I met an amazing man several months ago and we began dating. He’s smart, attractive and ambitious. He also happens to be a pastor of a local church– not the one that I attend. One day he revealed to me that he has an infant son out of wedlock who lives out of state with the mother. He also said that he has no intention of revealing this to the church.
Fast forward a few months and the relationship is starting to deteriorate. I see that he has no intention of committing to me although I want him to. He wants to continue to see other women. Out of anger I contact his supervisor in the church and let her know about the child. She says that I can remain anonymous, but that he could lose his job. It’s clear that the supervisor has not yet approached him with my information because he’s still acting normal toward me.
I’m now starting to feel guilty about potentially ruining this man’s life. Although we’re not dating anymore, we’re still friends. Should I give him a heads up and let him know what’s about to happen or keep my mouth shut? If I don’t say anything, there’s a chance that he won’t know that I told. He’s told several friends about the baby so any number of people could have snitched. Help!