Long distance relationship
Posted by Kinky lover in Love on Mar 9th, 2008 | 13 commentsHello I am a 27 year old who just had an amazing relationship with a student i met in my home town. Well I moved to another country and after 6 months she will finish her school and we will be together again.
Now heres the problem . I am addicted to sex and so is she.. We are both modern attractive people and can get whoever we want.
But… We decided to stay together so that means no cheating on each other..
Well when we were together we`ve made love 2-3 times a day for 6 months not excluding periods.. :-P I love it and she loves it.. Now 1 month of loneliness has passed and we are both going crazy with the fact that we dont want to cheat on each other but have an irresistable urge to have sex…
I have the opportunity now to cheat on her and i know she will never find out.. Do i have the right to cheat on her if i know she will also do the same ??? I mean we really love each other but we are both seriously addicted to sex…. What shall we do ??
I am afraid bringup the issue of leaving each other free for the 5 months left will result in me or her falling in love with somebody else … I really want to marry her and she really loves me..
Girls please tell me… Would you cheat on me if you were in her situation… I really need some re-assuring here.. I dont want to be the only one sticking to the deal… If we both dont cheat on each other its okay… i will wait for her.. but i know she loves sex so much she wont be able to stay faithful…. Help me make up my mind please??
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I dont know what it feels like to be a sex addict. But if its like any other addiction, then you should seek help it, because (I think that) an addiction of any kind will ruin any opportunity you have at happiness in your life.. assuming happiness is what you want. Regardless, you should be honest with your girlfriend and not do anything to intentionally hurt her. Be aware that love is a gift and to have it is to be awesomely lucky and sabotage it is nothing but weak.
Self-… .Just for 5 months. Affairs always end disasterly.
I would’nt cheat on you……….. But srsly, if u reli luv this gal, u wudnt cheat on her either!!!
(if u do…….. u really r a bastard……………)
According to me the best thing you can do is to show your writing (above) her! You wrote down very clearly everything. She will understand it, because she will be ensured about that she is really important for you but you have an addiction for which you are not responsible! If she soen not understand it, I think it would be better for you to spend the future without her! But I am 90% that everything will be OK.
S. (female)
i think Student{s} got it right, you say you love this girl – then dont cheat on her no matter how much you crave sex!! download some porn and have a wank if you’re that desperate!
but i do know how you feel, my boyfriend is in another country on a gap year and its so tempting whenever i go out to go further than close dancing with the guy of the weekend, because my boyfriend will never find out. the closest i’ve ever got is kissing, any more and my brain goes on some kind of red alert you know? lol
WAIT OUT THE 5 MONTHS. dont do anything with anyone else. love is very powerful. try phone sex with her or watch porn and do it urself. but wait on her. test your love for her and wait. maybe one of you can take a trip and visit the other half way the 5 mths. but dont go with anyone else for sex. it would not be worth it, take my word!
Okay Girls ,
Thanks for your honest feedback.. Just a bit upset suzan calls me a selfish … Well if i was and didnt have this feeling of obligation 1.I wouldn’t post this 2.I wouldn’t think about her feelings.. :-P Anyway ..
After 2 months i went for a suprise visit (10000 miles) And we had fun as always.. Just somehow i feel somethings going on ..
In the meanwhile i honestly didnt cheat on her but she keeps questioning me .. To the point I am really feeling attacked and mistrusted. Is this the behaviour of a girl who wants to justify her own mistakes by finding the mistake on my side?… I dont know how.. But i feel she`s been with someone else.. Do you agree that sexual partners change their behaviour in bed as they gain more experience ??
I mean she really is very different in bed now and asks for other things.. Girls.. More feedback please..
[quote post="242"]I would’nt cheat on you……….. But srsly, if u reli luv this gal, u wudnt cheat on her either!!!
(if u do…….. u really r a bastard……………)[/quote]
I do love her.. But its her behaviour that makes me uncertain about this.. How can I love a person i cannot fully trust..
Seriously … I would never cheat on her if she makes me feel safe & secure.. But all the time she`s joking when i`m in contact with her…
For example :
I call her… and she says .. no i`m busy there`s some guy over… Do you want to talk to him ?? Then she hands over the phone and its a girl…
I mean.. she`s really messing with my head.. HELP HELP…
well if you are really addicted to sex i think its called nymphmania
but allso if she addicted to sex all you have to do is to tell here your prob ..
if she feels the same ( i mean if she really addicted to sex as you do ) she will understand you and i guess allow you to cheat
but beside this i think you need help cause
you really cant be in a reall good and strong realtionship if you are a nympho …. think about it
just saw your last commment ..
how about doing the same
i mean play the same game she plays
like if she calls you tell her that there’s a girl over there …… and see how she react ..
well…i really appreciiate the way you try to stay faithful to her knowing she might do some things behind your back that she wont like. just wait for her to do something wrong. get me? if you caught her cheating then, you can break up with her already. just dont do it first. you’ll never know she might be faithful to you.. :)
hey dude you already answered ur own question what was it you said you both have in common AN ADDICTION TO SEX DUH!!! now you asking what you think shell do get real with yourself ok and stop waiting for her to make the first knowing you want as well two wrongs dont make a right ok1!! you both have an addiction either get help be real with yourself and each other instead of wasting each others time look i love sex but after hours go bye i want you off of me you dig!!! stop looking for an excuse to do what ur **** itching to do you done know you gon do it anyhows so stop already!!!!!
Well if you cant hold out for 5 months with lots and lots of creative self lovin waiting for her then what makes you think that in 5 years after you and you’re girl have been together, that you’re not going to want a verity of fish tacos. You catch my drift? Addicted sex addicts are not meant to be committed to just one. Sucks for you!