Secret whore
Posted by Lier lier in Love on Mar 8th, 2009 | 17 commentsMy boyfriend was a virgin before we were together and I led him to believe I was too (I was with 4 guys before him). He is religious and has even alluded to the fact that he would not think I was “The One” if I wasnt a virgin. 3 years later and its still killing me..
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You lied to him, and for all you know, could have given him a disease. It should upset you. You were selfish.
it’s many years later, telling him would only hurt HIM and destroy any trust. Believe me, what he doesn’t know in this situation won’t hurt him.
I agree with confuzzled wife. Bear the guilt to spare your husbands feelings.
wow..you really suck. so your whole relationship is pretty much based on a lie..that’s great
Don’t listen to them hun. 4 isn’t that bad. Just don’t cheat on him, treat him right and never tell him about the 4.
I know it was wrong but the lie was on accident: I had told him he was my “first” love (he actually is the only guy I’ve ever told that I loved) and he misinterpreted it and started going on and on about how great that was that he was my first- and then I just didn’t have the heart to take it back.
Also at the time I had been led to believe he was NOT a virgin so obviously didn’t know how much that would mean to him. But I know this probably doesn’t excuse me from my lie.
p.s. “Honesty” I don’t know if this makes it better but all of the previous guys I had been in longterm (6 mnths or longer) relationships w/ and used protection- also I would never have put him in danger and of course I was tested prior to our relationship.
“Reality” and “Confuzzled wife”
Thank y’all so much for your advice and God Bless
I have always doubted my boyfriends love for me because I never thought I was good enough to deserve it & have always secretly believed he really only loves me because I was his first and he was mine. I have brought this up to him MANY times after he hints that I am only his soulmate b/c I was his first (this bothers me a lot bec ause the only reason I am not a whore is probably b/c I was molested when I was little and then could not really have men bear to touch me NOT because I’m some really great ethical or moral person) Anyways after his sister found porn on her husbands on their mutual computer by looking through the history , I got an idea on how to test my theory. I posted a “secret- confession” on this site then left my post open in tabs a few times before I gave him the computer to use and left it in my internet history so that he’d think it was a “genuine” confession- then I planned to leave it vague enough so I could blame it on my sis (who also uses the computer) after he confronted me but also descriptive enough that he’d think the confession was mine when he 1st saw it. but but to find out the if he only loved me because I was a virgin before we met and not because of who I am . Anyways it took longer than I thought but I finally found my so-called “confession” but apparently it really was his worst nightmare and he just left me in tears.
If you think he would leave you if you were not his “first” dump his ass he is not worth the time of day! If that is all he cares about you might as well find someone who will love you for you and not for some self centered reason as this. Tell him the truth and let the chips fall where they may cause if that is the only reason he is sticking around like I said before dump his ass and move on with your life. Most guys like experience so 4 is not a high number at all. Tell him to get over it or your gone!
i can see why he would be upset, and you should too. fact is you lied to him and kept the truth from him. so, naturally he is going to angry..but he should get over it. if you’re relationship is based on love then he should forgive you. but if it’s too much for him to deal with, then you know you two weren’t meant to be. just give it time, and if he just cant get over it, then move on. hope everything works out for you, keep us updated! :)
Jesus-you sound like a real manipulative, game-plying insecure little shit. You lied to him and now “test” him by leaving a fake confession where you know he will see it. Women like you are the reason there are so many divorces, tragic single parent situations, etc… Next time you get yourself “tested” include a shrink.
You know everyone on here is telling you to bear the guilt to save his feelings. THat is crap…guilt can destroy a life. If you tell him he will forgive you or not, but then you will know that he was not the man for you. Being a religious man I would assume as long as the men were before him and not after him then it wouldnt matter as long as you have stayed faithful and are now honest…start from a clean slate.
If I’m correct he’s technically just your boyfriend right? Not your fiance or your husband when you started having sex? He may be a religious person but he had sex before marriage, granted it was with you, but if you guys happened to break up, what then? He would probably pursue other relationships which may involve sex. All I’m saying is that the lying is eating you up inside and if he somehow found out some other way it would be even worse. Tell him the truth and explain that he is your first love emotionally if not physically. If he really cannot deal with it then that’s how it is. Hope I helped.
My cousin told her husband she was a virgin. After she had been w about 10 guys and stole pregnancy tests from kmart.He has no clue.
If your husband is that much of a douche that he doesn’t believe you’re worthy of him cause of the fact you don’t have that lil piece of skin on your vagina (the hymen) then he doesn’t really love you. That’s putting a condition for his love to you. I bet you he’s not so innocent either when he was younger. So don’t fret about it. Its up to you to tell him or not…but does it really matter in a the long run. Its how you treat him and how he treats you that really matters. And don’t feel guilty about it. Its not like you murdered sumone or was a prostitute your whole life or had AIDS or sumthing. Just relax and let him stay in his ignorant bliss for the rest of your marriage ok :)
keeping it real, i c u seem to love the word douche. but anyway, shame on u keeping, for calling the hubby a douche. the real douche is the deceitful wife. so shame on u, keeping, for suggesting that the wife keep up the charade.
4 guys is not bad and doesn’t make you a whore.