Dont do it!
Posted by Anonymous in Regret on Sep 29th, 2010 | 7 commentsNever have an affair!!! It might be fun and exciting while it lasts (once you get past the guilt. And no matter how much you justify it, its not right!!!
I talk from experience… We were never found out…and nobody knows, but now I have to go through the hurt of a failed relationship all on my own…no shoulder to cry on, nobody to help me through it. The fall is hard!! And not worth it. I wish i could take it all back!!!!
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I know…I have the same situation…and do not know what to do… and the thing is that I had everything…God looked at me…and now I do not know why have I done it….
God help us
Glad you’re in pain. I hope it gets worse for you every day, knowing you’re a complete fraud to the one person you were supposed to protect with all that you had. You’re selfish – and still being selfish. “oh, woe is me! I did something bad, and I got dumped, and now I have no one to talk to [except your husband who deserves to know his wife is a w*re], and I’m sad, and I’m hurt, and I never once thought about anyone but myself and what I want! BOO freakin’ WHO.”
You think it’s bad for you? Wait until your husband finds out. He’s going to be in a lot more pain than you could ever feel, and he got NOTHING out of it. Except for you, a worthless backstabbing wench. Hell, I hope it eats at you every day until you do the right thing and tell him or your husband leaves you because your such a closed off critical, nagging, moody, confusing woman. See… That’s what secrets will turn you into when you lie to your spouse. Keep your mouth shut and see if I’m wrong.
Looks like you’ve taken this personally Specialneeds. What makes you think this confessor is female? What makes you say the confessor was dumped? who is to say the confessor didn’t do the ‘dumping”. Who is to say the confessors spouse hasn’t cheated also. You’ve made way too many judgements and assumptions.
“But now I have to go through the hurt of a failed relationship all on my own… No shoulder to cry on”
That’s a woman. A man might FEEL the same way, but he wouldn’t SAY it like that.
“It might be fun and exciting WHILE IT LASTS…”
That’s someone who got kicked to the curb and wouldn’t have stopped the affair for anything.
“I wish I could take it all back!”
If her spouse were a cheater, she wouldn’t wish she could take it back, she’d feel entitled to it.
And yes, I did take it personally because it happened to me. I’m speaking on behalf of her husband who will likely never get the chance to tell her how he feels because she’s not done using him. Yet. And he deserves better.
IMO, human beings were made imperfect, we sin and that’s the way it is. Not to condone bad behavior but that for some reason is how we are wired, look at the statistics
I am also going to add: I’m beginning to think that monogamy is just unnatural for people
Bull!! If it were unnatural, so many people would not be hurt by it. Even those who cheat get pissed when they are cheated on…(woman gets mad that she is not her lover’s only mistress, man gets mad that his mistress has another lover, etc…)
If it was so unnatural, then why hide it? Be up front and state that you are a person who believes that monogamy is a myth and let the person that you are telling it to decide for themselves if they still want to mess with you. That way, when the poop hits the fan, or emotions start flowing, you can honestly say “you knew what this was”…