I can not trust
Posted by I want to trust him in Love on Jan 9th, 2011 | 2 commentsWhy can I not trust him? He gives me no reason not to distrust him. He never gets strange phone calls, he is always with me, he randomly writes me love letters that make me cry they are so sweet, our sex life is still as lively as it was when we first got together 3 years ago, he is the greatest guy any girl could ask for and he treats me like i’m his queen.
But still I am constantly checking his emails, checking his phone, looking through his stuff, I can’t fall asleep without him next to me because I am thinking what he could posibly be doing even though he is just down stairs watching tv.
I have a horible fear of him cheating. Even though he would never do that, I just can’t trust him. I want to so bad.
My last seriouse relationship the guy cheated on me. I actually didn’t find this out until I was with my current boyfriend for about 6 months. I think thats when I really started not trusting him.
I have always had insecurity issues, but I think they got really bad after I found that out. Because when my ex cheated on me it was during the best part of our relationship. Just a week after he cheated on me he proposed.
So it makes me think, I didn’t think my ex would do that at the time, i was so in love with him and I thought he was so in love with me.
I think maybe I am to afraid to trust my Boyfriend because I feel as soon as I let my guard down he will betray me.
I just want to make him happy and I don’t feel I can do that fully until I start trusting him.
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It’s quite obvious that your past relationship is effecting your new one. You are way too insecure now and you might eventually drive your new guy away with your behavior. :(
I think you need to step back, take a breather, talk this through with your new bf, and take the dive….
…Because that’s what love is. It’s either you stay on ground or let love pull you in. It won’t ever work if you continue to doubt the strength of your relationship because you aren’t with that loser anymore.
The future is a mystery but if this guy is great, isn’t he worth it? Be strong!
Natural response. When you think you found the perfect person; the idea of them leaving you or cheating on you is horrible.
The best thing you can do is try and make him feel the way he makes you feel.
try talking to him about it. If he’s as great as you say, then i’m sure he can understand your feelings of insecurity.