I’ve been the guy in girl-guy-girl relationship for almost 9 months now. They want to start a family and that’s cool, except only our closest friends know she isn’t just a roommate. I don’t want to come out to our families, I don’t want to lose something most men would kill for either, crap crap crap!
My housemates have been in a successful polyamorous relationship for nine YEARS.
Honestly, it can be done.
Starting a family after nine months sounds really soon (but that is just my opinion), but, hey!
Poly couples always strike me as being really amazing, because they require three different communication styles to merge rather than just two. What you are doing is pretty great!
Coming out is so much easier when you have a supportive community. Is there anyone you can trust initially to be a “sounding board,” so to speak?