Age gap.
Posted by Anon E. Mouse in Love on Dec 13th, 2010 | 11 commentsAbout a week ago I started dating someone older than me. He’s 45, and I’m 18. I am an adult now, but I’m afraid to tell my parents because they don’t realize that age is mind over matter: if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. It would be different if I was younger than 18, but that isn’t the case. My mom doesn’t even like me talking to him on the phone. He is an amazing guy, but I’m still hesitant to tell my family.
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I say go for it no matter what anyone thinks. There is a large difference of age between me and my girlfriend. We are happy together. I hope this guy has had time to get stated in life as far as money goes. If not there must be a reason why. Then I would take a second look.
Yes, technically you are an adult BUT he’s too old for you. You still have a lot of life experience to gain while he’s had a chance to get all of that. Really they say the human brain doesn’t reach full maturity until 23 years old, I believe that. Also, ask yourself why is he dating someone so much younger than him…why not someone more his age…there is probably a reason for that. Usually its that his peers see a lack of maturity that someone much younger cannot see due to their lack of life experience. You may be mature for you age and all that, but take it from someone who has been there, be careful! You’re going to do what you want anyway but it is probably better to just leave this guy alone.
Hey Dear,
Take it from a girl who’s dated an older guy; you have to be really careful. I know now that he really knew what he was doing and I was taken advantage of. Your mom doesn’t want you to be unhappy, she’s looking out for you. I know it’s hard to understand right now, I know it was hard for me to understand why my parents objected to this guy, but I see now they were looking out for me. They understood things that I didn’t. I got in over my head. Another thing you need to remember is, you’re really young. Make sure you get your goals accomplished. You may want to start going out and partying with friends, I hope you get to go to college, or do a number of things, that are not accommodating to dating an older guy.The guy I dated hated when I went out with my friends and he didn’t feel comfortable going out with my friends and me. He had done a lot of things I wanted to do and wasn’t interested in doing them over. He wasn’t interested in homecoming nor did he understand nights I had to stay up studying. Also I learned, that a guy who was interested in a girl as young as me had a lot of issues. He was very unstable and very immature himself.
I understand that he may be a great guy and you may like him a lot. However, if there’s a reason you’re hesitant to tell your family about him, that’s a red flag and maybe you should re-evaluate things. Please don’t think I’m judging you at all because I’ve been where you are. I hope the best for you. Always remember that you deserve everything you want from your partner and if he or she isn’t delivering , be sure to take a critical look at what’s going on in your life. You deserve to be happy. I hope that you don’t go through anything I did. Please do be careful and I hope the best for you and your situation.
he’s married, won’t leave his wife for you, all he wants is some hot young *****, after he gets you knocked up you won’t ever see or hear from him again, save your parents a lot of problems and find somebody your own age.
I understand that you are an adult, but there is a huge age difference between the two of you. You may feel like you are on top of the world now, but you will evolve as a person and change with time. You will not be the same person that you are now at ages 25, 35, etc., Your mom is looking out for you.
lmfao by the time youre his age hes gonna be dead or in a nursing home. duh.
I am 17 years older then my gf. We met at work when she had just graduated college. I left to go to another job and we got to be friends. She asked me out, she had a ticket and the person who was going with her suddenly had something else to do. After that I asked her out, and we have been dating ever since. We like the same things. I met her parents. They were great. I look younger then my age. When they found out our age difference they were 180 degrees out. They tried to break us up. Invited her out but not me. She told them that if they wanted to have a relationship with her they had to accept me. We have been together 2 years. She moved into my apartment a month ago. We invited her parents over to tell them we are engaged to marry in 6 months. They are going to be the problem in our relationship, but we are in love. Truly soul mates. You are right I may die years before someone who is her age. But then again no one knows, anything can happen. I think that living for today is the answer. Take the best of what there is today and accept tomorrow when it comes.
Well Gene, you and your girl have a choice to make. Some will except it and some will not. Take to her. I am sure that you will get some disapproval from some people that know both of you. Decide what both of you are going to come back with to those people. Some people will stay friends, some will not. BTW I am 36 years younger then my girl. We still have many friends. Now many will ask what we have in common. A lot believe it or not. We are happy together and that is what matters most.
Age is relative, but please believe me when I tell you that this age gap is too big. You are nothing more than a fling to him. He will break your heart and teach you a very valuable lesson. Please learn from it.
Please leave him. Forget about him. You relize he is more than twice your age right? He does not love you. He is only after a young ****.
Do not tell your parents. It will break their hearts and it should. Because it is wrong. I don’t care if you are an “adult”.
Find someone your own age, or at least closer.
Let’s look forward about 20 years here
he is 65
you are 38
are you really still gonna be with him? people will think he’s your dad.