RSSA girl inlove with a woman
Ok so heres the deal, i’m 15 and she’s 21/22.Crazy huh…
So everysince i met her, i’ve started having these strange feelings towards her, that i never felt before.
When i was 13, i started having strange feelings toward other girls and every since then i’ve tried to hide it. I was doing great, until she came into my life.
Now it’s hard for me because i really like this person and may actual be inlove, but can’t tell her because i don’t want her to think i’m some kind of an idiot. She doesn’t even know that i’m not straight, so what do you think her reaction would be if i told her i liked, liked her? it wouldn’t be good. that’s not the only problem, She’s straight. How am i suppose to hide my feelings from her when i’m always around her? Also if you know about the bible, then you’d probably know that a girl and a girl and a guy and a guy being together goes against gods word. She happens to be a christian who follows gods word and right now, i’m currently learning about the bible so then that way i could become a christian, but my heart is getting in the way. What should i do, Follow my heart or Don’t follow my heart and keep it to myself? Man can my life get any more complicated.
671Teen Islander on November 16th 2007 in Love
Oh, Please said on 16 Nov 2007 at 11:24 pm # Quote
First of all it’s God with a capital G or else you are disrespecting Him.
Why don’t you ask her to pray for help for you?
saffy_sweet said on 17 Nov 2007 at 8:31 am # Quote
ok, that other person wasnt very helpful
this girl has a problem, correcting her spelling wont help (though i usually do that myself lol but at least i know when)
the bible also says that god will accept relationships if they are real and loving, not just for fun (basically that anyway
but before you go jumping in, i would really consider hard if you actually like her, because when i was about your age i thought i was in love with someone but it just turned out to be an obession because when i went college i forgot him really quickly, and that was how i knew it wasnt love
i dont know what country youre in, but try and find a book called ‘oranges are not the only fruit’ by jeanette winterson for a story about religion and so-called “wrong” relationships
i hope everything turns out alright =]
You could said on 17 Nov 2007 at 1:04 pm # Quote
When you spell God with a small g you are referring to an idol!
671Teen islander said on 17 Nov 2007 at 7:24 pm # Quote
Saffy_sweet, thankx alot…i will find that book and i have thought long and hard about the situation, and i may actual be inlove.
An to the other two, I’m sorry about Spellig God with a lowercase letter, i was sort of in a rush.
saffy_sweet said on 18 Nov 2007 at 12:37 am # Quote
You could said:
oh my god what is it with people on here, typing god with a small g just means you cant be bothered to turn on caps lock for one friggin letter, people are using this site to confess to how they feel not to have their spelling checked!!!
if you believe in any kind of god, good for you, you have faith, call the god them,it,him,she, whatever the hell you like but dont correct what other people put!!
Observer said on 18 Nov 2007 at 11:10 am # Quote
After reading all of the above I’m sadden by the reality that we Christians make a fool of ourselves too many times in public on public forums such as this by focusing on non essential details such as the one above.
Instaead, this is an opportunity for us to be the best that we can be according to the way our Lord, Jesus wants us to be.
My answer to the girl with the emotional dilemma is to seek out the root of why this woman is purposefully following the Word of God. You’re right about the relationships that God intends between a man and a woman, but there’s so much more to life then the just God’s commands. There’s joy, peace of mind, not to mention a passion to use the many gifts and abilities he’s created you with. It seems that this person your admiring has begun to experience this in her life, why not seek it out for yourself. That’s the desire that God has placed in you when he says “..seek and ye shall find..” All the best!
D. said on 22 Nov 2007 at 9:48 am # Quote
It’s sad to read that things are difficult for you. I myself had thoughts about whether I’m straight or not when I was in my early teens, but mostly because I couldn’t find any decent guy I’d like.
But that’s sorta beside the point here, of course. Well, I’ve found some nice guys later on and been happy with them, though relationships haven’t sadly lasted for too long. But lately, when I had some alcohol with few of my friends, I got a bit too drunk and ended up kissing a girl I had befriended quite recently. Everyone, included me, was quite shocked, but not in a negative kinda way. (Boys tend to have “a thing” about lesbians for some odd reason…:P)
Well, all of us kept it a secret from others, because it was just something that happened while we had been drinking and I didn’t think she needed that kind of a new beginning in a new town while finding new friends and possibly a new boyfriends as well.
I’ve come to realise that most likely I’m just bisexual, which is perfectly OK by me and luckily my friends don’t have problems with toleration towards things different to them. For a while I felt a bit in love towards her though and we’ve kissed a bit more since. But now she’s with someone and I prefer not to kiss her any more (though I’d still like that, it was really sweet…).
Well, that wasn’t helpful at all, yeah. But I just wanted to hint that I might have a vague clue about what you might go through.
About that woman you really like… I believe that when she’s straight, there’s no way you could be with her, as sad as it is, and as she’s a Christian (who tend to be a “bit” old fashioned about things and too literal about the bible) she might not even try to understand…
What you could do, is seemingly randomly start to talk about lesbians and other stuff like that just to find out what she thinks about them. If she hates them or something, then it’s hard to change her mind, though you may try, if you believe you could. But certainly that wouldn’t happen in one evening. If she doesn’t have anything against them, then you at least have a tiny chance. And, I guess even if it’s not true, it might be better to hint about bisexuality than to homosexuality. But, well, I don’t know you nor her, so I can’t be of any real help.
s said on 23 Nov 2007 at 3:21 pm # Quote
do you like her…
evrey thing possible about her?
qulites?
perssanaliteys?
chocies?
addictions?
and way more!
if so can you devote your self and your time to her? can you perswayed her?
do you realy truly love her?