PreMarital Secrets
Posted by Wedding Tears in Love on Apr 8th, 2008 | 3 commentsI am getting married soon to my most wonderful, caring and genuine, fiancee. This is his first marriage but not mine.My fiancee is the light of my life and the perfect guy for me. We both have accepted the past issues from my divorce and dealth with it and are moving on. But here’s the problem. My friends and certain members of our families won’t let the past die.They really liked my ex too even though I was friends with him for 10 years before I brought him into their life, it seems they’re choosing him. They constantly criticise our current actions saying I have no business remarrying without waiting like 6 years to “recover” and respectfully morn the past divorce. I think this is absurd and very antiquated. My fiancee does too. I think nearly all my friends have now turned on me, ladening me with heavy judgement and really hatefull cold shoulders but also giving big guilt trips when I try to pull away from their nasty treatment, saying that I’m wrong and know it and am trying to run away with my tail between my legs and ruin a perfectly good friendship. My fiancee wants to marry in a church and invite them all. He doesn’t know how bad they are treating me behind his back. I just want to elope. Besides hostility from his family and my friends, it’s becoming consitently harder to not go crazy trying to deal with all these other people’s drama and plan our wedding. My fiancee sometimes thinks I have some deep reserve of super-hero forgiveness and patience and can’t seem to see how much pain I’m in with the harrassing treatment I’m getting on all sides. Nowfor the confession part. I know he’s wonderful and the perfect guy for me. And I don’t want anyone BUT him and if I weren’t with him there woudn’t be another go at this for me. But I’m thinking about breaking it off it he can’t help me and support me and protect me (instead of just blowing off my feelings.)
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Wow….
If you want my advice – sit down with him and tell him how you feel. If he’s the perfect guy for you as you seem to think then he should understand and be there for you and give you the support you need. I know that’s what I’d want if I was in his position.
[quote comment="1125"]Wow….
If you want my advice – sit down with him and tell him how you feel. If he’s the perfect guy for you as you seem to think then he should understand and be there for you and give you the support you need. I know that’s what I’d want if I was in his position.[/quote]
Absolutely. If you are getting married to him, you should be able to talk to him about absolutely anything and everything.
Maybe you’re friends need to go. Emotionally abusive friendships are not healthy. You’re hiding some information as to why they are being so mean. Do you honestly agree with them? If you truly feel in your heart that he is for you then go for it. Don’t let anyone tell you who to love, unless that person is evil. This is not your case. You need to let your lover know what people are saying to you. Maybe holding the wedding off until people accept your desire to get married again, or get new friends. Who’s more supportive of you? Your friends or your fiancee? I wouldn’t want such vain people at my wedding. If I were you, I’d want to move away with my man and start over in a new place.