RSSExtremely Hurt
I have been in and out of a relationship with this guy for 9 years. We started going out when I was 14 he was 16. we were madly in love. We started growing up and growing apart. We moved in together and he wouldn’t come home until the wee hours of the morning and I was always home waiting for him. I moved out 6 months later. We were still together. Since then we have been on and off, but never spent a full week without talking to each other or seeing each other. We still loved one another and cried at the thought of not being together. I finally started to see other people because he wouldn’t make a commitment and started drinking all the time. He would come to me and say everything I wanted to hear and I would break it off with other boy and after that he would not live up to his promises. We still always talked and spent time together but no commitment. That happened three times with casual relationships. I finally met someone who I fell for in a short time span. I was going to move with him. My ex of 7 years (at the time) completely ruined the relationship between the guy and I. He made his promises and I of course, fell for it and left the guy I was with. He did the same thing again and didn’t fulfill his promises. So, I decided that I would not go out with anyone else b/c I didn’t think it was right to put someone else through all that b/c I wasn’t over my ex. My ex and I did what we usually did and I would do everything for him, love him and treat him like a king. Then, I got pregnant. He yelled at me and treated me terrible. He even said that if I had it I would ruin his life. I couldn’t believe that the guy I have loved for 9 years would do this to me. During “complications” (abortion) he stopped talking to me so much and showed no affection. I went to appointments all by myself and got really depressed. After some time we mended our relationship and were together. But still no Solid commitment. He told me he loved me. Just a couple of days ago he said that he had met someone else. Nothing too serious just hung out a couple of times. He still wants to talk to me and see me though. I’m truly tired but I don’t know how to get away from him. It’s like my heart is glued to him. Need some words of wisdom. I can’t talk to anyone else. Thanks.
Anonymous on April 29th 2008 in Love
Princess Starbucks said on 30 Apr 2008 at 1:22 am # Quote
You had an abortion simply because it would ruin HIS life? That right there should tell you all you need to know. He is selfish, self centered and apparently wants to have his cake and eat it too. Unless you enjoy being the escape goat he comes running back to, I suggest you pull your head out of your ass and move on.
OldSmurf said on 30 Apr 2008 at 1:25 am # Quote
You have found a real creep! Kick him to the curb and never ever talk to him again. Cut it off right now. You are his fall back plan and a sutible substitue for masturbation. He will say, do, or promise anything to you to keep you around, but he does not love you. It will be hard but you need to end this disfunction and get on with your life. One more thing and I know it can be difficult at times but commit yourself to not having sex again untill you are married and than that way you will know if a man loves you for you or if he is just with you for the sex.
wiwi said on 30 Apr 2008 at 3:22 am # Quote
its your fualt, have respect for your self, its so obvious that he doesnt love because he finds you easy to get, you are available for him all the time, even if you are in a middle of a relationship, he knows just talking to you and just telling you what you want to hear you will go back to him. try to keep what integrity left for you and live for ever before he gets bored and live forever.
nikki said on 30 Apr 2008 at 4:31 am # Quote
wiwi said:
this message was rude it is not her fault.
missB said on 02 May 2008 at 12:50 pm # Quote
w0w…i feel like if that5 wat m3 n my man gonna end up like,…we been t0gether f0r 3 years and g0 through the sam3 shit…
Quetzalcoatl said on 06 May 2008 at 1:50 pm # Quote
I think wiwi is right. After so many times she has fallen for his lies, it really is her fault. Check the pattern, find the mistake/problem, get rid of it. We have what we want. If you don’t want more pain of suffering, don’t go near this guy again. The cycle will repeat itself once and again. Believe, making the decision will be difficult, forgetting him will be painful, but not as painful as going through his stupid whims. Be strong, lady!