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I’m a Junior in high school, and I dated this guy, let’s call him Bob, in freshman year for about a month. We only wen’t on about 4 dates and there was no real connection since we didn’t have any communication so we broke up. We didn’t really speak for the next two years because we didn’t have any classes together. This year, about a week into the school year, he commented my facebook with a cute video. After that, we started talking more and more, and since we had about 4 classes together this time, we teased each other, talked to each other, laughed and just had fun. I only thought of him as a friend, but I knew that deep inside, I kind of liked him again and I felt that I actually had a connection with him. I’ve heard from friends that he had a crush on one of my very good friends, let’s call her Susan, and was even going to try to break her up from her boyfriend at that time. I didn’t really care because I didn’t know that I liked him then. But today, after school, I stayed at school with him, Susan, and some of my other friends. We were having a great time when him and Susan left us to go “talk.” The others and I jokingly bet that they were doing inappropriate things and whatnot, and I was joking with them. I kept a smile on my face, but when they left, I knew he was going to ask her out, since she didn’t have a boyfriend anymore. I found out later that evening that they were officially a couple, but he texted me saying “hey baby.” (it’s an inside joke). I noticed that the conversation was different this time like “you can’t flirt with me anymore” and “let’s try to keep our cordial dignity alright?” It may not seem like much, but I was CRUSHED! I knew our friendship would change, but I felt like it was too drastic. I couldn’t even respond and I couldn’t focus on my homework all night which is why I’m writing this. I’m really happy for him and Susan because they’re really cute with each other, but at the same time, I wish that something would happen so that they would break up. Although our last relationship ended in failure, I wanted to try again with him. I don’t know what to do, and I feel so icky inside. I know our relationship is going to change at school and I know I won’t be able to laugh with him like I used to. I don’t want to say something I regret around Susan or him so I’m going to keep on congratulating them while I watch them from the sidelines, with jealousy and regret.
Anonymous on October 19th 2007 in Jealousy
Miss Confused said on 24 Oct 2007 at 3:55 am # Quote
know what men like? to know they cant have you. Next time he sends a text, tell him “no biggie” and forget him. make sure to leave something to be desired though, give him an extra look every now and then, always look your best and be the girl he wants, so when little suzy q is out of the picture, you will be the one he lusts for. maintain his friendship, but keep distant so he craves your every being.
Mr Date Doctor said on 13 Feb 2008 at 6:23 am # Quote
dear, remember that boys are more honest than girls, i’m a boy myself, if he likes u, he wont think anything else. you can burn his ass and make him so jealous but this turnes out to work versus.
Em said on 06 Mar 2008 at 3:50 am # Quote
Something like this (actually, erase that something) happened to me.
We are a little group, who hung together - my best friend and I and two guys. I secretly liked one of the guys (lets call him T), but no one knew because 1) my friend and I had a silent agreement, they were of limit and 2) the other guy (called E), who is T’s best friend, liked me and we all knew. Months passed, I told E of and he moved on. But I never said anything.
Then it turned out T liked my best friend and they started dating. I considered breaking them up. I could have, if I had told my best friend right there, I liked him. But I knew he wouldn’t ever like me (it was kind of a love at first sight thing for him) so I decided to wait and see.
They’re still together now 1½ years later.
My friendship with T is still existant, though not as close anymore. To this day, no one knows I ever liked T.
What I’m trying to say is really: Firgure out if there is a possibility he likes you as more than a friend. Figure out what your and the girls friendship means to you and what his friendship means to you.
Then figure out if you’re prepared to lose both if it turns out wrong and possibly hurt both of them in the doing.
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I’m not telling you not to go for it. I would have liked to have known what life would have been like if I had.
But be sure you’re ready to risk it all, before you do something.
Phoebe said on 20 Apr 2008 at 4:12 pm # Quote
This happened in year 8, I had exactlly the same problem,(lets call him greg) but after we broke up I still liked greg for 2 years after, then greg became a jerk, it was like he was a whole different person, so I went out with his best friend (ryan) and I realised that the greg was a waste of time and I eventually got over him. Ryan and I broke up, but it helped me realise that all girls first bfs arnt going to be their future husbands and they deserve someone better,
Nothing cute said on 02 Oct 2008 at 12:26 am # Quote
So he’s gone think about all the other guys out there. There will be a guy for u out there and maybe that guy for you is way better than ‘BOB.’