RSS6 yrs, no proposal ;(
After six years he has not proposed. All I get is words and no action. He about us getting married years now but never proposes. Every night I lie in my bed and cry myself to sleep because this man that I love unconditionally and want to spend the rest of my life with, he just cannot seem to make a commitment and get engaged to me. It’s on my mind all day everyday. I feel like inside my heart is empty. I can’t put it out of my mind that he will leave me and go for someone else eventually that’s why he wouldn’t commit. And that is a definite possibility because his mother hates me even though I have been the best girlfriend for the past 6 years. I can’t even talk to him about us and a future because he knows, my friends and family knows, everybody knows I want to be engaged and I will feel like I am pressuring him if I tell him how I feel. But after 6 wonderful, dedicated years, I feel to leave him since he cannot commit further to me. He is my world and my world is causing me so much hurt and pain inside and I can’t even tell him.
Mandy on March 12th 2008 in Love
Old Smurf said on 12 Mar 2008 at 11:15 am # Quote
I hate to tell you this; even if he does marry you at this point there will be no commitment. You fulfill all of the needs he has and ever will have, and just because he puts a ring on your finger will not change the pattern of the relationship you have already built. You should move on or be content with the level of commitment he has already shown you. I’m sorry and good luck!
Jo said on 17 Mar 2008 at 1:03 pm # Quote
Why dont you ask him 2 marry you? if he says no then u no were u stand but if he says yes u have got everything u wanted! hope it works out
Mrs. F said on 18 Mar 2008 at 10:02 am # Quote
I dated my husband for 6 years before we got married. We were in college and he was waiting for the “right time” after graduation. I wish you the best and I understand how you feel. I almost gave up on my husband too. Maybe the hold up has more to do with his fears of not being right for you. If he won’t commit walk away while you still have some youth left.
Someone said on 18 Mar 2008 at 5:43 pm # Quote
what kind of a man is he??? is he really a man or a coward who has no plans of whatsoever WITH YOU. listen to yourself, you’re crying! don’t know if he’ll propose to you or not! don’t wait for another year or more years to come and find out he has no plans for you! do your part! ask him. talk to him straight. then, make decisions both of you how this relationship will go.
FACE REALITY said on 31 Mar 2008 at 9:39 am # Quote
look i dont know you but ill tell you this much 6 years no commitment means simply hes not ready and or doesnt want he was talking out his ass filling ur head with shit a mother yes plays a big part in a man’s life but 6 years is ridiculous and if you dont have children with this man who ur calling ur world that should make it all the easier to leave you ever heard of the saying be careful what you wish for or you just might get it well maybe i dont know there i a reason he isnt popping the question and you want to be stirring up calm waters dont go looking for something that might not work out for you 6 years should be the sign for you to leave men dont know what they have until its gone while you harassing yourself trying to be a good companion he still lives on carries on and doesnt even notice what ur feeling
Princess Starbucks said on 02 Apr 2008 at 1:29 am # Quote
Ever heard the saying” you don’t know what you have till its gone”? Maybe that is what it would take for him to realize and appreciate what he had and if he doesn’t come crawling back to you, then you know that he checked out of that relationship long ago without having the balls to tell you so. Good Luck!
married prerson said on 06 Apr 2008 at 2:01 pm # Quote
…If you’re trying to guess why&when then it’s not meant to be.
When you know you’re in love and committed, you’re already confident that you’ll be married to each other because you’re both..COMUNICATING!
…six years loss is better than 12 years together in marriage and unfulfillment.
Just make sure he wasn’t waiting to pay off the ring before proposing and you got too impatient!
Anonymous said on 10 Apr 2008 at 7:04 pm # Quote
Ask yourself if - aside from a ring and a piece of paper - YOU are getting everything you need emotionally/romantically/so on from him.
Does he make you happy? Is he there for you? Do you have fun together? Does he treat you well? If you answered yes to those questions, then what does a ring and a piece of paper have to do with you being happy? I’m married - and let me tell you that the piece of paper and ring DO NOT make our relationship. Hard work, communication, love, and compromise make it.
The ring and paper = tax write offs and benefits under insurance and so forth. Yes, it was also a romantic gesture - I won’t lie. If you really want to be with this man because of what he is, then be with him. If what you are looking for is a piece of paper stating that you own each other, maybe you need to reassess your relationship. If all you want is to plan a big fancy wedding - you have delusions of grandeur. Marriage is what takes place after all of the lace and frill. And lets not forget that he’ll legally get half of all possessions and monetary assets if your piece of paper gets ruled out by another one labeled DIVORCE.
If you truly love him, ask him (don’t whine at him or berate him) calmly why he doesn’t ask you to marry him. Calm his worries about why you are asking him this - it is a romantic gesture and a tax write off! lol. Those people were right however, if there is something wrong in your relationship aside from your obsession with marriage then you do deserve to know now rather than wasting more of your life with someone who may not be able to commit to you fully. But just because he won’t marry you doesn’t mean that he isn’t committed.