Too good a man
Posted by Charlotte, Paris FR in Love on Sep 4th, 2008 | 10 commentsI met my husband through the guy I was dating at the time, and he became my lover. It felt good to be bad. Then he proposed, we went exclusive, moved in together, and he’s been nothing but the sweetest man in the world to me ever since. He tells me he loves me all the time, writes me poems, he finished his education while working two jobs so I wouldn’t have to lift a finger, he spoils me with presents, he’s the most considerate lover I’ve had. He worships me. I love him, but sometimes I realize I liked it better when he was the “wrong” guy, the one I cheated with, the one who asked me to run away with him and never come back. And it’s killing me. He’s perfect and I’m the most ungrateful woman on Earth… but I can’t tell him after so many wonderful years, and we couldn’t live without each other, so I’m holding on. I love him, but not enough.
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you don’t need another man…what you are just wishing for was the EXCITEMENT of the uncertainty…
you can at least talk to your man and tell him what you think you lack in your relationship…
there are ways to make your relationship as exciting as can be.
Look at the measures he has taken to give you what he thought you would love in your life?He worked 2 jobs? Not 1 but 2???? So you could be at home and he finished School, and he tells you all the time just how much he loves you?To give you something you probally never had in your life before.He writes poems for you. Can’t you see how much this man would do for you??How muche he cares about you? ‘WAKE UP BEFORE ITS TOO LATE”
Its the thrill and excitement of doing the forbidden that excites you. You missed that.
What you should do is reflect upon yourself and analyze why you like it. Think 5 years from now whats your sitch if you are still with him. Now think it over again this time without him.
if he is so perfect, why don’t you talk to him.Tell him what you feel.If he loves you as you say, he will understand, and he will try to resolve those problems…you will rezolve them together…but only if you love him too, if you want to be with him.Cause if you don’t…well…let him know…don’t ruin his life.Than you can search for everione else you want…
A friend of mine, has this problem, one day, she finds a man with the one she feels the excitement again, with the time she starts a relationship with this second man, after a year, she starts talking again with her ex, and she was really miserable, because after that time, she realize what had she lost, and the wonderful man that he is.
Don´t lose him for a little of excitement, even if you find another guy, the excitement goes with the time, but the love doesn’t.
A love like this only comes once every lifetime. While you may think you’re unworthy of his love and attention, he’s thinking, “You ARE worth it.” And don’t think you don’t love him enough. He loves you because you’re with him, right here and now, and that is all the reason he needs to love you back. Cherish this love while it can, because nothing last forever.
It seems that you have a great marriage. It’s just that you want to regain that sense of “forbidden” or “bad boy” love. That’s natural. TELL HIM!!!! Tell him in a nice way. Tell him you LOVE who he is and what he does for you but sometimes you kinda miss the “naughty” “bad boy”. As a man, I can tell you that it is highly likely that he will be turned on by this and start spicing it up by playing the bad boy a bit in bed and elsewhere. Encourage him and love him. Go for it!!
It’s always wrong too lie. and sometimes it might even hurt the person more. but lieing 2 yourself is even worst. it would hurt both of u and u should love your husband enough to tell him that he’s not the one.
bored you feel not excitement.LOVE is all that it is cracked up to be that way all children stories end with they live happily ever after
all the drama happen in the middle.i think in ever relateship time together grow love.do thing together. life is to short to have drama
the thing he doing he dont have to do.maybe u need a hobby or a job.
Please don’t let this guy go! are you crazy? there is a time for excitement and there is a time for stability. you have it all working out for you, everything on a platter. that’s why you’re getting bored.
just think, if your husband came to know how you actually feel, won’t he be horribly hurt, after everything he’s done for you? i’m not being judgmental on you, but don’t let this beautiful love slip out of your life. you are very very lucky. cherish it. this guy is for keeps.
try something new…. you start doing nice stuff for him now. it will be exciting, believe me, planning surprises for him. seeing his kind face light up. good luck dear!