How could you even sat that?! If you didn’t want them you shouldn’t have had them! >:( Oh, and by the way, I just LOVE how you titled your confession “Leeches”, that’s just sooo clever, as if it’s their fault for being born! >:(
What the hell is wrong with you parents?!
It’s people like you who make kids like us want to kill ourselves. It’s like you don’t even think about the kinds of words you use and the ******* affects it would have on us!
If you don’t want to have your children, do us all a favor, and give them to somebody who actually does want children.
I am 18 years old, and in the biggest fight with my mom. But I know for a fact my mom would NEVER say anything close to that. You parents disgust me.
She didn’t say she wished they would die and I really seriously doubt that there are times that you wish your parents weren’t around becuz that is basically a universal feeling and not so different than what Mother is feeling when she’s highly stressed.. Do you always think rationally when you’re stressed? I doubt it otherwise you wouldn’t be feeling suicidal.. Which btw, I hope you’re getting help for cuz it’s not going to do anything except hurt the people around you beyond repair.
Wishing her kids were never born? Is PRETTY much the same flipping thing as wanting them dead.
Either way, they wouldn’t be alive.
And no, I have never wanted my parents dead. I wished that I could just disappear for a few seconds, but not wish anything horrible like that on ANYONE!
I’m rational enough to know right from wrong! I’m not stupid. xD
No, I said “Kill ourselves” because if my mom would say ‘I wish you were never born’ THEN I would feel suicidal. Any other kid whose parents say that to them would feel the exact same ******* way.
Don’t even try to turn this on me. I know full heartedly what it feels to loose someone from killing themselves.
well said Caitlin. Parents drop time bombs on their children and when they go off they leave disaster through the entire family. My heart goes to you as someone who knows what not to do as a parent.
Thank you IDK :-) Its nice to know that there are other people out there that can relate to a moment of frustration. My issue is that I have a child that is autistic and non-verbal. My other child is insulin dependant diabetic. Maybe if my life was like other parents I wouldn’t actually feel this way, but I never wanted children. I got pregnant and took responcibility for my actions had the children and exprected to be dedicated to them for 18 yrs. I now know that the one moment of pleasure has given me a lifetime of responcibility. ONe of my children will never leave home and I will never get to do the things that I wanted to. So unfortunately I can honestly say that I wish they were never born. BTW.. this is Secret Confessions. I would never say this to anyone in real life. I am also a very dedicated parent and no one would suspect I feel this way.
If you didn’t want children, then you shouldn’t have made the mistake not ONCE but TWICE. Have you not heard of birth control, oh wait..all you mom’s who hate being mom’s say “I used birth control but it failed” WRONG you did! There is such a thing where you can get your tubes tied or other means of effective birth control where you won’t get pregnant, ever, and if you are worried still, use a bloody condom too!
ReallySad, I’d venture to say that the majority of us in this world are unplanned.. Considering birth control is relatively new.. It was made public in the 50′s and not readily used until the 1970′s.. MAYBE the 60′s.. That means the majority of us on this site were “mistakes” so get off your high horse.. She is taking care of her kids
But here’s a newsflash, abortion?!
Wow, the thing that actually pisses me off about you “Mom” is that you probably didn’t get the abortion because you thought that you would have a normal child. You’re horrible. Every ******* kid is different.
You opened your legs, deal with the ******* consequences.
At least you have a right to be frustrated, I’m sorry about your kids, It must be harder for you to have to raise them, but “Mother in Regret” up their has no right to call her children leeches, and say she wished they were never born. :(
You are allowed to voice your wishes, but you don’t have to ******* name your kids here as “Leeches” or “Mother in regret”
It actually be called “Monster in regret”
Is neither father involved? Could you qualify for Social Service? You have two very high maintenance kids Could you possibly qualify for a Personal Care Attendant or some kind of drop off center for your Autistic child so that he/she can have some social interaction? Contact your county about whatever services might be available to your children.
Autistic children can be very gifted and your child doesn’t necessarily need to be with you for life..
It may be better (for both of you) if he or she was in an Independent Living setting with staff there to monitor meds and teach life skills.. In the mean time, sounds like you could really use a break yourself.. Do you have family who could help out.
I understand.. I’m mom to a disabled child myself and another with behavioral problems..
I hope your child/children get Social Security benefits.. It can help ease stress.. Prayers to you and I and our children.. They’re blessings but exhausting
When putting your inner most thoughts out in cyberspace, you gotta expect SOMEONE to come back at you with disrespect or chastisement. Despite all that, these people know that they’re NO BETTER. They may not feel like you do regarding your children, but there’s something that they’re doing, saying, or thinking that if someone else knew, they would think it was dispicable. Because we are human beings and we often think shameful, or depressing, or terrifying things. Yes *YOU* DO IT TOO. You might not admit it on here, but you do. Shame on some of you folks for using this site the way you do. Its so easy to chew somebody out anonymously right? And really, what is the use in telling somebody that they SHOULDA used birth control. NO S#!T….I’m sure that crosses the original poster’s mind daily.
LMAO… Awesome Post! Birth Control… what a novel concept. Cudda Shudda Woulda… words that are never uttered until we knew better. Please tape IDIOT on my forehead. Wait, nevermind… most of you would like to tape something much worse!!!
Naw, when you post shit like this, “Mom” you’re bound to get people to comment. Lol. I’m not afraid of telling who I am. Go ahead. Caitlin Ashleigh.
Now what? Gunna ******* yell at me and tell me I’m a bad kid?
Ouuuuu so scared.
This is the internet. Where EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinions. Don’t play the victim where you were the one who posted Leeches.
screw these judgy people. we all have feelings that we’re not so proud of, but it is cathartic to say/write. you sound like you have your hands full. perhaps talking to a therapist could help?
Any woman who says she has never gotten frustrated and thought about how her life would be different without her children, is full of it and she knows it. All mothers go through this especially if you are a stay at home mom. Generally if that is the case, you have no time at all for yourself. We are all human and need time to gather thoughts and feelings and woman who do not have children have all the time in the world for this, unlike mothers. Having an austistic child is very hard. Have you looked into groups of mothers in your area that also have autistic children. Maybe it would help to meet with them to discuss ways to work or treat your child that perhaps you haven’t tried or thought of because you were’t aware. I am sure you are a great mom and feeling the way you do doesn’t take away the love you have for them or stop you from doing anything for them. You are crying out for help whether you realize it or not and there is help out there. Please seek it for the sake of your children before this frustration takes a different turn. Best of Luck.
You know what? I am a mother as well, a mother to a child with special needs, bet you never saw that coming. No being a mom isn’t always easy, there are moments where I hate my JOB as a mom, but I would NEVER wish my child was not born.
Or call him a leech. He might very well be with us for life as well, only time will tell what his brain bleed has in store for us.
Sure you are human, sure we all do things we are not proud of. But come the hell on. This isn’t a speeding ticket, this is a human LIFE. It must be so nice to just think “oh well I had sex and now I have a child I am stuck with”. One moment of pleasure, life time of responsibility. If you did not want kids, then yes you are idiot for not using birth control. And sorry, but the theory of BC not being around for very long and we are likely all mistakes, shut up.
That is the weakest argument, you truly could not do better?
There are women all over who would kill to have your kids, my mom was one of them. She adopted all four of us.
I get this is a confession website and you are just venting your frustrations, but the fact you even can type the words you wish your children were not born, is disgusting. And you deserve FULLY to be called out and anyone telling you that it’s ok to wish what you created was not born, is just as rotten of a human being as you are.
I really truly hope your children turn out to be good despite what horrible mothers they clearly have. Don’t like what I am saying too darn bad.
Bubear is likely right, I bet your own mothers felt the same about you, hence what rotten mothers you have turned out to be.
Yes the job of being a mother is thankless, hard, tiring and sometimes (and it’s ok too) you hate it. What the heck did you think it would be? A walk in the park in a meadow of daisies? Do you not remember what you treated your mother/fathers like as children or teenagers?
And if you are reading this and taking offense, think about why. REALLY think about it. Because I made myself very clear I was talking only to so-called mothers who wished their babies were not born. So if that’s not you, get your back down and stop typing a nasty reply.
I appreciate everyone of these comments, even the ones that expressed a negitive view of my post. This was something that I felt the need to express in an open forum so that I could get feed back and perspective.
I find it interesting that people are able to make specific determinations about the person that posts their deepest darkest secret.
How can you deem form this secret post that I am a bad mother? I do not know you in “real” life. You would never even know it was me if you did know me. Hense the “secret” confession. How do you know that I am not over compensating in my role as a parent because of my secret? Maybe I am the kind of mother that goes above and beyond everyday. Maybe it is overcompensation for inner feelings that I am not proud of. One thing I am sure of, my children do not lack in anything including my LOVE.
My husband is very involved and I am blessed to have someone that helps me get him ready for school in the morning and in the afternoons (Someone to be the eyes in the back of my head) and a one day reprieve from therapy appointments.
I am the mother that regardless of what I am doing I make time to be the one that gives my child a bath (he can not bathe himself at all), that is the time that I sing and play with him regardless of whether he wants to participate or not.
I am the mother who takes my child to the bookstore 2 times a week and follows him around for 2 hours at a time because it is his favorite thing to do.
I am the mother who makes sure her children are fed breakfast before they go off to school. The mother that makes their lunches everyday because they dont like the school lunch.
I am the mother that people come to for parenting advice because I have come out on top regardless of obsticals.
Do not mistake me for someone that doesnt give a crap about her children. This is my life… there is no such thing as rewind and I have accepted the duties that were handed to me. You may not know someone like me, but what is more likely, you just dont know their deepest darkest secrets.
BTW… ReallySad said, “There are women all over who would kill to have your kids, my mom was one of them. She adopted all four of us.”… I think adoption is wonderful and I commend your mother for giving you a loving home to grow up in(Thank God! You didnt end up in Foster care!!). I do pose a thought here… Would your mother have adopted a child knowing they had mental, behavioral, or physical disabilites that they would never grow out of? Did she seek out a child with special needs? If she did not seek out a special needs child then she proves herself to not be a person that would kill to have my children. There are people that purposfully chose to adopt or foster special needs children, but they are far fewer than the people that choose not to. You should re-evaluate your idea of how badly people really want kids.
When my adopted her kids, almost 50 to 30 years ago. Adopting special needs children was not as common as it is now, they were basically told they could not do so. And YES my parents tried regardless of being told NO. They did however take in children that no one else wanted because of their heritage, my brother is half Japanese and back then, and being married to man who was born in a Japanese slave camp during the war…she was not met with open arms by her family (in-laws) for adopting this child, but she did it anyways. She also adopted half Native American children as well. She was met with a TON of negative comments, glares and criticism for her choices and she didn’t care!
She is a blonde woman with fair skin and blue eyes, as is my father. And all her adopted kids are dark. She didnt care.
She adopted me when her oldest daughter got pregnant at 18 and didn’t want me. I was a failed abortion. My real mom left me at a mall and told my parents I was there…they went and got me and adopted me. My mom quit her job and worked from home so she could raise me, even though all her other kids were out of the home already.
One last post.
There are people who would LOVE to adopt children with special needs.
You are absolutely disgusting.
Here’s a website for you. http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/f_devdis.cfm
It’s talking about adopting a child with special needs.
Enjoy, you leech.
RealisticCatlin, your posts express sooooo much anger and negativity, hostility even. Thing such as yelling, swearing, name-calling……rarely help produce positive results or change for a person. And until we have walked in another persons shoes, we can NOT be so quick to judge and trample someone down.
Im sure your mom feels the same way
How could you even sat that?! If you didn’t want them you shouldn’t have had them! >:( Oh, and by the way, I just LOVE how you titled your confession “Leeches”, that’s just sooo clever, as if it’s their fault for being born! >:(
I feel the same way too, at times. You’re probably just really frustrated,, Could you take a vacation?
What the hell is wrong with you parents?!
It’s people like you who make kids like us want to kill ourselves. It’s like you don’t even think about the kinds of words you use and the ******* affects it would have on us!
If you don’t want to have your children, do us all a favor, and give them to somebody who actually does want children.
I am 18 years old, and in the biggest fight with my mom. But I know for a fact my mom would NEVER say anything close to that. You parents disgust me.
Please,, you’re telling me that you haven’t ever wished that your mom would “just go away”
No. I would never wish for my mom OR dad to be dead. I’m not that ******* heartless.
She didn’t say she wished they would die and I really seriously doubt that there are times that you wish your parents weren’t around becuz that is basically a universal feeling and not so different than what Mother is feeling when she’s highly stressed.. Do you always think rationally when you’re stressed? I doubt it otherwise you wouldn’t be feeling suicidal.. Which btw, I hope you’re getting help for cuz it’s not going to do anything except hurt the people around you beyond repair.
Wishing her kids were never born? Is PRETTY much the same flipping thing as wanting them dead.
Either way, they wouldn’t be alive.
And no, I have never wanted my parents dead. I wished that I could just disappear for a few seconds, but not wish anything horrible like that on ANYONE!
I’m rational enough to know right from wrong! I’m not stupid. xD
No, I said “Kill ourselves” because if my mom would say ‘I wish you were never born’ THEN I would feel suicidal. Any other kid whose parents say that to them would feel the exact same ******* way.
Don’t even try to turn this on me. I know full heartedly what it feels to loose someone from killing themselves.
well said Caitlin. Parents drop time bombs on their children and when they go off they leave disaster through the entire family. My heart goes to you as someone who knows what not to do as a parent.
here’s the kicker, they never asked to be brought into this world, that was at your own accord, learn how to deal with it.
Thank you IDK :-) Its nice to know that there are other people out there that can relate to a moment of frustration. My issue is that I have a child that is autistic and non-verbal. My other child is insulin dependant diabetic. Maybe if my life was like other parents I wouldn’t actually feel this way, but I never wanted children. I got pregnant and took responcibility for my actions had the children and exprected to be dedicated to them for 18 yrs. I now know that the one moment of pleasure has given me a lifetime of responcibility. ONe of my children will never leave home and I will never get to do the things that I wanted to. So unfortunately I can honestly say that I wish they were never born. BTW.. this is Secret Confessions. I would never say this to anyone in real life. I am also a very dedicated parent and no one would suspect I feel this way.
If you didn’t want children, then you shouldn’t have made the mistake not ONCE but TWICE. Have you not heard of birth control, oh wait..all you mom’s who hate being mom’s say “I used birth control but it failed” WRONG you did! There is such a thing where you can get your tubes tied or other means of effective birth control where you won’t get pregnant, ever, and if you are worried still, use a bloody condom too!
ReallySad, I’d venture to say that the majority of us in this world are unplanned.. Considering birth control is relatively new.. It was made public in the 50′s and not readily used until the 1970′s.. MAYBE the 60′s.. That means the majority of us on this site were “mistakes” so get off your high horse.. She is taking care of her kids
But here’s a newsflash, abortion?!
Wow, the thing that actually pisses me off about you “Mom” is that you probably didn’t get the abortion because you thought that you would have a normal child. You’re horrible. Every ******* kid is different.
You opened your legs, deal with the ******* consequences.
you keep shouting off and say you are a kid.
good to self express.
i just wonder why you so mad.
why you fighting with your mom anyway…. refused you to kiss your boyfriend?
lol
vp
At least you have a right to be frustrated, I’m sorry about your kids, It must be harder for you to have to raise them, but “Mother in Regret” up their has no right to call her children leeches, and say she wished they were never born. :(
I dont understand how I have no right to voice my deep secret to a bunch of anonymous people?
You are allowed to voice your wishes, but you don’t have to ******* name your kids here as “Leeches” or “Mother in regret”
It actually be called “Monster in regret”
Is neither father involved? Could you qualify for Social Service? You have two very high maintenance kids Could you possibly qualify for a Personal Care Attendant or some kind of drop off center for your Autistic child so that he/she can have some social interaction? Contact your county about whatever services might be available to your children.
Autistic children can be very gifted and your child doesn’t necessarily need to be with you for life..
It may be better (for both of you) if he or she was in an Independent Living setting with staff there to monitor meds and teach life skills.. In the mean time, sounds like you could really use a break yourself.. Do you have family who could help out.
I understand.. I’m mom to a disabled child myself and another with behavioral problems..
I hope your child/children get Social Security benefits.. It can help ease stress.. Prayers to you and I and our children.. They’re blessings but exhausting
When putting your inner most thoughts out in cyberspace, you gotta expect SOMEONE to come back at you with disrespect or chastisement. Despite all that, these people know that they’re NO BETTER. They may not feel like you do regarding your children, but there’s something that they’re doing, saying, or thinking that if someone else knew, they would think it was dispicable. Because we are human beings and we often think shameful, or depressing, or terrifying things. Yes *YOU* DO IT TOO. You might not admit it on here, but you do. Shame on some of you folks for using this site the way you do. Its so easy to chew somebody out anonymously right? And really, what is the use in telling somebody that they SHOULDA used birth control. NO S#!T….I’m sure that crosses the original poster’s mind daily.
LMAO… Awesome Post! Birth Control… what a novel concept. Cudda Shudda Woulda… words that are never uttered until we knew better. Please tape IDIOT on my forehead. Wait, nevermind… most of you would like to tape something much worse!!!
I am glad you think this is funny. I can see why you would find humour in B/C, since you thought it was ok to call your children leeches.
Seriously get yourself some help before it’s too late for yourself and your kids.
Anyone who thinks it’s ok to call their kids leeches and wish they were never born, has seriously mental health issues.
spoken like a true non-parent!
Naw, when you post shit like this, “Mom” you’re bound to get people to comment. Lol. I’m not afraid of telling who I am. Go ahead. Caitlin Ashleigh.
Now what? Gunna ******* yell at me and tell me I’m a bad kid?
Ouuuuu so scared.
This is the internet. Where EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinions. Don’t play the victim where you were the one who posted Leeches.
screw these judgy people. we all have feelings that we’re not so proud of, but it is cathartic to say/write. you sound like you have your hands full. perhaps talking to a therapist could help?
Any woman who says she has never gotten frustrated and thought about how her life would be different without her children, is full of it and she knows it. All mothers go through this especially if you are a stay at home mom. Generally if that is the case, you have no time at all for yourself. We are all human and need time to gather thoughts and feelings and woman who do not have children have all the time in the world for this, unlike mothers. Having an austistic child is very hard. Have you looked into groups of mothers in your area that also have autistic children. Maybe it would help to meet with them to discuss ways to work or treat your child that perhaps you haven’t tried or thought of because you were’t aware. I am sure you are a great mom and feeling the way you do doesn’t take away the love you have for them or stop you from doing anything for them. You are crying out for help whether you realize it or not and there is help out there. Please seek it for the sake of your children before this frustration takes a different turn. Best of Luck.
If you get a chance, check out this site. http://www.thehelpgroup.org/index.php
Thank you! This is an awesome website!
You know what? I am a mother as well, a mother to a child with special needs, bet you never saw that coming. No being a mom isn’t always easy, there are moments where I hate my JOB as a mom, but I would NEVER wish my child was not born.
Or call him a leech. He might very well be with us for life as well, only time will tell what his brain bleed has in store for us.
Sure you are human, sure we all do things we are not proud of. But come the hell on. This isn’t a speeding ticket, this is a human LIFE. It must be so nice to just think “oh well I had sex and now I have a child I am stuck with”. One moment of pleasure, life time of responsibility. If you did not want kids, then yes you are idiot for not using birth control. And sorry, but the theory of BC not being around for very long and we are likely all mistakes, shut up.
That is the weakest argument, you truly could not do better?
There are women all over who would kill to have your kids, my mom was one of them. She adopted all four of us.
I get this is a confession website and you are just venting your frustrations, but the fact you even can type the words you wish your children were not born, is disgusting. And you deserve FULLY to be called out and anyone telling you that it’s ok to wish what you created was not born, is just as rotten of a human being as you are.
I really truly hope your children turn out to be good despite what horrible mothers they clearly have. Don’t like what I am saying too darn bad.
Bubear is likely right, I bet your own mothers felt the same about you, hence what rotten mothers you have turned out to be.
Yes the job of being a mother is thankless, hard, tiring and sometimes (and it’s ok too) you hate it. What the heck did you think it would be? A walk in the park in a meadow of daisies? Do you not remember what you treated your mother/fathers like as children or teenagers?
And if you are reading this and taking offense, think about why. REALLY think about it. Because I made myself very clear I was talking only to so-called mothers who wished their babies were not born. So if that’s not you, get your back down and stop typing a nasty reply.
I appreciate everyone of these comments, even the ones that expressed a negitive view of my post. This was something that I felt the need to express in an open forum so that I could get feed back and perspective.
I find it interesting that people are able to make specific determinations about the person that posts their deepest darkest secret.
How can you deem form this secret post that I am a bad mother? I do not know you in “real” life. You would never even know it was me if you did know me. Hense the “secret” confession. How do you know that I am not over compensating in my role as a parent because of my secret? Maybe I am the kind of mother that goes above and beyond everyday. Maybe it is overcompensation for inner feelings that I am not proud of. One thing I am sure of, my children do not lack in anything including my LOVE.
My husband is very involved and I am blessed to have someone that helps me get him ready for school in the morning and in the afternoons (Someone to be the eyes in the back of my head) and a one day reprieve from therapy appointments.
I am the mother that regardless of what I am doing I make time to be the one that gives my child a bath (he can not bathe himself at all), that is the time that I sing and play with him regardless of whether he wants to participate or not.
I am the mother who takes my child to the bookstore 2 times a week and follows him around for 2 hours at a time because it is his favorite thing to do.
I am the mother who makes sure her children are fed breakfast before they go off to school. The mother that makes their lunches everyday because they dont like the school lunch.
I am the mother that people come to for parenting advice because I have come out on top regardless of obsticals.
Do not mistake me for someone that doesnt give a crap about her children. This is my life… there is no such thing as rewind and I have accepted the duties that were handed to me. You may not know someone like me, but what is more likely, you just dont know their deepest darkest secrets.
BTW… ReallySad said, “There are women all over who would kill to have your kids, my mom was one of them. She adopted all four of us.”… I think adoption is wonderful and I commend your mother for giving you a loving home to grow up in(Thank God! You didnt end up in Foster care!!). I do pose a thought here… Would your mother have adopted a child knowing they had mental, behavioral, or physical disabilites that they would never grow out of? Did she seek out a child with special needs? If she did not seek out a special needs child then she proves herself to not be a person that would kill to have my children. There are people that purposfully chose to adopt or foster special needs children, but they are far fewer than the people that choose not to. You should re-evaluate your idea of how badly people really want kids.
When my adopted her kids, almost 50 to 30 years ago. Adopting special needs children was not as common as it is now, they were basically told they could not do so. And YES my parents tried regardless of being told NO. They did however take in children that no one else wanted because of their heritage, my brother is half Japanese and back then, and being married to man who was born in a Japanese slave camp during the war…she was not met with open arms by her family (in-laws) for adopting this child, but she did it anyways. She also adopted half Native American children as well. She was met with a TON of negative comments, glares and criticism for her choices and she didn’t care!
She is a blonde woman with fair skin and blue eyes, as is my father. And all her adopted kids are dark. She didnt care.
She adopted me when her oldest daughter got pregnant at 18 and didn’t want me. I was a failed abortion. My real mom left me at a mall and told my parents I was there…they went and got me and adopted me. My mom quit her job and worked from home so she could raise me, even though all her other kids were out of the home already.
One last post.
There are people who would LOVE to adopt children with special needs.
You are absolutely disgusting.
Here’s a website for you.
http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/f_devdis.cfm
It’s talking about adopting a child with special needs.
Enjoy, you leech.
RealisticCatlin, your posts express sooooo much anger and negativity, hostility even. Thing such as yelling, swearing, name-calling……rarely help produce positive results or change for a person. And until we have walked in another persons shoes, we can NOT be so quick to judge and trample someone down.
hey i just wrote the same for her.
speak of the devil.
sound young but extra worked up about “bad” mothers
actually i believe she is venting and may be
helpful/therapeutic especially
when she learns whom she is angry with.
i can bet its not the leech mothers at this
confessions that are causing. they are just triggering somthing for her !
I also wanted to mention I have a special needs child myself.
if they are leeches then you will never be happy.because you will be a mother of leaches.
but if you could acknowledge the challenges and respect them and seek help… i believe it may be better.
you may have a long journey to go. and life is not always fair.