Love Stinks
Posted by LovingMyBestFriend in Love on Jul 5th, 2011 | 9 commentsI have been best friends with a guy for 7 years, and we got so close over the past year. I honestly think that I am in love with him; I think about him all the time, he is in all of my dreams, and whenever I am near him, I start getting all flirty and nervous and I always want to look good around him.
I want to tell him that I love him, but I don’t want to ruin our friendship, and since I have so few friends to begin with, I am really hesitant to tell him. But recently, due to the deathly illness of a few family members, I have started feeling like I am willing to risk it because life is so short and you could die at any moment.
I just dont know what to do because I know for sure that I am completely, irrevocably, totally in love with him.
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I have this same problem too I really want to tell my best friend also. I would stick with you and wouldn’t risk your friendship together. Think about it, if you ever do date then what happens if you decide to break up? Will you be able to go back to just friends?
I think you should tell him because if you never do and you keep it inside of you, you will never know how he feels about you. He may feel the same or he may not, but either way, it’s best to tell him.
ask him out. not somewhere fancy just casual, like friendlies or something. then try throwing subtle signals at him and see how he reacts to it. if it seems like he did’t get the message, try again only this time, ask him to go somewhere you would actually want to have a date. best of luck to ya.
Your story sounds interesting. You might love your friend but is it necessary to expect that you can have a romantic relationship with him? You might want to think of your situation in reverse. Would you want him to tell you were he in love with you and you, not him? How do you think it would affect your relationship if your friend knew that you love him? I always say Life is Long and you can find love elsewhere if you really try. Maybe you’re expecting more of your friendship than is possible.
Good Luck.
I think most people have been in the same boat as you, me included. If your friend and you are single…I say go for it. Life is so short to live in regrets. Life is too hard to go through it alone. If you are in love with your best friend, how great is that. Being with someone to help you when u have a bad day, who u love and is ur best friend. Don’t live in regret, especially when something amazing could come to it. I know u are worried about losing ur friendship but Trust me when I say its better find out now if he doesn’t feel the same way than 3 years down the road. Find out now so u don’t waste ur time dreaming of a fantasy instead of living in one. Time is so precious.
He would of picked up on if you like him or not. He is staying tight lipped because he is not interested in you in that way.
I dont believe that one can fall in love with best friends, friendship and love are two different things. you probably focus on him and having not many friends, feeling lonely.
Dont be with someone just becaus eu r lonely.
Love will find you someday but its not him, cause if it was love you would know it from the begining not after 7 years. Sorry this is not love at all, not even close!
What do you know? The best loves are also good friends.
He’s a guy. He probably would be happy to have a relationship with you. Just don’t expect that you can go back to being friends if you start a romantic relationship.