
You are misguided – so much so that it’s disturbing.
And don’t even mention ‘God’ – no religion sanctions child abuse.
I truly believe you are very, very sick.
Wait now I didn’t hear I’m_Just_Saying say God sanction Child sexual abuse. Wow I think you people are reading stuff into that. Does his opinion make him a pedophile. You guys call every body a pedophile that disagree with you. That makes it hard to find the real ones. How do you know this post is real. Could be fake.
What if the post is real and a real girl is going through this? Imagine, if you show her that you don’t even believe her how does she know others will? YOU ARE A STUPID PERSON WHO REALLY NEEDS TO SHUT YOUR MOUTH, Mad Maxx!!!
Please do not blame the victim. She is a child in a terrible situation. It is NOT HER FAULT. If you REALLY think she had a choice in the matter, I would urge you to seek counseling yourself.
SERIOUSLY?! I can’t even read the whole things. What the **** is wrong with scum like you??
“You new at 9 that it was wrong. You should have stopped it then. But you liked it at the time.It’s wrong to let your dad touch you inappropriately. Now since you’ve got him totally hooked into you sexually you have changed your mind and now you want out.”
Truly, you are a horrible person. ‘I’m just sayin”
hey get off this posters back!!! where do you hear about beatings violence or anything !!!! this poster has it more right than you think!!! and quit with the call the police tell your teacher shit!!! both those options will drag her family through the mud!!! you have not been there!!! tell me you would do that? yeah we all say that but if it were us would we!!! hey girl first demand that he stop!!! and threaten to call the police and make no bones about it you will make good on it !!! and if he does try agian make good and call the police you warned him !! I beat he will stop.
If her family goes through hell because she needs to tell someone to have this stopped it is NOT her fault. Her horrible father is the one to blame.
ARE YOU MENTALLY ILL/DISABLED TO WRITE SOMETHING SO INCREDIBLE?
I’m_just_saying = sickest response EVER. Spoken like a true paedofile.
Maddie – call a rape hotline as soon as you can. You’re not alone, and they will understand what you’ve been going through for the last 7 years in ways you can’t imagine. More importantly, they can tell you what to DO about it. It will be OK… But you have to make that call, and you have to talk about it with people who understand.
tell me where you dad lives and ill go break his legs .
poor girl, please get out of there.
What’s his name. I’ll take care of it.
Maddie, you need to reach out and get some help. It is not your fault!
Don’t put up with it another day. The decision to tell and get out will be hard. And it will be hard for a while. But believe me when I tell you that it will be worth it! Take back your life and get back the control he has taken from you. It’s not your fault. He is an adult and your father. He should have loved and protected you, rather than using and molesting you. You did not deserve to be abused. Please call a rape hot-line today.
Your mother would not want to be with a man who raped his own daughter! And if she does, get rid of both of them! Some people are born sick, don’t punish yourself for it.
The negative and disturbing comments made here are awful. Maddie, I am a psychologist, and I’m here to tell you that there is life after this.
I strongly urge you to get help.
YES It will be hard to get though, but you have to ALWAYS remember this has never been your fault.
Please confide in somebody, this terrible part of your life could be over and you can move on to a positive and healthy life.
Please dear, nobody deserves what you’ve been through and you need to start healing as soon as possible.
PLEASE call an anonymous line, like the boys and girls clubs of america, or the national suicide hotline. There are people you can talk to anonymously before you decide to confront this in person.
This is a crime. Send his sorry ass to jail and who cares what your mom thinks. You might be able to get into foster care or become emancipated.
Call the police on your father.
Please, tell someone, a teacher, a friend, anyone, your father needs to be stopped, remember this is not your fault its your dads fault. If it splits your parents up then thats a GOOD thing, it means he can never hurt you again.
I am so so sorry to hear about this. You must be in so much pain, but it will get better. You just need to talk to someone.. maybe you would feel comfortable going to a female nurse or doctor, I’m sure they deal with these issues often.
Also, I’m sure your mother loves you and would be heart broken to know this has been happening to you.. infact, she will probably be so upset that you kept it from her all of this time. So don’t worry about your mum.. and i’m sure she will gladly divorce once she finds out the truth.
And .. PLEASE DON’T LISTEN TO THAT STUPID COMMENTER CALLED “I’m_Just_Saying”. By the sounds of it, they are also a molestor and rapist. No normal person thinks like that.. so please ignor that individual.
Set his ass up and shoot him!! well i guess i cant tell you to do that..as someone who spent her entire childhood being raped and abused i can tell you that the hurt and pain he has already inflicted will never go away. get a camera and set it up in your room and record him next time he comes in and then take it to the police. he cannot deny it then and then your worthless piece of shit mother will have to face reality!!! you are not the reason anyone falls apart. your parents are supposed to protect you, not hurt you. You can get out of this…you can find happiness, but you are going to have to work at it, and it starts by making it stop one way or another!!
Hey Maddie. You will get through this. You just need to take the first step. Call a rape hotline or tell the police. Tell SOMEONE!!! My heart goes out to you girl, stay strong.
well i hope maddie will show all these emails to her mother. if the mediater didnt already contact the authorities that is
or even worse her father saw the emails.
that is saying she left a return email at all.
please maddie i hope you are safe and well.
has anyone heard back from maddie it has been 11 months since her first and only contact to this site
tell, tell, tell, you will feel a tremendous load off your back, if you keep it a secret it WILL make you crazy, he is a sick **** and needs to be put in jail, you gotta tell th police !