It’s always been a mess, and now I have this problem with lust.

I have a man that I am in love with, but it’s so hard.
We care about one another, but had to work through so many issues first. We were together once before. He cheated, and I broke it off. I slept with a friend of his, and he freaked out. Fast forward awhile later, and we both worked through our damaged egos to get to where we are now.
I think I can trust him now, but the silly part is there are things about us that just frustrate me. His sex drive is low and mine is high, which creates conflict. He won’t tell me he loves me, which creates insecurity. And we still fight over dumb things, which makes us lack stability.
We’ve come a very long way since the childishness of our past together, and learned to love and accept one another for who we are. We’ve both been in dysfunctional relationships in our past…but I’m a runner.
I always want to flee when things are difficult. Sometimes, I miss the sex I had with former partners, because my boyfriend is very consistent and not very experimental. Sex is very important to me, even though it shouldn’t be, and I’m not sure how long I can deal with this low desire factor. I’ve confronted him about it, we’ve tried different things. We are just like night/day with our needs and frequency. When it comes to the other thing…I definitely miss feeling stable, and I think we’re getting there. But how patient can I be?