I love her.
Posted by Found in Love on Sep 19th, 2010 | 6 commentsIm a girl, and yes I’m in love with HER. We’ve been together for two months.. And have been talking for a total of 5 months. Her friends are very accepting and support her.. Not one of my friends know. My bestfriend of 3 years would be the one person I would trust enough to tell.. But when I told her that my ‘friend’ was a lesbian, she freaked out and I eventually told my bestfriend that she converted back to boys.. I told my bestfriend she was ‘experimenting’. I don’t trust any of my friends. So i cant tell them that I love my girlfriend.. I cantrell them that I’m gay.. I can’t tell them howhappy I am because of her.. I can’t talk about my weekends, because they only involve her (sense she goes to a different school). I can’t bring her around them because something might slip.. Or we would get cought. My parents know, her parents know. Most of her friends know.. But I can’t tell anyone. I can’t brag about her, like all my friends do with their boyfriends. I’m finally so happy, so truely happy.. And I can’t even tell anyone.
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It’s really sad when you read something like this. True friends should always be able to express joy when the other one feels he or she is happy. I’ve had a similar experience. While it wasn’t for someone of the same sex I began to date someone that my “friends” didn’t exactly approve of. They looked down on him because they never took the time to get to know him. They barely made an effort to accept him and as a result, put me in an uncomfortable position. I was so angry. How could they not put aside their own opinions and just be happy for me because I found someone that made me feel incredible? I won’t lie to you and say it all worked out because it didn’t. I don’t talk to these girls anymore because I realized that we weren’t compatible as friends and the inability to accept my boyfriend was what helped me to see that…as much as I didn’t want to. Knowing someone doesn’t care about you for you was extremely hurtful. It was hard on me but I can’t imagine what it must be like for you. Realizing your gay is one thing but having your best friends apparent disapproval is a whole different ball game. I’m not a shrink but if your girlfriend makes you happy then you should inform your friends just how much she does and how fantastically you are doing. Perhaps if you talk to them seriously then they will understand your feelings. I wish you the best.
=( I think you are just going to have to tell them and get it over with. (IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT TO DO) The only people I could tell is my brother and my friend who is also gay. If your friends can’t accept you, it’s time to get some new ones.
I agree, don’t feel ashamed of who you are.. I’m a gay female, I came out four years ago, after a long unhappy marriage. I couldn’t come out because my family was so abusive and times were different then. I understand that it’s not easy but there is so much more help and understanding now. Celebrate who you are
I think that if you tell those people you call friends, and they start to tease or change their feelings toward you in a negative way and are NOT accepting…then I think you need to change the people you hang out with….a real friend will accept you no matter your sexual orientation. for that is your preference that doesn’t concern there personal opinion. Be who you are and nothing else….because no one else will…and don’t regret and second of it…so when you look back you can smile and say you lived a happy and good life.
I dont think there is anything wrong with not telling anyone right now. The only benefit you receive from telling your friends right now is that you can tell them how much you care about her and the fun you have.
So!!! Love shouldnt have to be blurted across the land. What is important is that you have your feelings and she has hers.
Nothing wrong with keeping this quiet. It is your right not to tell also. I personally am more impressed with people who do not feel they have to talk about their love lives so much. I understand this might consume you right now (your relationship) but all relationships calm down as time moves forward. That is what makes them so great.
What is important is your feelings……….for one another. Not the fact that you want to yell it from a mountain. The best relationships often are kept within a small boundary.
Found in Love, If you want honest answers to questions like that, people need the right information, and more of it. Like the fact that your barely 14 and she is 18. That this is your first experiment with a gay relationship and this could just be teenage infatuation. Not saying you couldn’t let it happen for awhile, but I bet your peers would think waiting to tell the world your gay at 14 might be a good idea.