Homewrecker

Posted by in Love on Oct 16th, 2010 | 6 comments

I met this guy in a chat room 6 months ago and we pretty much fell in love over the internet talking everyday for hours. When we finally saw each other 3 weeks ago it was exactly how we thought it would be; special, sweet,… and I was REALLY happy…
After a couple of dates he said he had something important to tell me… He told me he was still in a relationship with his ex-girlfriend 2 weeks ago and that she is pregnant with his child… And it wasn’t an accidental pregnancy! But now he broke up with her to be with me and I feel SO bad. He lied to me for 6 months saying he was single, living alone, etc. Now I just learned the truth and told him we can’t be together in this situation. I don’t want to break up a family (they also already have an older child that I was aware of and totally o.k. with)… But at the same time I love him a lot too… But I can’t see myself going out with a guy who’s soon going to be a father! I don’t think I could accept the new baby ever… He’s sending me flowers and telling me he wants us to have kids together (someday) and is really serious about us… But how can I be in a relationship with a guy that lied for me for 6 months and left his pregnant girlfriend… I told my friends and family and they’re telling me to run away but I just can’t… I love him and hate him so much at the same time… Being in that kind of relationship is against everything i believe in or wants for my future… I feel really bad for the pregnant ex but at the same time I hate her and her baby cause they are stopping me to be with the one I love… I know what I should do since that’s how I fell… But still I can’t manage to cut him off… I know people are going to say if he did that to his ex he could easily do it to you too, but it’s not like that… I don’t know what to do anymore… But the shittiest thing is what bothers me more… it isn’t the thought of breaking up a family… I’m not o.k with him having a baby with another girl I’m bitter and jealous… Scares me how selfish I am…

6 Responses to “ “Homewrecker”

  1. Darling says:
    October 16, 2010 at 8:31 pm

    Dearest, you’re troubles aren’t going to be your guilt. You’re troubles are going to be whether he does that to you when you are impregnated.

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  2. It's up to you says:
    October 19, 2010 at 12:48 am

    Just know if you stick with him, you could only blame yourself if he does the same to you. Do you live in a broken home? Put yourself, him and his ex aside for one minute. Think about these innocent children who will suffer not having both parents around. Do you know how hard it is for a woman to raise to small kids by herself?? Apparently you don’t have any kids, otherwise your conscience would have eaten away at you for even thinking of staying with him. He created this fairy tale life for your two that clearly will not become reality. If his ex got pregnant within the last six months, he was pretty much cheating on both of you. Don’t you get it. If he really only wanted to be with you, then he would not have slept and impregnated his ex and instead made it a point to meet you sooner. Why didn’t he do it?? Because that is not his ex, it is his girlfriend and mother to his children. You staying with him is just as bad as if you knew he wasn’t single.

    Of course he is going to try to win you over by buying you flowers and other things, but has he even once discussed how he is going to provide for his other family while hyou are together. This guy seems really phony. You might want to listen to your family if you don’t want them to have the last laugh at your expense.

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  3. From a cheater too says:
    October 21, 2010 at 6:17 am

    You will find out the hard way that he ALWAYS had his family and you were just a bitch on the side. Of course he cares for you, you give him great sex. And honestly he can still love you too (but not more than his main chick or family for sure). But he was lying to you all the time about his girl being his ex-girl. Thats what we do. We always say our girl is our ex and we try to keep another one on the side. Just know, you will ALWAYS be his side bitch. He will NEVER leave his main chick. You will see i’m 100% right.

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  4. Bluesteel says:
    October 21, 2010 at 9:17 am

    Don’t do it. Love is simply a chemical reaction in your brain. Use your logic and not your emotion in this one.

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  5. simple says:
    October 23, 2010 at 6:40 pm

    You said you fell in love with “him.” But the “him” that you fell in love with wasn’t telling the truth. So you really didn’t know “him.”

    Ya know…..

    So.. start over. Who is he, really?

    And… are you in love with this guy?

    Sounds like you are having trouble forgetting the “him” that you thought he was.

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