my lost children

Posted by in Regret on Apr 6th, 2010 | 5 comments

My son and daughter messed around sexually at a young age. Along with other kids. Right under our noses. Right in our home. She’s told me and I can see the pain it’s caused her. I can hardy look at my son without feelings of rage. I don’t want him arround, I don’t trust him. They were both young enough to probably not have known entirely what they did or why. They are now late teens and she told me that nothing like that happens now that they are older. But what if it does? I can see she definitely carries the emotional scars and it’s affected her views of relationships, sex, and gender roles in general. What do I do with this information? I know one or both of these kids may need counseling with this eventually, as they are nearing adult age and will have to seek it out on their own. The guilt I feel for not recognizing the signs earlier is almost too much for me to handle.

5 Responses to “ “my lost children”

  1. Take action NOW says:
    April 7, 2010 at 1:54 am

    Uh, why are you not getting your daughter help NOW if you can see the emotional scars from this and recognize they’ll need help “eventually”?!?! Wow. Be a mom. Step up to the plate and take charge. Protect them. HELP THEM!!! Be strong. Grow a backbone and mother your children instead of whining about it!

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  2. cherrie says:
    April 8, 2010 at 2:09 am

    How can you love one child more than the other? Sounds like they both were willing participants…granted they were young but how can you hate your son like that?

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  3. Lola says:
    April 8, 2010 at 9:03 am

    Pray for strength and balance. Nothing is too hard for God. After you pray and believe, roll up your sleeves, get in there and get your hands dirty! Find out where you can get counseling for BOTH of your children and give them BOTH the love and support that ONLY YOU can give them as their mother. A mother’s love is only second to God’s love. Peace and Blessings

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  4. . says:
    April 14, 2010 at 5:11 pm

    i would hate to be in your position and have to make those descisions your daughter needs help now not later it has probebly caused irriversible damage and she definatly WANTS help if she came to you addmitting anything sexual especially deviant sexual behaivor to a parent must feel like suicide. good luck

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  5. Anonymous says:
    May 24, 2010 at 7:04 pm

    it’s not too late to have them get help. do it now before they’re over the age of consent. there’s help available for them both, they’ll be more likely to go on and lead healthy and productive lives if they get help. continuing to ignore it is not going to make it go away. don’t blame yourself, get help for you too

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