Sly Bi
Posted by BiCurious in Love on Jun 10th, 2010 | 5 commentsFor about two years, I’ve thought about dating both boys and girls. I am a female.
And recently, for the past few months, I’ve been dating a guy. However, my attractions to him have…slowly started to dwindle away, and favor more in the other gender.
I decided that because I’ve been dating him for awhile, I shouldn’t suddenly drop the relationship just because of some wavering will.
But… today, I went on a feild trip with my class to an amusement water park as a reward to those eighth graders who are promoting.
There was this cute girl, whom I’ve known since elementary, that attended the field trip. We got tired of swimming in the wave pool so we headed over to the Lazy River. Because there was a lot of people in the river already, intertubes were scarce. Eventually we got a two-seater intertube after a mother and child left the attraction. We settled in and talked for awhile, and, after flirting for a bit… we kissed.
I didn’t know what to do. It was exactly what I had wanted at that moment, and all I wanted to do was sweep her away as my girlfriend… but, what about my boyfriend?
I don’t know what to do. We held hands for a little while on the river and giggled about what had just happened, but we didn’t spend a whole lot of the day together after that; mainly because I had become so uncomfortable with the situation I was now in.
She kissed me on the cheek again when we were leaving. We were trailing behind the group, and as the others entered the bus, she snuck it behind the bus.
I’m really lost. All I want to do is be with her, but should I really give up the relationship I have with my boyfriend because of a kiss?
I feel like a terrible person. I /was/ flirting with her… I shouldn’t have been. I provoked it.
But what should I do? Stay with my boyfriend, who has been nothing but faithful? Or run away with this girl on a whim of romance?
Or should I punish myself, and lose both of them?
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This is a tricky situation. You’ve got to make up your mind over who you would prefer to be with. If it’s the girl then it’s pointless just staying with your boyfriend out of habit. Yes, of course it will hurt his feelings but it’s better to do this sooner rather than later. It may also be worth talking to this girl – is she gay or bi? Does she want a relationship with you or was it just a spur of the moment act?
It sounds to me like you are definitely bi if you are sexually attracted to women as well as men. There is nothing wrong with this – you must be true to yourself and what you want. It’s your life and no one elses and it goes by too quickly – you’ll know in your heart what you really want so go for it!
i don’t mean to minimize your problem but it’s cute. you’re young and still trying to figure out who you are, you don’t need to be involved with anyone, just have fun!
Thank you for the wonderful comments!
Your adivce has been greatly appreciated!
The problem is… less at large, but still, well… a bit of a problem.
But I will not let it linger and haunt me all summer long.
Be truthful to yourself and them. Whatever was meant to be was meant to be. Follow your true passions. Be honest with both of them. It’s only deceit that causes the fear… You flirted with her for a reason. Whether it’s just exploration or something deeper, it’s something you obviously needed to do.
I also had the same situation.. Just follow your heart, do what makes you happy.. Even it hurts your bf its bettee to hurt him with truth than lies.. But remember your limitations and be responsible for your act. Gudluck! :)