Frustrated & Confused
Posted by anon in Love on Sep 2nd, 2010 | 5 commentsI’m a married man of 15 years and I love my wife. But due to circumstances beyond her control the intimacy is dead. I have always loved women of all shapes and sizes and have been faithful to my wife. But in the last year or so I find myself getting infatuated with women I have no business being so with.
I generally like women my own age 38 but I recently met a woman (25) and I can’t stop thinking about her. She actually does some freelance work for me and that’s how I found myself in this position.
I’m around beautiful women on a regular basis so it’s not that this girl is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen but she is a total package. Good looking, sense of humor, same taste in music and beautiful on the inside. She’s also mature for her age group.
A couple of weeks ago we had to go out of town on some business. One night after work I asked her if she wanted to go hang out for a bit. We spent all night just talking until the early morning hours.
Now she already had an idea that I think she’s great but I made sure I told her so there was no confusion. At this point she tells me she is in love with her bf of 7yrs and I should have found her 3yrs earlier. I walked her back to her room and ended it with a hug and kiss on the cheek.
It was the best night I’ve had in a long time!
The next day after work I asked if we could do it again and we did. We just sat and talked until the sun came up. Another great night!
Problem is I can’t get her out of my head. I only see her once a month so this is killing me. Part of me wants to play the friend roll and see where this goes and hope I’m in the right place at the right time. Or I may discover she’s really not what I thought she was.
I understand she’s in love with her bf but if she didn’t have any interest would she have spent both nights with me? Or is it just my male DNA telling me there’s more there than there actually is?
I’m so confused! I want to see where this leads but maybe it’s just wishful thinking.
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Truth: “till death do us part” Not “till I become bored or have a midlife crisis”. You took a oath Sir, before god, state and wife. Break it and you will know you are with out honor.
Your having an emotional affair dueshbag.
Your wife’s lack of intamacy certainly made you vulnerable, but what your feeling with that other woman is just a product of you not getting any at home – your feelings for her aren’t as real as you think they are. It’s chemical – your getting an emotional high from her because you think there’s a possibility.
And the truth is, there is a possibility. But if you take it, you’ll destroy your wife. Every year you’ve had with her, every trying time, every happy time, every moment of her life with you will be poisoned. Not bad enough to stop you? You will also destroy your girlfriends chances with her boyfriend of 7 YEARS. She will be devastated, and ashamed, and will feel worthless for doing THAT to HIM. The one she really loves. Because she’s getting from you the same thing you’re getting from her – an emotional high. The fact that you’re cheating just makes it a better high. You’re forgetting yourself.
Go with your WIFE to a sex therapist before you destroy 4 lives (not including kids) and put the energy back into your marriage this week. And know this – as long as you have ANY contact with that other woman, your cheating YOUR WIFE out of happiness and energy that belongs to her. If your really so unhappy with your wife, get out.
What you are experiencing is normal. It happens all the time. But.. you need to work on things with your wife. This kind of infatuation you have can lead to trouble. Be honest.
This is the case happens with most of the women in this town, they fall for other guy although being in a realtionship already, as the old relationship gets too complacent and
each couple needs change to spice up there luv life and you are doing a fine job by taking her out for 2nights,
iam sure she can go little further if you try, but is thecase of as good as it lasts and nothing more have anice day
somehow i guess shes attracted 2 you..coz shes got a bf but still met you