I did something bad to get needed info, help?

I snooped my boyfriend’s phone while he was sleeping and found numerous (and graphic) texts from numerous girls about him hooking up with them while he goes out of town; he leaves for work and visits family regularly. I’m loyal and dedicated but have always been cheated on or dumped because I give a lot of rein to whomever I am in a relationship with… But he started being weird, I saw the flags, etc. That’s why I snooped, even though I know it’s wrong… But what should I do now? Dump him is what I’m thinking but I don’t know if I’m jumping the gun…

5 thoughts on “I did something bad to get needed info, help?

  1. You should leave and fix whatever you feel towards yourself for even having to question it. Leave before you lose yourself in trying to find logic in staying. Being cheated on by one bf or a dozen bfs doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, it means unfortunately you’ve been drawn to broken little boys who aren’t happy with themselves, you just happen to be an innocent bystander they hit with the wreckage of that. Don’t feel guilty defending or protecting yourself, ever. You deserve better and you will find it.

  2. You had a sixth sense that you were being cheated on so you snooped his phone and proved your suspicion right, and now you feel guilty because…? I’ve been cheated on and I would have loved to have been able to prove it since to this day my ex will never admit to it.

    If you ask an honest person if they cheat, they’ll tell you “No, I don’t cheat”. If you ask a cheater if they cheat, they’ll tell you “No, I don’t cheat”. So why ask? You have to find out. You need to protect yourself from his lies, and also from possible STDs he could bring home to you. He could give you chlamydia or gonorrhea which you could treat at your expense, or he could give you herpes which you would have to live with for the rest of your life, or he could give you HPV (warts) which you could get cancer from someday and die or maybe get lucky and live after going through months of chemo hell, or he could give you HIV and you end up with AIDS and die.

    Really, you have a very practical right to protect yourself from a cheater like your boyfriend and that includes snooping his phone. Don’t feel bad about it, instead feel good you found out and tell the loser to get the hell out of your life. You deserve much better.

  3. Leave him. I’ve been in that situation. Just leave. Leave before you end up with a baby. Leave before you end up married and stuck in an expensive divorce. Just leave. It isn’t going to stop. It isn’t going to get any better. Leave him.

  4. Jump that obvious gun n dump him….what more evidence do you need..Would only have ever been a matter of time before or before you catch him. Evidence is just that..evidence however you come across it xx

  5. you are NOT jumping the gun. If you felt like he was cheating on you and he was, never feel bad about trying to find out. Dump him immediately, no one deserves to be cheated on.

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