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I used to think heartache was just something that was made up to write cheasy songs about. Unfortunately, now I know how real it is.
I’m a married man that fell in love with a married coworker. I’ve never acted on it. She just thinks of me as a good friend. Rather, she did. I’ve been ignoring her lately, trying to let my feeling subside, so who knows what she thinks now. Its been over a year. I still think about her all of the time. It’s hard not to. I see her more than my wife. I know that only time and distance can help me fall out of love but its hard to make that happen given the situation.
It’s not a physical or lustful thing. I just think about a time that I could tell her how much I care for her and love her. I know she knows how I feel but not to the extent that I do.
I’m trying to make these feeling pass. Every time she enters my mind I literally feel a pain in my heart. Its a little less strong these days. I feel like I am slowly getting over her, now that I don’t speak to her as much, but I have a long way to go.
I feel bad that we can’t have the friendship like we had. She’s an amazing person and a wonderful friend but I know I can’t continue to be her friend if I want to get passed this.
I miss her. I’m sorry I fell in love and screwed up our friendship. I mean no disrespect to our families. I didn’t ask to fall in love. I’m trying not to be. I really am.
ExBestFriend on June 8th 2008 in Love
Been there...it hurts! said on 10 Jun 2008 at 7:21 pm # Quote
I commend you on your “choice” to honor your marriage. I have been on the other side and my husband made the “choice” to cheat. At first I was extremely angry, now I am hurt beyond belief. Twelve years of marriage and two children later, I am in so much pain from his “choice.” I beg you to become “best friends” with our wife again. She deserves that kind of love and friendship. You sound like a good man who has made the “choice” to be faithful. Stay strong and spend your energy on your “new found” friendship with your wife. Best of luck to you.
ExBestFriend said on 10 Jul 2008 at 8:54 am # Quote
Thank you for the reply.
I can’t say that I really “chose” not to cheat. The desire isn’t really there, physically anyway. And I’m certain she wouldn’t want to. Not that it’s any better, but its more of an emotional thing. All I think about is telling her how I feel and how she has affected me.
I don’t know how else to get rid of these feelings without just “letting them out”. She has to know. We were good friends and now all of the sudden I’m ignoring her. Things have gotten awkward. I don’t want this to interfere with my job (or home life) but it is. I just don’t know how else to deal with it.
Posting here helps. I feel a bit better.
Thanks.
Sherika said on 23 Sep 2008 at 12:07 pm # Quote
Im sorry…but from my opinion.. it sounds like there is a little bit more to ur story!!!!! So watever it is..GET OVER ur feelings for the other woman and stick to ur wife!! U married her for a reason!! Dont let the devil take over ur mind!! Jus try and make things better at home with ur wife…even if it means not speaking to ur co-worker.