Comments on: I can’t get over him http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2 Confess your deepest, darkest secret Sun, 15 Jan 2012 05:12:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ms2011 http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2/comment-page-1#comment-19781 Ms2011 Thu, 13 Oct 2011 06:44:28 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=5398#comment-19781 athena and anonymous...tho years has passed since you posted your comments, I just wanna say you two are to very smart, realistic humans beings, and truthful...you nailed it! God Bless! and even tho i know the OP will prolly never read this again and tho this thread may be lost forever...I just wanna tell you to please listen to what athena and anonymous said...its the truth! the basic truth! in all situations... there is no such thing as luv, luv is the sh%t you make up in your head. Good luck! athena and anonymous…tho years has passed since you posted your comments, I just wanna say you two are to very smart, realistic humans beings, and truthful…you nailed it! God Bless! and even tho i know the OP will prolly never read this again and tho this thread may be lost forever…I just wanna tell you to please listen to what athena and anonymous said…its the truth! the basic truth! in all situations… there is no such thing as luv, luv is the sh%t you make up in your head. Good luck!

]]> By: Athena http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2/comment-page-1#comment-8745 Athena Fri, 13 Aug 2010 11:56:30 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=5398#comment-8745 I would cut DB out of your life. i know emotions are hard, but I come from a story like this from a slightly different angle. Like you I fell in love at a young age with a much older and more experienced man called PR. The emotions were intoxicating and had been until we go back together years later. This is the same man that, like DB, was a filthy cheater, chose someone else over me, etc etc. I never got married, but I was in a relationship for years even though I still had strong feelings for PR. Well he got back in touch with, I left my other love, and we got back together. I soon realized all the memories I had of him about how wonderful he was and how perfect he was, how sexy we were together, was all in my head. I was too naive to realize what a terrible lover he was, how bad he treated me, and how at a much more mature age, I wouldn't put up with half of his games anymore. You need to seriously reread what you wrote, and try to be objective about it. This man does not deserve you and even if by some magic you do get back together, reality will never live up to the fantasy you spent years perfecting in your mind. Leave him in the past. I would cut DB out of your life. i know emotions are hard, but I come from a story like this from a slightly different angle. Like you I fell in love at a young age with a much older and more experienced man called PR. The emotions were intoxicating and had been until we go back together years later. This is the same man that, like DB, was a filthy cheater, chose someone else over me, etc etc.

I never got married, but I was in a relationship for years even though I still had strong feelings for PR. Well he got back in touch with, I left my other love, and we got back together. I soon realized all the memories I had of him about how wonderful he was and how perfect he was, how sexy we were together, was all in my head. I was too naive to realize what a terrible lover he was, how bad he treated me, and how at a much more mature age, I wouldn’t put up with half of his games anymore.

You need to seriously reread what you wrote, and try to be objective about it. This man does not deserve you and even if by some magic you do get back together, reality will never live up to the fantasy you spent years perfecting in your mind. Leave him in the past.

]]> By: Bop http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2/comment-page-1#comment-5329 Bop Sun, 07 Feb 2010 13:20:16 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=5398#comment-5329 I would go find DB and tell him your still in love with him. No other man will ever complete you. I would go find DB and tell him your still in love with him. No other man will ever complete you.

]]> By: eternalflame5 http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2/comment-page-1#comment-4959 eternalflame5 Tue, 05 Jan 2010 06:36:00 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=5398#comment-4959 i am in almost that exact situation: ad and i fell in love at 16 and it ended at 18. i know now that such a close relationship at a young age scares almost every male person. he tried dating someone else our senior year but we got back together by graduation. however, my happiness was short-lived as he went back to her by september. i fell in love with (and married) cf, but there are still times when i wonder what would have happened. i believe all Loves are different- you can never feel the same way with two people. ad was my first love; it was strong, passionate...perfect. even though it ended, i am only human and memories like those have shaped my beliefs in romance and that two people are capable of being attached without losing themselves. good luck to you. i am in almost that exact situation: ad and i fell in love at 16 and it ended at 18. i know now that such a close relationship at a young age scares almost every male person. he tried dating someone else our senior year but we got back together by graduation. however, my happiness was short-lived as he went back to her by september. i fell in love with (and married) cf, but there are still times when i wonder what would have happened. i believe all Loves are different- you can never feel the same way with two people. ad was my first love; it was strong, passionate…perfect. even though it ended, i am only human and memories like those have shaped my beliefs in romance and that two people are capable of being attached without losing themselves. good luck to you.

]]> By: Bubear50 http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2/comment-page-1#comment-4955 Bubear50 Mon, 04 Jan 2010 19:47:24 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=5398#comment-4955 Well thats what happens when you get dumped and you "settle" on someone else. You need to "closeout" that sad chapter of your life. How you do that is hard but if you want to stay married thats what has to happen. Good luck Well thats what happens when you get dumped and you “settle” on someone else. You need to “closeout” that sad chapter of your life.

How you do that is hard but if you want to stay married thats what has to happen.

Good luck

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2/comment-page-1#comment-4929 Anonymous Fri, 01 Jan 2010 18:49:40 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=5398#comment-4929 *God speed. *God speed.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.secret-confessions.com/love/i-cant-get-over-him-2/comment-page-1#comment-4928 Anonymous Fri, 01 Jan 2010 18:48:49 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=5398#comment-4928 I think what you feel for your former teacher is infatuation. I do not say that to belittle the feelings you clearly have for him but I say it as someone who can now say they know the difference. The reason you feel so strongly for him is because you had a crush on him at such an early age when you were just realizing and gettig to know those types of feelings. He took advantage of your youth and naiivty. He used you knowing full well you had no expereice and he had tons. He was much older and already in a relationship. He took your innocence. Part of the reason you feel so strongly is becasue of the fact that he was you first, he took you virginity and so you feel a special connection to him. Most of the sexual excitment you felt and still feel was the idea of doing such an intimate thing with someone you have "loved" for such a long time...you guys did wait three years. He cheats...and sad to say he would likely cheat on you as he is probably still doing on his wife with some other young girl that he is manipulatiing. You may never truly be able to get him out of your system...and by him occasionally calling you and then not contacting you back he is making sure to keep himself fresh in your mind. He is not a good person by any means. I have experienced the same thing and as an adult around your same age I can see how wrong it is for me...knowing what I know now...to play with the emotions of a young child, lead them astray, use them and then move on with your life. IT IS WRONG ON ALL LEVELS! I cannot speak for your current realtionship as I do not know your husband...but if the only thing wrong is he doesn't express himself more then that is something you can work on. You may be emotionally absent as well which is in turn causing him to be too. Focus on the here and now...leave that scum behind...think about him ocassionally if you must but then come back to the reality that he didn't think enough of you to make you a priotiy in his life. Even now he just wants you as a side dish...what a jerk! As the saying goes...never make someone a priorty if to them you are only an option. Be well my dear. Work on your marriage and be happy. God spped. I think what you feel for your former teacher is infatuation. I do not say that to belittle the feelings you clearly have for him but I say it as someone who can now say they know the difference. The reason you feel so strongly for him is because you had a crush on him at such an early age when you were just realizing and gettig to know those types of feelings. He took advantage of your youth and naiivty. He used you knowing full well you had no expereice and he had tons. He was much older and already in a relationship. He took your innocence. Part of the reason you feel so strongly is becasue of the fact that he was you first, he took you virginity and so you feel a special connection to him. Most of the sexual excitment you felt and still feel was the idea of doing such an intimate thing with someone you have “loved” for such a long time…you guys did wait three years. He cheats…and sad to say he would likely cheat on you as he is probably still doing on his wife with some other young girl that he is manipulatiing. You may never truly be able to get him out of your system…and by him occasionally calling you and then not contacting you back he is making sure to keep himself fresh in your mind. He is not a good person by any means. I have experienced the same thing and as an adult around your same age I can see how wrong it is for me…knowing what I know now…to play with the emotions of a young child, lead them astray, use them and then move on with your life. IT IS WRONG ON ALL LEVELS! I cannot speak for your current realtionship as I do not know your husband…but if the only thing wrong is he doesn’t express himself more then that is something you can work on. You may be emotionally absent as well which is in turn causing him to be too. Focus on the here and now…leave that scum behind…think about him ocassionally if you must but then come back to the reality that he didn’t think enough of you to make you a priotiy in his life. Even now he just wants you as a side dish…what a jerk! As the saying goes…never make someone a priorty if to them you are only an option. Be well my dear. Work on your marriage and be happy. God spped.

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