cinderella
Posted by sn in Sex on Aug 13th, 2010 | 7 commentsi hooked up with a guy who has a girlfriend of two years,next week hes going to purpose to her. i sometimes think of telling her so she wouldnt spend her life with a man who lies and cheats. but a part of me doesnt want to tell her because i dont want to ruin her dreams of having a prince charming who loves her.
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If you know her, or how to get ahold of her, you should tell her. She’s naively believing that she can trust the man she loves. It will cause her a lot less heartache to find out now than to realize it five years later when he gets one of his many mistresses pregnant and she files for divorce, or whatever.
I know it’s not easy, and I haven’t always done the right thing (and they don’t like to hear it) but believe me, it’s best for her AND him not to pretend like he’s anywhere near ready for marriage.
Good luck.
You’re not exactly blameless yourself, are you?
You hook up with a guy who already has a girlfriend, so you are deliberately betraying another woman by sleeping with her man – and NOW you have suddenly developed a conscience about her? Please.
Ask yourself why you feel so compelled to tell her? Is it for her sake or for your own? Do you really care at all? Isn’t this more about you saying, ‘hah, they are all cheaters – he chose me!’ than warning her he’s not faithful.
Examine your own motives first. You are just as much to blame as him. Women should support each other not lie and cheat and steal, or sleep with each other’s men.
If I were you I’d back out of both their lives – leave them alone! – and start thinking about having a bit more respect for yourself and for other women.
If she were about to get hit by a bus and you could save her, would you? Even though you’re the reason the bus is on that path?
Because if she marries him without knowing who he really is (a lying, selfish, self centered, no integrity prick), she WILL get run over by him.
She’s about to make a LIFETIME commitment to this guy. And probably have his children. Tell her before she wastes her life with a man she doesn’t really know.
Tell her. It’s not fair for her not to know.
And know that you took part in it, too. It’s not just his fault.
if he loved her so much he wouldnt have cheated on her… she will understand and be greatful that you told her… marriage is a big commitment and you cant enter that with a lie already
I’ve known a few women who had “one last fling” before getting married. Some of them were even with me.
It’s not uncommon, may or may not be perfectly harmless, but is certainly not your place to bust him out.
It’s more likely that you wont tell her because she may want him to give you up.
Why not find a guy for yourself instead of being a “use me girl”.
Talk to God about it.